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How to Get the Support You Need to Succeed

Get Your Friends, Family and Fellow SparkPeople on Board


What happens if neither your partner nor your friends are supportive of your goals? You shouldn’t give up! Consider going to weekly classes at your gym. Often, the same people come every week, so you’ll be able to make friends who will hold you accountable for attending class too. Having classes scheduled at specific times will motivate you more to get to the gym than if you just want to hop on the treadmill sometime during the week. Ask some people in the class if they want to go lift weights once the class is over, or even meet up the next day for another workout.
  • Check out support groups in your area. There are often groups of both men and women who meet on a weekly basis to discuss their progress, roadblocks, and tips for success. In this context, you’ll also be able to give support to others, which helps you feel needed and important. You’ll be able to build relationships that branch outside of the support meetings—a healthy dinner club or Sunday afternoon tennis group might emerge!
  • Support yourself by keeping a journal. Whether you write down your thoughts and progress on a weekly or daily basis, you’ll have a visual just how far you’ve come. You can look back to past entries where you’ve seen success and use it as motivation for a tough week. Of course, some weeks will be good and some weeks will be a little bit harder. But by keeping a journal, you’ll be able to see an overall trend of progress. It will help you realize which workouts and food choices worked best for you and which ones didn’t. Record everything from your weight or inches lost to thoughts about how your body feels after a particularly difficult workout. Consistent journaling is a great motivator and will make goals much more attainable.
  • Take advantage of SparkPeople's supportive Community! The Message Boards give you access to THOUSANDS of other members and the SparkPeople experts. Others out there have similar goals and experiences as you do. Search the SparkPages to find someone to share the journey with. Jump into a challenge for that extra boost to get things rolling with the help of other people. Join a SparkTeam with similar interests, or start your own blog (on your SparkPage) to share your thoughts, hiccups and successes. Everyone in our community is here to help (and also to receive the support that you can provide)!
Just because you don’t have the support at home doesn’t mean that you should give up on your goals. The support is there; you just might have to seek it out a little bit more.
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Liz is a journalist who often writes about health and fitness topics.

Member Comments

  • PERKSD43
    I am starting this today. I have told my hubby and I've told my friends on FB that today is the first day of my healthy living journey. I am an older mom with young children and my goal is to be healthier and have more endurance to keep up with them, and to live a long time. I have been here before, on the first day, many time, and I haven't succeeded at becoming healthier, in fact I have failed miserably. I will need support and motivation, and I would like to offer the same to others who need it. - 1/7/2015 12:22:41 PM
    I started yesterday!!! I'm excited and hope to reach my goal with all your support!! - 1/6/2015 5:07:00 PM
  • AVALON90
    I'm starting over. I gave up last year and this my new start to a new year. - 1/6/2015 11:59:55 AM
  • TBROWN258
    I just want to continue my journey that I have started 2 1/2 years ago. I have lost 30 lbs. And I feel great I need to lose another 12 lbs to reach my ultimate goal!! :) - 1/6/2015 10:31:06 AM
  • I like this challenge, because it has variety. I like to change things up. The spice of life. I definitely agree about joining forums. I belong to several forums and it has been a wonderful experience. I have been given a lot of support and made online friends who I keep in touch with almost every day. For those sparkers who are new, I'm telling you having this opprtunity is a gift that 'm grateful for. t's not every day I meet caring, giving and supportive people. Find yourself a forum that fits your needs and lifestyle and jump into it. Make a commitment and keep it. You will not regret it. You will especially get a lot out of it if you stick with it for a few months. It is then and only then you will see a change in yourself. It's what you put into it you reap the rewards from it.

    For those members that are having trouble with food selection this is what I have done and recommend to you. When you go to the store to shop bring the grocery list you get from SparkPeople. Make sure you plan ahead and select healthy and clean foods. Do not buy prepared foods, diet foods, or processed foods. These are the foods that will ensure failure. If you want to succeed don't make excuses saying real food is too expensive or too time consuming to make, because it's simply not true. In terms of expense, yes real food cost a little more, but if you make two meals out of it or freeze some of it, use coupons and don't shop at expensive stores like Publix or Winn Dixie you can make it work for you. I shop with coupons for sale items in different stores to make it work for me. akes 20 minutes to grill a lean hamburger with one slice of whole grain bread. It takes 10 minutes to put one a processed one in the microwave. Big difference? I don't think so. What I'm trying to say if you don't buy it you can't eat it! Sometimes I have to make a special meal just for me. It's worth it! Don't you think so?

    Anyone who needs a friend or resources do friend me. I welcome you to.

    HAPPY NEW YEAR! :) - 1/1/2015 5:22:15 PM
  • I am recommitting to a healthier me and this 30 day challenge is a great way to jumpstart the new year. I wish us all much success in meeting our goal. - 1/1/2015 1:24:45 PM
  • I have a neighbor that I do a great deal of stuff with...We mainly work on our properties, mowing, cutting trees, burning in our burn pits. She however is not competitive and doesn't comprehend the need for speed when we ride bikes! Hence, when I ride or walk with her, it isn't a fit walk or run for me! I need to push when I workout. But, any movement is exercise too! - 11/10/2014 10:30:23 AM
  • I'm on a couple boards and teams on SP - 9/27/2013 6:07:07 PM
    Find a Spark team with people of like interests and backgrounds. They can be a tremendous support and encouragement for you. - 9/26/2013 9:30:15 AM
  • Great article. My hubby can drop weight much faster than me. I get jealous but don't let it stop me. My son the same way. Him and I started together and he has lost more weight than me. But I love coming here to get support from others. Thanks - 9/26/2013 7:59:49 AM
  • It is so hard because I don't have a good support from my family or friends. I can't get any of my family to go work out with me. My mom and my one brother buys food that I can't eat. It is in the house and it is very hard to stay away from it. I'm having a hard time losing the weight. I'm plateauing and my weight has been staying the same. It is very hard. I feel like I can"t do this anymore and I feel like I have no way out. Like I'm stuck and I have nobody to talk too. - 7/8/2013 12:18:29 PM
  • I found it important to actively seek out fitness-minded friends. Besides the obvious places like the gym and weight-loss groups, I also found it helpful to join a hiking club (or other fitness-related community organizations), become involved in work-sponsored "wellness" activities, and initiating conversations with people I didn't know well, such as in church, the neighborhood, or the job, who were obviously losing weight, so we could get acquainted and encourage each other. The more you hang out with active, fitness-minded people, the more it rubs off. - 5/12/2013 11:42:13 AM
  • I guess it is normal for husbands to lose weight and trim down a lot quicker than wives. I have the same problem. My daughter and I were joking around about how all my husband has to do to lose weight is cut out mayonnaise. - 9/27/2012 10:26:17 AM
  • The SP community is the best support ever! Folks, you are #1! - 9/27/2012 8:24:32 AM
  • I havea fab husband who supports me but he ends losing weight and getting fitter than me ....It sometimes makes me feel negative about myself.on a bad day. I guess I need to focus on myself and make every day a good day.... - 6/19/2012 4:42:15 AM

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