Things That Don't Suck about Getting Older


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Yesterday was a pivotal day. I said goodbye to being a 20-something and today I woke up as a 30-year-old woman. 
I don't really feel different, but I also kind of do. Maybe because when I was growing up, 30 seemed so old (certainly I don't feel that way now). It also seemed so "grown up" when I was a kid, a teen, and a college student.  Turning 30 has been on my mind a lot these past few weeks.
My dad, now nearing 60, has always told me that mentally, he doesn't feel any different now than when he was 25; it's only our bodies that show and feel our age. I think I understand that more and more as I get older. Each passing year, whether it's New Year's Day, a birthday or an anniversary, is a chance to reflect, regroup and refocus. You can choose to change or start fresh. But no matter what, these life events remind me that I need to appreciate the passage of time more than I do. It goes SO fast, and I can say for certain that every year I get older, time seems to fly by even faster than it did the year before.
Everyone who is older than me says that life get better with age. But I'll be honest: I sometimes have trouble seeing the upside of things. When my husband threw me a surprise party last weekend to celebrate, I felt sad about all the people who didn't come instead of being happy to mingle with those who did. And now that I'm another calendar year older, I can't help but think of all the things I haven't done—rather than recollecting all of my accomplishments to date. And then there's the big elephant in the room: babies! I thought that by 30 I'd feel ready (I do want kids), but I don't feel any more "ready" than when I was 22. I guess that only shows how little I really knew when I was younger!
Of course, even a glass-half-empty girl 30-year-old like me knows that it's not all bad. I mean, personally, I've always looked way younger than my age, so I'm actually hoping I look old enough to be perceived as a person with experience and credibility. (When I first joined the SparkPeople staff at age 22, my boss thought no one would take me seriously as a fitness expert because I looked, in his words, "15 years old.")  But there are even things about your body, your mind and your life in general that get better as you get older. So to celebrate each day you wake up alive, and each year that passes—and you're still here living it—here's a big list of things to look forward to as you get older (as told by SparkPeople members!).
  1. You're wiser.
  2. You know who you are as a person better than ever.
  3. Insurance discounts!  
  4. You are more secure and confident than when you were younger.
  5. You better appreciate life and the people around you. You don't take anything for granted.
  6. Being carded is a compliment.
  7. You have stronger resolve.
  8. There's still plenty of time to try new things.
  9. You worry less about what everyone else thinks of you and focus more on doing what makes YOU happy.
  10. Love.
  11. Relationships.
  12. Sex.
  13. You're still on this side of the ground!
  14. You can spot "BS" much quicker—and you're less willing to take it.
  15. You see the bigger picture.
  16. You take better care of yourself physically and emotionally.
  17. People take you more seriously.
  18. You run faster. (This is actually true, especially for women whose speeds peak between 35 and 39.)
  19. Senior discounts.
  20. You have found yourself.
  21. You know there is so much more to come.
  22. You get smarter!
  23. You worry less about silly things.
  24. You discover your inner strength.
  25. You're more likely to try new things.
  26. Everything makes more sense.
  27. Having kids. Being a mom/dad.
  28. Having grandkids. Being a grandparent.
  29. In a hostage situation, you are likely to be released first.
  30. You are better able to learn from past mistakes and grow from them.
  31. You're more likely to stand up for yourself.
  32. Perspective.
  33. You know how to work smarter, not harder.
  34. Your earning potential increases the longer you are in your profession.
  35. New doors continue to open.
  36. Your attitude and gratitude.
  37. You care more about having your style than being in style.
  38. Making a life becomes more important than having a life.
  39. You get more relaxed about getting older.
When I was younger, I thought I'd have everything "figured out" by the time I was 30. Now I know that's not true; but I do expect that I'll figure more things out each passing day. I also know and fully believe that getting older can be great when you take care of yourself nutritionally, physically and mentally. When you are healthy, you can slow down the effects of time—and get more out of each passing year.
"Do not regret getting older. It is a privilege denied to many." -- Unknown
Let us all embrace our ages and be grateful to be alive another day!
Do you think that everything gets better with age? What do you think is the best part about getting older? 

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  • 160
    Ha - In a hostage situation, you're more likely to be released first. Now THAT is something I never thought of. - 12/26/2016   11:40:58 AM
  • 159
    I can remember thinking that thirty was old when I was fifteen! Now, it seems so young! Our youngest will be 35 on her next birthday! - 12/26/2016   8:55:50 AM
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    I'm 54 and you are not old at 30. I have children older then 30! At my age I don't have daily child care to worry about but I still get to enjoy my grandchildren. I can enjoy them and send them home. - 12/26/2016   3:11:04 AM
    I'll be 60 this year. And I'm so excited!!!!! I think this is a good time of my life with the best time to come!! - 3/8/2016   2:58:10 PM
    All of this is good to a point. At 68, I can't think what might get any better really. It all seems to be going south now.....I'm still confused, no wiser than I have ever been, and wishing I was 30 again. Well, maybe 40. - 3/6/2016   11:13:15 PM
    I often joke that I'd heard that metabolism drops when you turn 30 but I didn't realize that they meant THAT DAY! As to the trepidation for having kids, it sure worked for me. And it's really the only way to enjoy #28--which I can attest is really great! - 3/6/2016   6:53:18 AM
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    You can spot "BS" much quicker—and you're less willing to take it so True! - 3/5/2016   5:57:37 PM
  • 153
    I'm 62. I never found myself. - 3/5/2016   3:11:54 PM
  • 152
    I'm gonna be 55 this month, My kid reminds me I should celebrate afterall I am now eligible for senior discounts :-/

    I remember when I turned 30 sex suddenly went from Good to WOW . HAHA.
    I am at the point where I am no longer tolerant of BS and I see it coming from 50 feet.
    I don't care anymore
    I know whats important Now.
    I have Wisdom and Hair Glitter.. HA! - 3/5/2016   2:55:45 PM
  • 151
    lmbo at #29!!! =D
    as a 40 something, what i personally enjoy the most so far is how i've learned to look inwardly. not sure how to explain it. i don't care what others think of me because i know who i am and i love myself. when you have confidence in yourself and you know your own heart, no one can bring you down. in my teens and 20s i was very affected by others. my 30s is where that slowly began to change. have fun!! =) - 3/5/2016   2:33:01 PM
  • 150
    Happy Birthday enjoy being 30
    I have yet to get up set over a Birthday number and I have had 66 of the hard ones for me were the first i had after losing a parent . - 3/5/2016   1:50:27 PM
    i'm a couple years late on the 30th birthday wish, but want to say you are a mini-me. I had the same thoughts when I was your age and still don't feel all that much older. Don't worry, things will all come in their own time and fall into place. I found the love of my life when I was in my early 60's. Go figure. We will be married 9 years this coming October and it has been sheer joy. By the way, I don't really go by calendar years. He's 15 years younger and a wonderful man. I love the #14--the part about being able to spot "BS" quicker and not taking it. That's my mantra in life. LOL. - 3/5/2016   1:20:56 PM
  • 148
    Number 9 is the biggie - the older I get, the less I worry about what people think of me. I don't have time for that anymore!

    Personally, if I could go back in age I wouldn't want to go much younger than 40. - 3/5/2016   12:34:38 PM
  • 147
    I, too, had to laugh at Nicole thinking 30 was old! I am 70 and when I realize that my Grandmother lived to be 107, I still have 30 years+ left so being 30 was still a very young lady! Yes, I have some health limitations, and occasional aches and pains from arthritis slow me down a little - but I really think that "old" is a number that you put in your head. I refuse to get "OLD"!!!
    - 3/5/2016   10:17:22 AM
  • 146
    I think this is an excellent post. I wish an older Spark person (I am 59, so to me older is going to be someone 65 years or older). Reading about how turning 30 was deemed getting older kind of made me giggle. Not demeaning the massive emotional, social and mental changes one deals with as they realize they are no longer a "young adult", more just a comment as to how it reads to someone at my point in life. Gosh, my brain hadn't even started fully functioning until about 34! - 3/5/2016   10:00:02 AM
  • 145
    Happy Birthday Nicole, you have a great attitude. I wish I felt so positive about getting older but for me so far its been a drag! - 1/29/2015   5:36:09 PM
    When you get to a certain age being carded is no longer a compliment, it's just silly. - 10/4/2014   9:50:52 AM
  • 143
    This is an excellent post! I am turning 27 this year and I cannot believe all the things I thought I would have accomplished by now. But I know that I have plenty of time in my life and to focus on the good! Great post! Even the hostage situation I was like, what? Lol! - 3/17/2014   10:46:58 AM
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    You are still young I started changing my view point at 60 then other things become more important got off the fast lane and after each year a slower lane Look feel understand whats important more - 11/25/2013   9:49:06 AM
    I used to get insulted when people thought I was younger than I really am. But now that I'm 42, it doesn't bother me when people think I'm 32 or even 25 for that matter!!

    I agree with the writer, I basically thought it was an insult on my experience. It felt like no one takes me seriously. - 10/15/2012   2:58:24 PM
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    Oops! Well, I'm just proud to be the last to wish you a Happy Birthday 2012, Nik, so, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! Birthday advice? Sure! You've done well, Nik, and the good news is ... it only gets better! Congratulations and Godspeed!

    ~Ron - 10/7/2012   2:09:14 PM
  • 139
    Happy Belated Birthday!! It DOES get better as you get older. At 55, I never imagined I'd be running marathons or half marathons, cycling 100 miles in a day, lifting the same weight as women 20 or 30 years younger. I may wake up cranky on some days, but I have a deep appreciation and thrill that I get to wake up and celebrate another fabulous day. Enjoy and love them all! - 10/5/2012   3:28:30 PM
    Happy birthday, Nicole!
    I have two things to say about your entry- my grandfather died at 84, and a week before he died, he said to my uncle, "I never thought I would die this young." That's really stuck with me in so many ways.
    2nd- you are never ready to have kids, even if you think you are, so just do it. I had my 5th when I was 29, and a friend of mine had her 5th at age 40. We can both tell you the pregnancies are easier when you are younger.... - 10/3/2012   5:07:57 PM
  • 137
    Happy belated birthday! This list is so spot on, especially #23, worrying about small things. I am so much more rational (I've got 10 years on you, if you don't feel rational, wait for it. It will come.) and see more things for how they really are, and what difference they actually make. - 9/29/2012   11:23:36 PM
  • 136
    Ha, I love #29 the best! I'm only 24, and yet there are times I already feel "old". To my younger sister, who is only 18, I am getting my PhD, I'm old as dirt, and my life is already nearly over! But to my mother, who is about to be an empty-nester when the aforementioned sister graduates high school, I still have practically my whole life ahead of me. It's all about perspective. =) - 9/27/2012   1:52:52 PM
  • 135
    Happy Birthday! I will be 43 in less than 2 weeks. I dreaded leaving my 30's, but honestly I love being alive, being me, being happy. I had children early in life and now I get to do what I want. My children are adults. I have grandchildren who love mema, because she plays with them. I am not the size I would like to be but I am healthy. I get healthier, more fit every day. It is time I can put me first. I still club. I love active vacations. I do look at things sometimes and say well I haven't done that....yet. :) I am happy. I look at every day as a gift, like you stated in the quote - so many never get the gift of growing older. I thank God every day he blesses me enough to wake me, giving me one more day to walk, enjoy the beauty of nature, my family, my job and even the headache I've had for 3 days. - 9/26/2012   11:58:11 AM
  • 134
    I'm turning 30 in a few weeks, too...and I'm going through all this existential, spiritual crises...thanks for the blog. List didn't help at all, but the rest of it was awesome...Oh, wait, except for the part where you worry about what you HAVEN'T accomplished yet. Um, I don't know if you've noticed, but you're sort of a big deal. =) - 9/26/2012   11:27:06 AM
  • 133
    Happy Belated b'day. My 35th was my most difficult, but I've learned to count each year as a year of blessings. Since my husband past away shortly after we both celebrated our 57th birthdays, I agree with the person who said -getting older beats the alternative. I enjoy each day the Lord gives me and am thankful for the maturity that my years have brought me. Enjoy your life to the fullest.
    - 9/26/2012   9:35:48 AM
    Growing old definately beats ite opposite, dying young. - 9/24/2012   7:22:49 AM
  • 131
    I agree with your father...I still feel like I'm in my early 20s even though I'm two decades older than that. Also, my mom was a great role model for getting older...I remember her calling me when she turned 55 years old so excited because she could now get the senior discount at Denny's! Lol. Getting older truly is a privilege. :) - 9/22/2012   7:04:09 PM
  • MIZINA730
    When my daughter turned 30 last year, she felt much the same way as Nicole. I smiled as I listened to her. It's her journey, she can feel the way she wants. :)

    What I've found is that my age doesn't bother me, it's my weight. And that's something I can do something about. My age isn't keeping me from anything. - 9/22/2012   10:30:52 AM
  • 129
    PS - nobody is EVER 'ready' to have kids, whether they think they are or not - it's another case of reality butting in. As for looking younger, it can be an advantage - when my red hair turned 'gray,' it just looked blond, which it still does and a lot of people assume I'm 10-20 yrs younger than my actual age. But regardless of whether we look or think 'old,' our bodies somehow figure it out and I can sure tell the difference physically between what I could do when I was in my 20s, 30s, even 50s, and what I can currently do so there's no fooling the body.....I guess we just have to do the best we can with whatever we've got!

    Good luck having those babies - don't wait to be ready, just do it!
    - 9/22/2012   9:09:58 AM
  • 128
    When I hear a 30-yr-old, talk about 'getting old,' it reminds me of when my son [who is now old enough to be your father!!] was about 4 yrs old and had a 'life plan' with his 4-yr-old girlfriend. They decided they would get married 'as soon as they were old enough to ride a bike' because that's when they could get paper routes and, as they informed me in all seriousness, 'you have to have a job before you can get married.' Very cute to hear 4-yr old kids talk about marriage and jobs as if they knew all about it - very cute to hear 30-yr-old kids talk about 'the advantages of getting older.'

    By the way, the 4-yr-olds never did get a paper route or get married to each other.....hmmmm, too bad because they thought they had it allllll figured out! :D
    - 9/22/2012   9:03:08 AM
  • 127
    "Getting older"? The title had me expecting something from someone who actually IS older; not a 30 yr old. - 9/21/2012   10:22:57 PM
  • 126
    Happy Birthday, Nichole! And many, MANY more!
    Ummm, I know the brain thinks you are a lot younger (mine does too!), but your hormonal system is on the downslide as far as baby-making is concerned. But have lots of fun trying! - 9/21/2012   6:53:52 PM
    HAPPY BIRTHDAY! (It's nice to know we share the same day.) And congratulations on learning so much at such a young age. You're absolutely right--growing older is wonderful. The advantages far outweigh the occasional ache, the grey hair here and there, the slower metabolism. A laugh line is a wrinkle only if you see it that way. It's really a badge of honor for enjoying life! And don't let anybody scare you--menopause is GREAT! - 9/21/2012   3:25:06 PM
  • 124
    As far as babies go.. speaking from experience you are never really ready.. Even when you plan your pregnancy like my husband and I did.. We read the books, etc., but you're never really ready until the baby is here-so you step up and roll with the punches.. I don't think we will be "ready" for No. 2 until we are in our 30's. - 9/21/2012   1:08:08 PM
  • 123
    Ha Ha - you don't feel a compelling need to buy EVERY new style of jeans - or anything else for that matter. - 9/21/2012   11:38:49 AM
  • 122
    LOL that hostage situation one was soooo random, but, well...true, I guess. :)

    Happy birthday! I'll be joining you as a new member of the thirtysomethings in less than a year... - 9/21/2012   9:33:21 AM
  • 121
    Your list is wonderful (and really hits the mark). My 30's were great (as were my 40's and my 50's) and having turned the corner at 60 ... it just keeps getting better.! - 9/20/2012   10:13:19 PM
  • 120
    When you are postmenopausal, you fight back.
    You also demand attention.
    Unless you had been rich and beautiful to begin with (and chances are you were trophy-fied or surrounded by sycophants and Yes-persons in that case) ... life changes for the post-change woman who suddenly, almost magically becomes unafraid to speak her mind.

    I have become the "little old lady in tennis shoes" activist-type (for myself, for starters, and possibly for myself only/always until I am timewise/financially somewhere above water) that I thought I never would. - 9/20/2012   8:24:07 PM
  • 119
    Happy birthday and thanks for the list. It's important to remember the good things that come with age. - 9/20/2012   8:17:11 PM
    LORDY HOW I LOVED BEING THIRTY !! Be very careful about having children although you say you want kids THINK TWICE !!Once you have them you are stuck with them for eighteen years(at least). I am 70 now and chose at an early age never to have children and have no regrets,there are wonderful people out there who do have children and I bless each and every one of them but some of us choose not to have children. I can't even remember back when I was thirty,long time ago and getting older is the pits but keeping yourself fit and fed properly really does make a difference.We have some friends further north who have always stayed slender and fit now we are being much more careful about our health Hubby has severe COPD and I have bad spinal osteoarthritis and any thing we do takes a lot more effort.Wish now we had been more careful with our diets and worked out more oh well now we do what we can.Enjoy your youth it does go fast !!HR in Oregon - 9/20/2012   7:40:33 PM
  • 117
    thismade me smile b/c it is so true. I had my life plan by age and looking at it i'm not completely on track & happy (i'm 28). Happy Birthday and more to come! - 9/20/2012   7:36:34 PM
  • 116
    Happy Birthday! I am in the best shape of my life and treat every day as a gift. Consider the alternative! - 9/20/2012   7:22:34 PM
  • 115
    Happy Birthday!!
    Wonderful timing as I just turned 28 yesterday. - 9/20/2012   6:58:27 PM
    Loved the hostage situation one. Today is my bday and I'm somewhere in my 40's. I actually have to stop and count when somebody asks me how old I am! - 9/20/2012   5:07:23 PM
  • 113
    Happy Birthday! I've been reflecting a great deal on this topic myself lately as I will turn 40 in 3 months. I realized I'm in the best shape of my life - not the lightest (but probably the healthiest), the best shape. I'm still carded. I still feel young. I have a much better idea of who I am, but still getting to know myself. I'm happy. I guess that's all that really matters.
    Hope the next 10 years are great to you! - 9/20/2012   4:49:49 PM
  • 112
    I am realizing that I can do what I think is important--and that has changed over the years! So now I live more for ME and what I want and think instead of what others think. But--I also wonder who that old lady is in the mirror cause my "head image" doesn't match my "mirror image". - 9/20/2012   4:13:51 PM
    Love this! So much is so true! - 9/20/2012   4:12:29 PM

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