If You're Waiting for the Perfect Moment, You'll Just Keep Waiting

By , SparkPeople Blogger
Often, I hear people talk about their desire to change their lifestyle and adopt healthier habits.

“I’m ready to do it, but I’m just going to wait until after vacation to start.”

“I really want to lose weight, so after things slow down at work in a few weeks, then I’ll get to it.” 

For most of us, life is hectic. We’ve got jobs that keep us busy, family, social events, and lots of other things that can make it challenging to focus on ourselves. I can see why people want to wait until the time is right, so that they have the greatest chance of success. But I don’t necessarily think that’s a good idea for a number of reasons. Interested in knowing why?

I’m a big advocate of slowly making changes to your life that you feel you can live with forever. That’s the best way to move from a “diet” mentality to a permanent lifestyle change. Waiting for the right moment implies that there’s going to be a huge shift from what you’ve been doing to something totally new.

You can’t go on vacation and still enjoy yourself if you’re on your “diet." There will be too many temptations to fall off the wagon, so you need to wait until you get back to start. But if you’re really thinking about this as a permanent change, there is no “falling off the wagon”. You learn moderation, enjoying the foods you love without feeling deprived, while most of the time still eating food that is good for your body. You might not lose weight on your trip, but you also don’t gain 10 pounds because you gorged yourself on food and drinks for a week. Waiting for the right time also implies there is a start and stop to the changes you’re making, instead of just a gradual shift toward a healthier lifestyle.

If you’re busy like most of us are, there’s never going to be a great time to start. There will always be things that can get in the way of your scheduled workout, or temptations in a social setting where food is available. You’re not expected to be perfect all the time. Sometimes you will miss a workout, whether it’s because you stayed out late and just couldn’t get out of bed in the morning, or you’ve got a meeting at the office that you just can’t miss. Sometimes you’ll eat a little more than you planned. The key is learning how to adapt to those instances while continuing to keep the bigger picture in mind.

Before I had kids, I needed conditions to be perfect in order for me to exercise. I felt like anything less than an hour was a waste of time. If I was tired, I’d put it off until I felt more rested. These days, I’m happy for any amount of exercise I can squeeze into my busy day. Often it’s a 20-minute online workout before my kids get out of bed. I might be beat from a long day, but I’ll push myself to do something (even if it’s not much at all) if I’ve got the time. 

The time is never going to be just right. There’s always some excuse you can make, or something you think you need to wait to finish before you can start working toward your goals. In reality, there’s no better time than right now. Even if you’re making tiny steps toward your ultimate goals (finding 10 minutes to take a walk today or passing up that second helping of dessert), you’re still moving in the right direction.

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I decided on Thanksgiving day this year that I am getting started! There was too much, “after this day” or “I will tomorrow”. I just did it! Report
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JAMER123 7/29/2020
Great advice for everyone. Thanks for sharing. Report
KATHYJO56 7/13/2020
Every moment is the perfect moment Report
KATHYJO56 7/13/2020
Every moment is the perfect moment Report
There may not be a perfect time, but there is an optimal one. When time is, act. Report
Great reminders, thanks! Report
If you look at kids, you will see that they are constantly in motion, playing all the time when not sitting. While waiting in line they jump and wiggle. When "walking" they skip instead. Try skipping as an adult--you really can't do it without laughing or at least smiling. Keep moving throughout your day. Run to your car at the back of the parking lot. Do kegels while driving. Do squats while waiting for your coffee to warm up in the microwave....

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Great. No excuses. Report
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Absolutely true! Report
Thanks for the great article! :) Report
so true!!! i had to just move!!!!!! Report
Great advice for all areas of life! Report
I’m 71, and truer words were never written or spoken, there never is a “perfect time”. just do it and let the chips fall. Report
Good tips Report
This philosophy can apply to all areas of life. Report
I am trying to change the way I think. I want to get this done and clean and finish this project etc and then I can start. That never seems to work Report
This is so true. Reading this was like an "ah-hah" moment for me. I've been wishy-washy about my commitment to SparkPeople for years now--thinking that if I couldn't do it all, I might as well not bother doing anything. Thank you for an insightful blog! Report
Great advice. I like the emphasis on a "permanent living" versus "diet" mentality.
As I read recently, the "right time" may never happen, so NOW is the right time to act. Report
I love the idea of taking charge now, but also in a way that is permanent and moderate. In other words, incremental shifts towards a goal, with slip ups along the way, as long as we are constantly growing and learning from them. Brilliant! Report
So true....I am still learning to take those first baby steps and not wait until I can do them PERFECTLY! Just one after another and keep moving forward. Any forward progress is ALWAYS better than a step backwards! Report
Nice blog - "slowly making changes" is the way to do it. You cannot change habits overnight, and we all have better days and not so good days. My mantra is "Anything is better than nothing" - a little bit of exercise is better than no exercise, a little less of a special treat is better than a big piece. It all adds up to the results we are looking for - a healthier body and mind. Report
All very true!! Just do it! Stop making excuses b/c life never seems to slow down. Report
Once upon a time, I really liked a guy friend of mine. He ended up telling friends that I was too heavy to date, rather too fat! I know that I shouldn't be motivated by what other people think of me but I truly want good health now. My motivation is me. I want to be the best possible person that I can be. This weight is not helping me with anything particularly my health. So, my thoughts are that I don't want to waste too much time. I am getting older and I do not need to live another year wasting away with food. I probably binged when I heard what that guy said. I don't want to have to do that anymore. I want to be happy in my own shoes and binging, overeating, emotional eating just doesn't cut it anymore. I need other ways to deal with my weaknesses. As someone said, "Seize the day!" Yes, moment to do something about my problems is now!!! Report
yeah,this resonates with me too. Seize the day, live in the present. This is what Ive been doing for 1 month now.. and my new weight loss is currently 16 pounds.yeah... Report
Yes that spoke to me!

I am back working full time and am really struggling for consistency.

I am going to change my mind set and be positive about all the exercise I do! and not what I don't do! Report
This article really hits the nail on the head. For me, May seemed like the worst time to start a diet, because of Mother's Day, and friend & family birthdays. I also came to the conclusion that I was never going to find the RIGHT time, AND that I was fed up my weight ... fed up with my body, at this point in time. Knowing that there's never going to be just the right time, and feeling rather defeated about my weight, I just bit the proverbial bullet, and started my diet -- the day before Mother's Day. I'm doing a protein diet, similar to Atkins Induction. It hasn't been the easiest, particularly in social situations, and this week has gone rather slowly, in regards to weight loss. However, I am down 11 pounds in almost 3 weeks. Had I waited for the 'right time', I'd still be waiting, and feeling displeased with myself. Now, I feel as though I'm doing something proactive! Report
Great Blog...thanks... Report
I used to wait until "that time of the month" was over because i knew i would give in to the carb madness and "blow it". I finally decided that I would fight, instead of feeling like a victim of an onslaught, which meant planning meals better, seeking support and not feeling that since "i blew it" what's the use of trying? I've surprised myself and feel better physically and mentally. I'm not as weak as I thought. Report
I would say if you are waiting for the right moment- don't hold your breath. lol Report
I learnded that waiting for the "right" moment never came as there was always a celebration of some sort coming up in the near future. Here it what I mean:
January .... New Years Day, three family birthdays
February.... Valentines Day, More birthdays
March....St. Patrick's Day
April....Easter Sunday
May.... Mother's Day, Teacher Appreciation Week, Graduation Parties
June....Summer Camp,Father's Day
July.... 4th of July
August.... Welcome back to school parties
September.... Labor Day, Grandparent's Day
October.... Halloween
November.... Thanksgiving Day
December.... Christmas

Not to mention extended family birthday, bridal showers, baby showers, weddings,visiting relatives, etc.
You get the idea. Now is the time to start working towards your goals.
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Wow. Talk about perfect timing. I stumbled upon this blog and it's the very encouragement I needed. I'm doing the very thing you're sharing about. I'm always providing an excuse to start because of so many events in my life lately. But now... now... I can start by taking in small moments in the right direction and move towards a healthy lifestlye and not just start a diet. Thanks for sharing. Report
I tell my students this all of the time. Report
Great blog! Don't put off what you can do today. Report
Excellent advice. I think the "waiting for the perfect time to start" attitude can also lead to feeling like if I screw up once I may as well just give up because I have blown it. It's the all or nothing mentality. Instead, as suggested, if we start right now with any little steps that just get us moving in the right direction, we'll find we have started almost without knowing it! And then we keep going with the momentum we've created. That's the only way this whole thing works for me. If I get too far off, I need to take those little steps back to the right path. Report
Yes, more I wait the more I weigh !! Report
Very true. It's better to figure out how to incorporate proper nutrition and fitness in your most hectic schedule than in your easiest schedule to ensure that you can always fit it in. Report
So true. Thanks for the great reminder, Jen! Report