We're All a Work In Progress

By , SparkPeople Blogger
I will never forget the day one of the dads at school came up to me and said ''We’ve been thinking about having a fourth, especially after watching you.  You seem like you really have it together, you’re relaxed about having four kids and you just kind of go with the flow.''  I told him that was the most hilarious thing I’d ever heard in my life, because it couldn’t be further from the truth.  ''Go with the flow'' is not a term anyone who really knows me would use to describe my personality.  It made me realize that appearances are not always what they seem.  I’m the first to admit that most days, I’m just trying to keep my head above water.  I’m busy, I get stressed out easily, and I wish I could find better ways to relax.  At the end of the day, I’m doing my best, and that’s all I can ask of myself. 

I have a friend on Facebook who seems to have the most amazing life.  She lives in an exotic location, has no kids, not much responsibility, and I always read her posts and think about how her day-to-day life is totally opposite of mine.  Although I wouldn’t trade my life for anything, sometimes I wish I could trade places with her, just for a day or two.  Recently I was talking to a good friend of hers, who was telling me that she’s been struggling lately, trying to decide what to do with her life.  I was shocked, because to me, she seems so together and sure of herself.  Once again, appearances aren’t always what they seem.

It’s easy to assume that those who aren’t vocal about their weight loss struggles, or even those who have had weight loss success, have it all figured out.  Somehow, it’s easier for them than it is for those of us who can’t find a way to get started, or continue to start and then fall off track.  The truth is, almost everyone struggles at some point in their weight loss journey.  Counting calories becomes a chore.  It’s easier to sit on the couch after work instead of going to the gym.  You feel deprived of the foods you love, so you buy a pint of your favorite ice cream and eat the whole thing.  The point is, we all go through it.  Whether you know it or not, everyone has moments of weakness.  Some just choose not to share them, so from the outside it looks like they’ve unlocked the secret to eternal happiness and healthy living.  In reality, they could be struggling just as much as you.

One of the things I love about the SparkPeople Community is the support members provide each other.    It’s a place to be honest about how you’re feeling and how hard the weight loss journey can be.  Knowing others are going through the same thing or went through something similar but still succeeded can offer a sense of comfort.   The kind words and encouragement from other members can be the motivational boost you need to get back on the horse and move forward.

Don’t be afraid to share what you’re going through because sometimes, others can help.  I’m very honest about the fact that raising four kids, working and trying to find even a small amount of time for myself is very, very hard.  That doesn’t mean I don’t love my life, it just means I’m willing to admit I’m not perfect and don’t have it all figured out.  It’s okay to say ''Hey, I haven’t tracked my food in two months, my clothes don’t fit and I can’t seem to find the motivation to do anything about it.''  That doesn’t mean you’re weak.  In fact, it means you’re brave for being willing to admit it and asking for help. Asking for help is the first step toward change.  If more people were willing to do that, I think we’d realize that none of us are perfect and we all have room for improvement. 

When you reach your weight loss goal (which I believe every one of you has the power to do), that doesn’t mean your journey ends.  You’ll still have good and bad days, and hopefully start working toward new goals in your life, such as running your first 10K or trying new classes at the gym.  No matter how perfect things seem on the outside, we’re all a work in progress.

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Comments

JAMER123 8/26/2019
Thanks for sharing. Good info. Report
DRDEEDEE 8/12/2019
Thanks, I'm not being vocal except on here. I'm doing it for me first and my son and husband second. They know. It's good that today is day 2 and usually I'm grabbing my first bit of food now but today I ate a breakfast. We ate breakfast together. Report
RO2BENT 5/30/2019
Continuous improvement Report
PAMBROWN62 5/30/2019
The one thing I have fully realized is that when you hit maintenance that is just the beginning of a new journey. That is why I am working so hard to create a lifestyle that I CAN do, not just to lose but to live. Report
TWEETYKC00 11/1/2018
Good article, thanks! Report
GKNIGHT69
Great article. I needed that! Thank you! Report
I was in my mid 50s before deciding to make a lifestyle change in order to be a healthier me. Thank God we are always a work in progress. I know the changes I'm making are for the better. I am a work in progress. Even if you don't need to lose weight, eating healthier and exercising makes for a healthier you. Report
It's never too late to make a healthy choice. Report
Say one good thing about yourself and your body every day. You'll come to believe it. Report
This is one of the reasons I like to post blogs and to read others' blogs ~ because they help! Report
GLAMMOM55
I am late to the party, but I am having a great time. I loved this article and really needed it. I sometimes feel like I am the only one who does not have it together. Good to know I am not. Report
Thank you so much for sharing! I really needed this today. Report
This is so true. People think I have all the answers. I'm struggling right because I changed jobs and work hours and am having a hard time getting myself back to a good work our schedule. I don't have the answers. I do know that you have to be ready and willing to make changes. Report
Nicely put. Great post.
Part of my SparkPage intro reads: "...still fine-tuning as I go. Maintenance does not mean you have it all figured out... " And that's the truth :)

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HILLSLUG98239
Great reminder. This is what I needed to read as I struggle to not go overboard while I'm nursing a cold and not working out. Report
Your bringing up the single friend living in the exotic location reminded me of my best friend, whom I always envied because apparently she had everything: money, friends, an effortless perfect figure, you name it. Two years ago, she died, alone in Mexico, from complications of her addiction to sleeping pills and alcohol. Report
TASNOVA123
An instructive post. People to really know who they want to reach and why or else, they'll have no way to know what they're trying to achieve. People need to hear this and have it drilled in their brains..
Thanks for sharing this great article.
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I wonder if anyone noticed I have had this statement lead on my spark page for 7 years now. Yep. "I am a work in progress" I'll add, I always will be.
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Great reminder. We are all definitely a work in progress. Just when I think I'm done, and never going to lose another pound or progress, I feel a little something different in my clothes, or noticing a little toning taking place, finally. Or maybe it isn't even body related, but maybe a goal that you have finally accomplished, you made it through. Just never give up! Thanks for an environment where we can share struggles and receive support! Report
Okay, who told you about that pint of chunky monkey? Is my camera feed on? :-) Report
EARTHFIREFLY
I really, really needed this today. Thank you so much to Jen for writing this and to all the SP folks who have been so kind. ♥ Report
A great article and reminder. Some days are difficult; others a breeze and I wonder "What's different?" I think it boils down to how I FACE SITUATIONS that arise...not sure; just a thought. Truly enjoyed your article.

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What a lovely article. Thank you so much for this. Report
Thank you for this. I finished my undergraduate honors thesis just under a week ago and since then I have begun to realize how much weight I gained while writing it and have really been beating myself up about it. This was a great reminder that we are not perfect and that it's okay. Report
Thanks for sharing this i often feel after reading blogs where you read they lost 10 pounds a month while i struggle to lose one pound and some times i have to lose the same pounds more than once they make me feel i am doing something wrong thank you for sharing we are all human some just don't want to admit it Report
This was the perfect thing I needed to read today. Lots of barriers have showed up in the last several months and I did not have any energy to leap over them. Your post gives me hope and I thank you for that. Report
This is great! Thank you for sharing with us. We all have our "moments" or hours, days, weeks, months......................... but to hear that "it's okay, we are a work in progress" somehow makes it easier to not get down on ourselves. I appreciate reading this today. I needed it! Report
ROBINWHIPPIE
I really needed to read this today. I'm just trying to get back into tracking after taking a few months off because I was just overwhelmed and something had to give. Thanks! Report
I know sharing what is happening with and to me is the hardest thing in the world for me.That's why your post was so helpful because it made me realize others have that same hangup. Thanks for the shot in the arm. Report
I tend to be one of the people that you mentioned who is on the quieter side. It always amazes me when others assume that I have a "charmed" life. I appreciate the candor involved in this post. Report
Thanks for the good reminder. Have a great day. Report
love your post! thank-you,
yes things aren't always what they seem like.
you've got to love and appreciate what you have because believe it or not you will really miss then if they are away for a while. Report