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Why You Should Have an Affair at the Gym

By , SparkPeople Blogger
You put on your sweatpants and baggy T-shirt. Throw your hair up into a ponytail and wipe the make-up off your face. You fill your water bottle and head to the nearest elliptical. Headphones in, you tune out the world, focusing on the show you're watching or that new song you downloaded. You set your sights on the console and the clock, watching the numbers—calories, time, and distance—tick up until you've hit your goal on one (or maybe all three). Get in and get out, that's what the gym is to you. You're not there to talk or make friends. You're just there to get through your routine and go home.

But what if I told you that going to the gym could—and should—be a little more fulfilling? The truth is that having an affair at the gym happens more than you might think. It can change your mind and your body—and how you feel about yourself. If you've been going through the motions lately, feeling uninspired or tied down, then break free from monogamy and bring the excitement back with an affair!

Am I talking about "50 Shades of Gym"? No, but I have your attention now, right? I'm referring to exercise monogamy: using the same machine, taking the same class, or doing the same strength moves day after day after day.  If this sounds like you, then it's time to cheat on your routine.
If you just lie there (in Pilates class!) waiting for it to be over, something's gotta give. If other instructors or moves are catching your eye but you've felt too scared, unfit, nervous, or intimidated to try them, it's time to cast aside your doubts and just do it. In fitness and in life, variety is what spices things up and keeps us interested and excited. Your mind loves novelty—and so does your body.
Here are 4 reasons why you should "cheat" at the gym:
  1. Mixing things up prevents boredom. While most people are creatures of habit, exercise is one of those things where variety tends to keep people coming back consistently. Sure "routine" is important. But think of routine as more of where you go and when—not exactly WHAT you have to do when you're there. I mean, you can only do a single workout DVD so many times—no matter how much you love it—before you can recite every word out of the trainers mouth and start thinking that the little joke s/he told at minute 5 is more irritating than funny. In fitness classes, instructors change up the routines all the time. That's part of the fun! You don't need a trainer or class or DVD to mix things up.  For ideas on how or what to do, use these resources:

    Habits of Fit People: Mix It Up
    Ideas to Bust Your Fitness Plateau
    3 Ways to Refresh Your Treadmill Workout
    Break Free from Your Cardio Rut
    Cross-Training 101
  2. Variety unleashes your best body. Even athletes who specialize in a single sport cross-train and use a variety of exercise types to stay in tip-top shape. Your body is a smart and efficient machine. While program #3 on the treadmill may have been challenging when you tried it the first time a few weeks ago, your body knows better. It is no longer challenged. The more you can move your body in different angles and direction and at different speeds and intensity levels, the more your body will be "shocked" and continue to respond by getting stronger, leaner and fitter. It won't have time to get used to things (think: plateau) if those things are always different.
  3. Trying new things builds your confidence. This isn't something that's just important for teenagers, as high school health class may have led us to believe. So many adults suffer from low self-esteem and confidence. While some of that can be attributed to how you feel about your weight or body shape, it comes through at work, at home, and in everything you do. In my experience, exercise is one of the most overlooked confidence-building tools. When you try new things and see yourself improving, you feel good about yourself—no matter what the scale says or what anyone else tells you. Sure, it can be intimidating at first to try that group class and feel like "the only one" who struggled or couldn't keep up. But even that experience is helpful in building your character. And if you had fun and enjoyed it, all the better. The more things you can try through exercise—whether you fail miserably at them or master them—the better you'll be at trying, failing, succeeding, learning, and feeling confident in other areas.
  4. The novelty will take your breath away. New things challenge your body in new ways—and will have you huffing and puffing, which means you are once again challenging yourself (that's a good thing) in a way that your previous workout routine may not. In fitness, you do have to consistently push yourself a little harder (faster speed, greater resistance, longer workouts) in order to continue seeing progress. So if you're a little hesitant to change things up completely, you can get your feet wet by upping the ante on your intensity.
If you're married to your routine, consider whether that commitment is really serving you and your goals. If not, give in to your wandering eye and try that Zumba class you've been spying or that rower machine that looked intriguing. When it comes to your workouts, a little cheating never hurt anyone.  In fact, it's been known to help!

Happy April Fool's Day, everyone! I hope you enjoyed the little tease and humor of this blog--all in good fun!

Read More:
4 Signs It's Time to Change Your Workout Routine
8 Reasons Why Your Workout Isn't Working

Are you guilty of a monogamous fitness relationship? When was the last time you had an affair on your routine? Did it turn out to be a good thing?

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LOL... I got the joke. Yes, Zumba is my guilty pleasure now. What's really funny is that someone I know was surprised to hear I do Zumba fitness and thought it was a little out of character for me (because I'm quiet)... made me wonder what he thought Zumba is!!! LOL. For me it's fun aerobic dancing to great music that makes me burn calories faster than walking alone.
And I broke my normal routine by attending the Hard Core class that starts right before Zumba on Saturday mornings. It's hard to get up early on a day off but I try because I know it will help me achieve my fitness goals. It was a surprise to me that I actually look forward to Hard Core because I'm not typically a floor exercise person, but after the first couple of classes I found it's not really that difficult and I actually enjoy it and miss it when I can't go.
LOL @ those with no sense of humor.

Lighten up. Report
Yes, those fitness instructors are cute... :P Report
I was mortified by the first two paragraphs of this blog until you clarified you were using it as an analogy. By that point, it wasn't cute or funny to me though I regularly enjoy your blogs. Perhaps, do a flipside blog about why people do tend to have affairs at gyms and break off with long-term relationships and marriages once they decide to get fit and their partner doesn't enjoy spending hours at the gym with them? I know two 20 year marriages ended because of this exact reason. I think for some people they really fall in love with their bodies for the first time at the gym and then correlate that with attraction to someone else. Why is it so hard for us to allow ourselves to just love ourselves? Period. End-stop. Or even realize that is what we truly are feeling? Report
Cute analogy, and it got us all reading, didn't it? Don't take it for more than it's not meant to promote marital's humor! And it's a great idea! I'm sure Nicole assumed you'd all "get it." Report
How clever! You have a wicked sense of humor! LOL! But certainly these were great points! Thanks! Report
Well that got my attention! Report
Torampaul brings up a good point, terrible analogy it conjures up am image
of someone having an affair /cheating on their spouse with someone at the gym.
and Mookball, What is wrong with being Moral or a moralist? I love you even though I don't know you, But please stop cutting on our intelligence Report
Mixing it up does keep things interesting ... at the gym of course! Report
Very interesting
The title certainly caught my attention. I think mixing things up is good too. Report
Cute article for sure, quite enjoyed it! Report
Interesting way to keep people thinking about switching routines. I liked it. Report
For all the moralists out there, don't you know metaphore when you read it? You may need English 101 more than Spinning 310. Report
Loved this blog - the tongue in cheek allusion had me laughing but even better got me planning on all the new "dates" I would make with the different options at the gym! Speed dating! LOL Report
I agree with RunnerRachel: the analogy left me feeling rather uncomfortable, but having read the article, I also agree with the basic logic. It's a good reminder that there's more than one way to do 'most anything, and searching out and trying the alternatives does keep things "new." Report
read many of your articles but this on does catch attention :) still nodding and laughing Report
My adult children have been doing the P90X and P90X2 work outs for over a year and a half, so they joined the gym so they could get variety. I certainly can understand a need for a change. LOL Report
Great writing Nicole! Report
Hiring a personal trainer at the gym is a good way to mix things up a bit.

Becca Report
Like the idea...not so much the analogy...sure it is attention grabbing. I thought it was really going to be about having an affair...dressing up...looking forward to your workouts...glad it wasn't. I don't want to workout for anyone but myself. Not interested in trying to attract anyone's attention while working out. That's ME time :)
Changing the routine periodically is a great way to stay motivated. As someone who has reached their goal weight on SP (woo hoo!) I have to find ways to keep myself interested in working out. Not just losing weight as a motivator, but getting stronger, finding ways to stay challenged, fun new workouts, keeping an exercise streak going, and chasing boredom away! Report
Definitely caught my attention with the headline.

I just wouldn't think of rotating between machines as "cheating" or "an affair" - I'm already "married" to variety. The basic length and format of my workouts doesn't change, but which cardio machine, what resistance, what speed, which weights and how much, all vary regularly. Report
Good for a chuckle. I have my affair with the great outdoors - walking outside you are always falling in love with something. Report
Loved this blog today, got my attention for sure, lol. I'm always mixing things up, trying a new class or a new cardio machine, not only does it keep your body guessing, it is fun. If I can keep my workouts fun, I have one more reason to keep pushing! Report
Very Good! Old ideas in new clothes. Not sure about the moral implications of the comparison, but it is a great attention catching strategy, and you make a very sound point. Report
I just lol'd so hard! Report
I get what you're saying, but I have to say, I don't like the analogy of having an affair or cheating. Affairs should not be promoted by giving them labels like exciting or fun. I don't take that sort of thing lightly, and I don't believe it should be used jokingly. That's just my opinion and I have my reasons for feeling that way. I'm sure many people will feel that I don't have a sense of humour, but anyone who knows me knows that's untrue. Report
I LOVE this blog today, Nicole - I am known for trying something fun and crazy. A lot of my friends will make fun of me, but in the past 2 years I've learned so much and had so much fun! Thanks for sharing! Report
Hilarious, Nicole! Thanks--you made your point! Report
My wife says I can stay home and be a fat couch potato, then she read the article and said go mix it up. Report
LOL!!! Still laughing Report
That was too funny. Report
This is a great way of looking at trying new stuff at the gym! Makes me smile and I think I will always remember your way of movating one to try new equipment!!! Thanks!!! Report
Coach Nicole, how scandalous! LOL I got a good laugh out of this one, thanks :) And now I don't feel bad about flirting with the ARC trainer behind my treadmill's back ;-) Report
Thank you. Great ideas, and I got a good laugh out of it too. :D Report
Having an actual "affair" at the gym is not a bad idea either... once you're not cheating on anyone ;-) Report
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