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Drop the Fatitude and Get a Winning Attitude!

Change Your Thoughts to Win the Weight-Loss Game

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Symptom #2 of a Fatitude Problem: The All-or-Nothing Game
Do you frequently find yourself thinking that, since you’ve already “blown your diet" for today, you might as well keep on eating and start over tomorrow (or next week or next month)? Is it hard to get yourself to exercise because it takes so much time and effort to burn such a relatively few calories? Do you find yourself going overboard with severe calorie reductions and excessive exercise just to speed things up? Do you feel unmotivated when you think about how far you have to go to get to your goal weight and how long it’s going to take you? Sounds like a Fatitude problem to me!

There are many ways that all-or-nothing thinking can sabotage your chances for weight-loss success. But the fact is that perfectionism and the desire for instant gratification are very likely two of the problems that helped you become overweight in the first place, and they definitely aren’t going to help you change your lifestyle now. No one gets it right all the time; you’re not going to achieve success without paying your dues. Expecting things to be different for you is a one-way ticket to frustration, loss of motivation, and failure.

The Winning Attitude: You create success by doing the best you can with the individual decision or task that’s right in front of you at this moment. Nothing else really matters. All you can ever do is the best you can with what’s in front of you right now—everything else is history or fantasy. You’ll get where you want to go as long as you take more steps in the right direction than the wrong one. 
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Symptom #3 of a Fatitude Problem: The Helpless Victim Story
Do you often feel like something beyond your control dictates your eating and exercise choices? Do you think that you’re unable to resist certain foods or that other people are sabotaging your efforts by constantly putting temptations in your path? Do you find it hard to find time for healthy cooking and exercise because of all the demands on your time and energy from work, family responsibilities, and other priorities? Fatitude, again!

There’s no doubt that eating well and exercising regularly takes time and effort. But there’s also no doubt that everyone gets the same 24 hours in the day, and that everyone has many other responsibilities to contend with, too. Many of these same people manage to be successful at weight loss and healthy living anyway. The difference between success and failure is often in your expectations and the language you use to think and talk about the practical problems you face. The more you view your own behavior or decisions as being dictated by other people or circumstances, the more you give up the power to make your own decisions. The longer you wait for other people to change their ways to make things easier for you, the longer it will take you to reach your goals.
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Dean Anderson Dean Anderson
Dean Anderson has master's degrees in human services (behavioral psychology/stress management) and liberal studies. His interest in healthy living began at the age of 50 when he confronted his own morbid obesity and health issues. He joined SparkPeople and lost 150 pounds and regained his health. Dean has earned a personal training certification from ACE and received training as a lifestyle and weight management consultant. See all of Dean's articles.

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  • BLUEBIRD125
    Thanks for article. Needed to read that😊 Very helpful and motivating. - 7/28/2014 8:46:21 AM
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  • From Jimini: Hi Dean, haven't seen anything from you in quite a while! Last time I noticed anything of yours was when you were considering EST. Probably not the best idea you ever had - but I was hoping that you would try it and I could 'ride on your coat tails' and learn more about it. I am an expert in negative talk - I see no likely end to this, so I guess I will just muddle on.
    Congratulations on your advanced degrees and continued good advice. If you can find the time to write more for us, I see that I am not the only one who appreciates your work! Thanx. - 2/13/2013 9:42:18 PM
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  • MARIEANGELE06
    Thanks for the article. I needed to read that again and again.. - 2/13/2013 10:07:36 AM
  • Very good article.... Food cannot control me! I really have to work on a good attitude and no negative self talk - 2/13/2013 9:45:16 AM
  • Exactly what I needed to hear today and right on the money- Thank you! - 2/13/2013 9:15:09 AM
  • Please read this article! It is wonderful! - 2/13/2013 6:28:21 AM
  • Nice tips - not sure about the word Fatitude - sounds a little pathological and not too positive. How about having a Slimitude? Or a Slenderitude. Or even better: a Sizzlin' Hotitude :-) - 2/13/2013 5:16:57 AM

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