A Letter to My Evil Twin


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Dear Evil Twin,

I’m writing this letter because I have a few things that I need to say to you.  Please understand that I call you my evil twin with all due respect. As a reference, I am including a picture so there is no confusion as to who I am talking to.

I wanted to write and finally tell you THANK YOU. I feel like I owe you that for teaching me so many things about myself.

First and foremost, I want to thank you for teaching me that I have the ability to change. I really didn’t think I could for a long time. So many times I settled for the way things were. I now realize that I do have the power to change. I did not have to settle for life as I had come to know it. I did not have to settle for the life I was leading for myself or my family. It was a difficult lesson that took me awhile to learn, but I did learn it and I credit you for that.

Because I learned that I can change, I also learned that I must live my life with intention. Most of the time when I lived in your body, I wasn’t intentional at all.  You see, when I lived inside your body, the only things I did by intention were eat and sleep, usually in that order. I didn’t pay any attention to what I was eating, how much I was eating or even when I was eating, for that matter. I’ve learned a great deal about being intentional with everything I do, because I’ve also learned that everything I do matters. 

Thank you for the lesson that everything I do matters and that everything I do counts. This was a great life lesson that I needed to learn. There are people watching my every move. These people may be co-workers, family, friends, but the most important eyes that are watching are those that belong to my daughters. I now know that everything I do matters to them. They are taking in everything around them. They are learning from the habits that I follow today. These are healthy habits for the most part and I owe that to you, my evil twin, for teaching me that lesson.

Another great lesson I’ve learned is about my relationship with food. I never viewed food as a fuel for my body before.  I now know so much more about what I put in my body and I owe that to you as well.  Food is now my fuel and I pay attention to everything I put in my mouth. I still enjoy what I eat, and even indulge from time to time. It is my mindset that is different now. I’ve also learned that, as a once extremely picky eater, I can be reformed.  I’ve tried more fruits, vegetables, and other foods in the last two years than I would have ever imagined.
I’ve learned what real endorphins are and I’m in love with them. As a runner, I can honestly say I’ve had that 100% natural high of the endorphin rush. That has to be one of the greatest natural feelings on the planet.  You have also helped me find my real passion.  I have the honor and privilege of helping others achieve their own goals with health and wellness.  This is a passion I would not have known had it not been for you, my evil twin, and for that I must say thank you, from the bottom of my heart. 

I truly embrace the lessons that you have taught me. I will forever be grateful to you, my evil twin. However, I don’t want you to be offended when I say you are no longer welcome in my life. I mean, you will always be a part of my life.  I can’t change that fact.  What I really mean to say is that I don’t care to 'see' you again.  You were my life for too long; I know that now. And I’ve changed, a lot.


PS – a quick note to my current and future self – I commit to maintaining this healthy lifestyle for my family, my friends and most of all, myself.

What letter would you write to your twin?

Jerome today after losing 100 pounds.

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  • 76
    Huh. How...accurate. Thing is, I have an actual twin.Yes, identical. And my sister is quite a bit heavier and is big on fat acceptance/HAES while I am not. I used to see things her way, but now the whole thing is a source of arguments with us as I didn't like being heavier and wanted to change. - 1/9/2018   11:23:45 AM
  • 75
    That's awesome! - 1/3/2018   10:32:57 AM
  • 74
    Congratulations on your weight loss. Love this - 11/27/2017   6:45:34 AM
  • 73
    Good idea. Think I will try writing a letter. - 11/26/2017   9:34:41 PM
  • 72
    Wouldn't say "Evil" just not informed self.... - 9/23/2017   12:11:12 PM
    Thanks - 9/14/2017   6:55:22 AM
  • 70
    Great job on your weight loss, Jerome. You are such an awesome inspiration. I'm thinking I'm going to write a letter to myself. What are my goals, how do I plan to achieve them, why those particular goals, etc.. Then I can review these goals, etc... periodically to see where I stand. Thank you for sharing. - 9/7/2017   12:29:43 PM
  • 69
    Very impressive! - 8/22/2017   8:25:37 PM
  • 68
    Good insight! - 6/13/2017   11:24:14 AM
  • 67
    Great letter. Living with intention is a goal I strive to achieve. - 6/2/2017   12:07:39 PM
  • 66
    Absolutely love this! - 4/25/2017   12:00:17 PM
  • 65
    Wow! I can't tell you how uplifting this is for me, especially today. I'm starting over and tweaking my fitness plan as I go. This was just the encouragement I needed. Thanks, Jerome! - 7/23/2015   12:46:47 PM
    I just happened to stumble across your blog today, and even three years later, it still hit home for me. I, too, feel I've become a new person when it comes to diet and exercise - but my finances - NEVER. However, while reading your blog, I was suddenly over come with the feeling that since I was able to change my physical health, maybe I could also change my financial health as well. Thank you for this empowering insight. - 1/17/2015   2:10:26 PM
  • 63
    I never get tired of reading your story. Great job, J-man! You have inspired many people, myself included. Thank you for inviting me to the MIH team. The team's support and encouragement changed my life! I am a runner and a triathlete because of this team. I can't thank you enough. Now, go forth and become an Iron Man - once your head heals, that is. - 8/15/2014   9:35:12 AM
  • 62
    This is a really great blog , I have been writing in my personal journal letters from my future self to my current self , Its good to see you writing a letter to your former self ! - 6/8/2014   7:16:28 PM
    Thank you for saving the day for me! I was weak and heading towards a totally getting off the wagon day until I saw this. Now I am strong! - 6/8/2014   11:43:31 AM
  • 60
    Just reading this! what a great article. Because of you, i started running 3 years ago..Thanks for your inspiration!! - 11/27/2013   10:27:34 PM
  • 59
    Wow! Your letter was very inspiring. Congratulations! - 7/5/2012   8:54:13 AM
    Congratulations and keep on keeping on! - 4/29/2012   7:09:36 PM
    Jerome, I'm new at this, but I saw your letter and made me think that you are right I have an Evil Sister, and I have to learn to CHANGE. There is a phrase that touch me "Thank you for the lesson that everything I do matters and that everything I do counts." Thank you and now I know I CAN. - 4/28/2012   7:05:49 AM
  • 56
    sorry I did not mean to post 2 x's - 4/27/2012   1:39:17 PM
  • 55
    Way to go. I joined spark people on the 10th of April & I Have lost just 2 lbs. Your message has incouraged me to get out my walking DVDs & start walking more. - 4/27/2012   1:38:47 PM
  • 54
    Great job and inspiration to those on their journey down that road. The rewards are awesome!! - 4/27/2012   7:22:37 AM
  • 53
    Awesome letter! I am at the beginning of my journey and your letter gives me inspiration that I may write a letter to myself one day. Good Luck and Keep up the Great Work! - 4/26/2012   7:38:30 PM
    Awesome blog! - 4/26/2012   6:55:24 PM
  • 51
    wow! i am new to spark peeps and your the third story i read and i can say you are truly a motivation! thanks for posting this up for all to see and read! - 4/26/2012   6:36:53 PM
  • 50
    Awesome letter... Very inspirational. - 4/25/2012   10:57:15 PM
  • 49
    WOOHOO !!
    Congrats on your success
    THANKS for sharing with us -
    your blog is very encouraging
    BLESSINGS - 4/25/2012   9:53:39 PM
  • 48
    Wow, great blog. As I am new to this site your letter to your evil twin really got my mind going. Thank you for that. And congrats! - 4/25/2012   8:11:21 PM
  • STREO2004
    powerful blog. Thanks for sharing. - 4/25/2012   3:17:59 PM
  • 46
    Look at my bro. Phew, I thought this letter was to me. LOL! #GOGETIT #BeYourOwnSuperhero - 4/25/2012   12:28:14 PM
  • 45
    Wow what a change you made congrats I'm inspired - 4/25/2012   12:14:26 PM
  • 44
    Great pep talk! I needed this! - 4/25/2012   10:38:08 AM
  • 43
    What a wonderful transformation!!! I enjoyed your blog and you pictures and I wish you a wonderful future... I'm sure you're headed in that direction!!! - 4/25/2012   9:39:07 AM
  • 42
    Great Blog! - 4/25/2012   5:01:17 AM
  • 41
    WTG , You are a blessing and an insperation to me and everyone here. I love the letter and how you shared what you had learned. Thank You so much for sharing. - 4/25/2012   4:17:45 AM
    Great blog. Thanks for the inspiration. - 4/24/2012   9:55:22 PM
  • 39
    Great blog! My evil twin definitely deserves a letter, I'll have to give it some thought, thanks for the inspiration! - 4/24/2012   7:43:23 PM
  • 38
    Congratulations! - 4/24/2012   6:30:17 PM
    What a great, inspirational letter! - 4/24/2012   3:12:18 PM
  • 36
    You're awesome!
    And great looking too:), even with that evil twin on your shoulder
    Love the post
    - 4/24/2012   1:36:37 PM
  • 35
    Dear Evil Twin,

    You SUCK! With a family history of heart disease and diabetes, you have no place tempting me with refined carbohydrates and high fat foods. I'm done with your evil ways. You cannot fool me anymore with your fake rationalizations. As Jerome said, I'm grateful for the lessons I have learned from you, but I no longer care to keep contact with you. Good-bye and good luck! - 4/24/2012   1:22:45 PM
  • 34
    Great blog! - 4/24/2012   1:05:53 PM
  • 33
    nice article. I don't have an evil twin. I have several evil parts. I am like you as they are not welcome in my life. But I do have several parts that love me and support me on the road to better physical and mental health and they are more than welcome to join me on this journey called life. - 4/24/2012   12:39:38 PM
  • 32
    Jerome: Another awesome blog!!! Thank you so much for writing this. So inspiring! - 4/24/2012   12:38:19 PM
  • 31
    I'm only 25 lbs different than my evil twin so far. I think I'll wait to post that letter until I'm closer to 100 lbs different like you. :-) - 4/24/2012   12:23:03 PM
  • 30
    Awesome accomplishment! Congrats! - 4/24/2012   11:09:47 AM
  • 29
    I love seeing that before and after pic. I thank my evil twin for helping me realize I could be better. Great blog! - 4/24/2012   10:39:36 AM
  • 28
    Wow, I can't believe how much younger you look in your after picture. Actually, take that back, I do believe it, but wow, what a difference! Congrats and love your letter to your evil twin. - 4/24/2012   10:15:08 AM
  • DIETER27
    Great blog and I love the quote ! Congratulations on your loss! Truly inspiring! Have a nice day! - 4/24/2012   10:14:18 AM

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