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Drop the Fatitude and Get a Winning Attitude!

Change Your Thoughts to Win the Weight-Loss Game

-- By Dean Anderson, Behavioral Psychology Expert
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Many of us, however, have to really work at getting and keeping ourselves in that positive, forward-moving frame of mind. In fact, transforming our “fatitudes” into winning attitudes may be the single most important thing we need to do to successfully lose weight and keep it off.

How do you know if you have a fatitude problem? Here are three very common patterns that may indicate you have a fatitude problem that needs help stat!

Symptom #1 of a Fatitude Problem: The Drama Queen/King Syndrome
Do you tend to panic every time you have a "bad eating" day? Does going over your calorie goal or missing an exercise session make you feel guilty, as if you’ve done something morally wrong? Does eating something on your forbidden list trigger that negative voice in your head that says you’re too stupid, weak, or messed up to resist a temptation? When you see a number you don’t like on your scale, do you feel like nothing you do is ever going to make a difference, so you might as well give up now and start stuffing yourself with your favorite comfort food? This, my friend, is all Fatitude!

You don’t have to get upset about every little thing that goes wrong. There will always be problems to contend with, but you can choose how you react to them. When you start feeling upset, ask yourself what good it’s going to do to get upset about this particular problem. When you realize that all that drama saps your motivation and prevents you from using your mistakes as learning experiences and opportunities to make constructive changes, you can choose to stop the drama and adopt a more productive attitude.

The Winning Attitude: If you never have problems, you’ll never have any successes. You’re in the business of changing your lifestyle, and finding solutions that work for you will take a lot of trial and error. Your problem areas and setbacks can become valuable opportunities—if you let them. So ditch the drama and the negative self-talk, and replace it with a little open-minded curiosity. What was going on when this problem happened (in your environment and in your mind)? How is that different from what goes on when you don’t have the problem? What about your environment (or your thinking) can you change to make it easier to avoid this problem next time? 
Helpful Tool: Journaling can be a key to your success!
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Dean Anderson Dean Anderson
Dean Anderson has master's degrees in human services (behavioral psychology/stress management) and liberal studies. His interest in healthy living began at the age of 50 when he confronted his own morbid obesity and health issues. He joined SparkPeople and lost 150 pounds and regained his health. Dean has earned a personal training certification from ACE and received training as a lifestyle and weight management consultant. See all of Dean's articles.

Member Comments

  • BONET72
    Thank you for that I needed to see this in black and white on print to motivate me .Thank you again - 6/26/2014 12:54:47 PM
  • This is an excellent article to a point: I despise the Polyanna-type-che
    erleader attitude which you seem to be promoting - it seems more than fake. I believe that you CAN change a negative attitude into positive attitude without going over the top; fortunately, there is a lot of help here at SP to do just that. Thanks for a good-ish article, and for all your other good ones. - 11/14/2013 3:47:53 PM
  • Thank you very much. I find you're Article very helpful and motivating. - 11/14/2013 1:37:54 AM
  • CWEBER241
    Iam new at this so I am looking forward to loosing the weight with all of you. - 4/15/2013 5:30:00 PM
  • woh ,i love this ,i think i am going to share this with my friend . - 2/14/2013 12:04:55 AM
  • From Jimini: Hi Dean, haven't seen anything from you in quite a while! Last time I noticed anything of yours was when you were considering EST. Probably not the best idea you ever had - but I was hoping that you would try it and I could 'ride on your coat tails' and learn more about it. I am an expert in negative talk - I see no likely end to this, so I guess I will just muddle on.
    Congratulations on your advanced degrees and continued good advice. If you can find the time to write more for us, I see that I am not the only one who appreciates your work! Thanx. - 2/13/2013 9:42:18 PM
  • this arti cle goes to the saved column - Thanks
    - 2/13/2013 12:59:22 PM
  • MARIEANGELE06
    Thanks for the article. I needed to read that again and again.. - 2/13/2013 10:07:36 AM
  • Very good article.... Food cannot control me! I really have to work on a good attitude and no negative self talk - 2/13/2013 9:45:16 AM
  • Exactly what I needed to hear today and right on the money- Thank you! - 2/13/2013 9:15:09 AM
  • Please read this article! It is wonderful! - 2/13/2013 6:28:21 AM
  • Nice tips - not sure about the word Fatitude - sounds a little pathological and not too positive. How about having a Slimitude? Or a Slenderitude. Or even better: a Sizzlin' Hotitude :-) - 2/13/2013 5:16:57 AM
  • Def needed to read that! - 12/26/2012 11:17:06 AM
  • The author had some great Idea's but the constant use of the word "fatitude" was annoying and demeaning. - 11/29/2012 9:38:22 AM
  • This article has "Kay" written all over it!! I have a fatitude...that's why I'm here. Great article!! - 11/25/2012 3:24:09 AM