Living Alone? How's it working for you?

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By: , SparkPeople Blogger
9/25/2008 12:50 PM   :  268 comments

If you live alone, youíre not...well, alone. From 1940 to 2003, the percentage of single-person households in the United States rose by over 1000%, from 2.7% of all households to 27%. There are now more single-person households than traditional family households (two parents with children) in this country.

Iíve been living alone for about 8 years now, after many years of marriage and/or parenting, and I frequently wonder whether this makes it easier or harder for me to keep my healthy lifestyle on track. It seems to do a little of both...



I never lived alone for long as a young adult. I spent quite a few years living commune-style in the Haight-Ashbury in the late 60s and 70's, and got married soon after that. So, I never really had to deal with the social stigma that used to be attached to single people of "marrying age." Fortunately, the big change in numbers of people living alone has also changed that attitude to a substantial degree . These days, living alone is more widely recognized as a practical and functional alternative for many people, not a sign of psychopathology or weirdness.

There is some statistical evidence that, for some people (especially those over 50), living alone is associated with increased risks for some medical and emotional problems, such as depression, anxiety, and heart disease. But it's not at all clear that living alone directly causes these problems; rather, there may be other factors that happen to be associated both with living alone and with the medical issues. I don't think my health issues or health care have been negatively affected by living alone.

Time-wise, living alone definitely makes things easier. Once I have my work responsibilities handled, I can do what I want, when I want. That makes it very easy for me to fit in lots of exercise time. I actually look forward to getting myself out of the apartment and on my bike, heading out for a long ride, or a trip to the beach or the local redwood forest.

Part of the enjoyment I get from this is attributable to the wonderful places I get to go, and the outdorphins provided by being outside in natural places. And part of it comes from not being at home alone, where Iíd likely be getting pretty bored with myself, and hanging around the refrigerator a lot. Thatís probably one of the reasons I spend as much time exercising as I do.

On the other hand, I do like my alone time, too. I love to read all kinds of things, from stuff about exercise science and nutrition, to philosophy, politics, and good poetry. And itís very nice being able to listen to a favorite song 5 or 6 times in a row without someone complaining about it, or leave the dishes in the sink for a day or two.

I used to do a lot of socializing, back in my heavy drinking days, but without the ďliquid courage,Ē that really doesnít appeal to me much any more. I'm pretty shy, even uncomfortable, around people I don't know real well, so I tend to do better with a computer screen between me and the rest of the world. Sometimes I wonder whether I'm letting my social anxiety get in the way of doing things I "should" be doing to have more of a social life, but so far at least, doing things with my granddaughter, spending time on line here, and hanging out with the redwood trees and the sand dunes seems to work pretty well for me. I don't feel lonely very often.

I used to be a pretty good cook, and that is probably whatís changed the most since I started living alone. Itís pretty hard to work up the energy and interest to prepare a nice meal just for myself. My diet is healthy enough, but itís limited to about 10 or 15 staples that I eat all the time, and none of them require much cooking. I just moved into a new place about 7 weeks ago, and I still havenít used the stove or oven. I use a crockpot for making soups, lentil stews, beans and rice, and chili, and throw in different seasonings to make these concoctions taste different from time to time. And I use a microwave for heating up leftovers and making my morning oatmeal. Otherwise, itís pretty much yogurt and frozen berries, apples and peanut butter or cheese, peanut butter and banana sandwiches, microwave popcorn, and my daily bar of dark chocolate or M&M peanuts.

This all works for me pretty well, most of the time. But if something happens that pushes my anxiety level up pretty high, it gets pretty easy and tempting not to even bother with the crockpot meals and head straight for the peanut butter jar. Without the structure of having to cook for someone else, the first thing that goes out the window when Iím having a bad day is my nutrition. I donít necessarily overeat, but peanut butter on a spoon does not a balanced diet make, lol.

So, thatís my story. Whatís yours? Does living alone make it harder or easier for you to live a healthy lifestyle?

What tricks have you found for keeping yourself on track?


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  • SUNSET09
    218
    While growing up with two brothers and two sisters, being the middle child and watched our lives unfold. After reading Marlowe Thomas' "Free To Be You & Me" I was determined not to go from father to husband and wanted to see what life would be like. It was great being free! I got married and loved it. Now I've been on both sides of the spectrum. I love living alone however, but not lonely as you can feel alone and/or lonely in a group of people. I call my own shots, eat whatever I want, (fish or fowl) cook it the way I like, decorate the way I choose without discussion, advice nor arguments.When I leave the house, it looks exactly like it did when I left! When I cook, I clean so the kitchen is clean, I make up my bed when I get out so all is in order. My house is my safe haven away from everything and everybody; when the need arises, yes I am single by choice! My friends are very supportive and respect my choices! They even cook and invite me over. There are times I have to refuse as I am no one's third wheel! There's always a seat at the movie theater and you get a lot of attention (too much) eatig alone. I have lived with my sisters, my mom had moved into my house, and my daughter had returned. I make dinners in aluminum foil containers, pre make my turkey burgers which are readily availabel for the grill, the oven or the skillet. I enjoy cooking and love the pot lucks as there's always left overs for dinner or next day's lunch! Yes, I love living alone! Whoo, hoo! - 3/25/2010   12:35:33 PM
  • 217
    I think left to myself it would take me awhile to eat as balanced and well as I should. I DO think that my exercising would be better! I don't like to exercise in front of anyone either. and to go out and train (running) is sometimes met with resentment. It might be nice to only have to clean up your own messes! Pluses and minuses on both sides ....it is always nice though that if I have a bad day to have someone to tell and if I have a good day to have someone to share with....I guess I'll keep him .......and hope he feels the same! - 3/25/2010   9:28:20 AM
  • 216
    I've lived on my own for about seven years, and I agree 100% about the difficulties of cooking for one person! It's hard to be motivated to cook just for myself (especially when it means I'll be eating the leftovers for a week). I'm prone to skip breakfast most days; almost all of my lunches are at restaurants; and dinner is frequently leftovers or convenience food. To help combat this, I sometimes arrange to share dinner with another single friend who lives nearby: I take ingredients over to his house and cook, and he does the dishes (or vice-versa). This way, we cook for two people instead of one, and by making healthier meals from scratch, we're less likely to eat out of a carry-out box. - 2/17/2010   5:10:30 PM
  • MLSTIFFLER
    215
    Well, I have lived alone for the last 4 years. I have found that my healthiest place it at home, by myself. I do not buy unhealthy foods since there is no one in my home eating such. I do have a boyfriend of 3 years and I have been able to convince him of healthy eating habits. I figured the best way to help him is to cook healthy for him. Then we can both eat healthy. I am also able to exercise when I want and there are no distractions. I do find it easier to go to the gym in the morning when no one is bothering you at 4 in the morning! living alone is lonely from time to time and my dog doesn't talk to me, but overall, it is doable at least for a little while longer. My biggest problem; I can handle the eating and working out, but I fear sharing my bed every night with my future husband. All that space is quite comforatble for me :-) - 2/16/2010   4:08:57 PM
  • 214
    Ahhh, so it' not just me -- two things I've definitely done are the peanut butter from the jar and microwave popcorn. I'm not single anymore, but I vividly recall those days. I think during that time, I ate a lot more unhealthy. Having to prepare dinners for a family, I want to make sure (like my mom did) that they get a protein, green vegetable and a starch. I know no one probably does that anymore, or at least I know the FDA has changed the food pyramid, but I tend to make dinners that include beef/poultry/fish (no pork), veggies like green beans or peas and rice or potatoes. Often like to fix salads too. These are all things I never, or rarely, did when single. - 2/16/2010   12:50:09 PM
  • 213
    I've lived alone for 15 years, and learned to love it. And it was great for a healthy lifestyle, because I could exercise when I wanted (for how long I wanted), and if I wanted to eat healthy, I just didn't buy unhealthy foods. Much easier to control. I'm getting married in few months, and it will be a big adjustment. We're already together most of the time and it does make cooking more challenging - and it's harder for me to find time to workout. But it's something I'm willing to get used to! - 2/16/2010   12:47:31 PM
  • 212
    I am used to living alone, right from my earliest years, I have had to fend for myself. I wouldn't have it any other way. Its just plain freedom to do whatever you want when you want, on your own schedule! I have never felt lonely, too busy living life to the fullest! No friends to do things with except my Mom, but I have never lacked for something to do! Not every female is geared for the kids, hubby lifestyle. I am not interested.
    - 2/2/2010   10:31:11 AM
  • 211
    I am quite happy living alone! I can get up when I please, read in bed and eat in bed as I please, come and go as I please, spend my money as I please....shall I go on?! - 1/31/2010   11:01:34 PM
  • 210
    I hate it.
    Trying to have a better attitude about it and adjust to the fact that I will always be alone.
    Not what I worked for. Not how I envisioned my life. But continentment will come with acceptance. - 1/28/2010   7:10:03 AM
  • 209
    I have lived alone for years. For the last 10 years my dog has been a great companion and source of unconditional love. It is easier to begin to exercise again and change eating habits without have to deal with someone else. - 11/27/2009   7:02:08 AM
  • JUHOEG
    208
    It certainly is easier to lose weight when you `cook for one. You have more control. - 11/24/2009   6:28:05 PM
  • 207
    I am skinnier when I live alone. Each time I get married (3) I gain weight....errrr... - 11/23/2009   5:50:02 PM
  • 206
    I've lived alone for the first time for 2months. Yep it's a totally new thing. Lonely sometimes and wonderfully peaceful others. I have to agree the cooking for 1 is probably the worst. Actually, more so the cooking and cleaning up. I miss having a boyfriend that cleaned up the mess we ate. I've been making it work by freezing meals (leftovers) and scaling back ingredients some. I also forgot how good I was at making a nutritious meal out of barely anything in the cupboard. That's one thing, you've got to be resourceful on a single person's budget. - 11/22/2009   8:57:10 PM
  • JUICYSWEETS
    205
    I lived in an apartment "solo" for a year. I hated it! I'm from a big family where there is always a ton of stuff going on. It's like NYC ..it never sleeps. So the quiet and alone time was a HUGE shock. I cried almost every night. Even if I went out all day with friends and came home only to sleep I was still so lonely. Long Story short I moved home. - 11/22/2009   1:00:02 PM
  • 204
    I was divorced at age 35 and found that my lifestyle was alot like you are describing--and I was happy with it. I had quite a few friends though and spent a good deal of time with them. I do think that is very important!! I remarried again at age 43, and my life changed dramatically. It's very difficult to cook now, we both have different dietary preferences. He is very active, but doesn't really exercise. I like to read alot, and he doesn't pick up a book unless instruction manuals count. It has been a difficult adjustment, one which is not complete as yet. I don't spend as much time with friends anymore, and I don't like that. So I'm not sure which I prefer, because there are pros and cons to both single and married life. - 11/15/2009   1:48:26 PM
  • PJSTILWELL
    203
    Living alone has definitely benefited me as far as keeping me on track with my eating and exercise. I can eat/workout whenever it fits into my schedule, not having to coordinate with someone elses. I don't have to worry about being tempted with food being around that I know is not healthy. Try not to keep any junk food in the house. If I do eat it, it's always outside of the house. I do not cook much but still eat very healthy. Try to keep things simple - salads, beans (which I make and freeze in 1/2 cup portions), fruits, vegetables, healthy homemade soups that I make and freeze. - 11/15/2009   7:51:11 AM
  • 202
    I have lived alone now for 12 Years and i love it i always her my friends talking about their Boyfriends and Husbands how enoying they are and i just seat back and smile , i go the Bed happy and wake up happy ,i love my live and cant imaging ever living with someone again ,come and go as i please do do whatever i want , no laundry no cooking.... if i dont want to clean who cares it still be there tomorrow at least it is my own mess . - 11/15/2009   6:26:45 AM
  • 201
    I've lived alone for more than 30 years now. I've considered taking a roommate but couldn't bring myself to do so. Now the idea appalls me. I'm set in my ways and not willing to compromise. And when I hear about the problems my friends have with their spouses or roommates, I just that goodness that I'm on my own.

    Admittedly, the main problem health-wise is that I don't like to cook (a 4-letter word) and like junk/fast food so it is easy to make poor choices. But I'm working on it. - 9/10/2009   5:25:05 PM
  • 200
    I live alone and I love it!!!! I have 2 dogs that keep me company and I agree, I get to do whatever I want, whenever I want. It is hard to cook for just one person but I found a cookbook called Cooking for One or Two and that makes it easier to cook without having tons of leftovers. Every thing said in this blog could have been written by me except I read fiction and do not get outdoors that much. I am a pretty anti-social person so living alone for me is the only way to go! - 8/11/2009   9:56:39 PM
  • 199
    I heard or read a pertinent quote recently, can't remember where:

    It's better to be alone than to wish you were.

    I do much better alone than when I was married or subsequently the single parent of two. Now the cat is plenty of company. - 8/11/2009   7:05:49 AM
  • 198
    After getting out of a 15-yr. marriage that was marginal at best, I've lived alone since my daughter went to college in 1983, so that's 26 years. My, how time flies when you're having fun! Sometimes it's been challenging, but it has always been interesting.

    I did really like to cook very much, but now rarely actually combine ingredients to make something, and I only use a microwave: haven't turned on the stove in over 7 years. When I host social hour at my church, I take fresh salad veggies and fruits and nuts. Also some whole wheat bagels and salmon cream cheese, and a few purchased cookies and donuts cut into bitesized pieces. I try to keep it pretty healthy, and everyone seems to be impressed, but nothing is home-cooked.

    I don't feel lonely because I am busy every day with lots of activities, and I can pick and choose doing what I enjoy. I don't have to have endless discussions with someone else about trivia. (I realized this one time when I was leaving a concert, and overheard a couple nearby endlessly discussing the whereabouts of their car.)

    On the other hand, I do appreciate having family within 40 miles, and the fact that my kids all keep in touch pretty regularly, and my sisters, nieces, and nephews do, too. Those connections are important, as are nearby friends. - 8/10/2009   9:22:14 PM
  • 197
    How wonderful to read I'm not a loner! Others have said how they thought my non-cooking ways (only microwave or raw) made me weird, so I was beginning to question myself. Now I look at those as just MY ways of handling life since I've not been lived alone for decades. When it comes to overdoing items (like peanut butter straight from the jar) my willpower is either exceedingly strong or lax. - 6/10/2009   7:55:26 AM
  • DEVONDEE
    196
    Living alone has been a real challenge for me. My daughter and I lived together until her death in 2007. I was an emotional wreck for most of 2008. I am better. I really have to work hard to maintain a healthy diet. I still buy too much for one person. I still tend to cook too much. Joining SP has been a God send - 6/5/2009   10:17:35 AM
  • 195
    I live with my husband who is retired now, but when he was away on business I would "live alone" for a few days at a time. I find that I eat healthier when he's here because I will cook a good meal. When he used to travel I would just go to the drive through and take home fast food. - 6/2/2009   9:14:31 AM
  • 194
    I've lived alone for 3 yrs now. It is 100% easier to lose weight when you live alone. For one- you can control the food that comes in the house. - 5/31/2009   10:09:52 AM
  • 193
    I've lived alone for now for 18 years. And while I've enjoyed it for the vast majority of the time, the last several months had been a major strain and I've lost my pep & joy. Most of it comes from my moving to a communitythat is nov a community. People here appear to me disconnected, not open to outsiders, very parochial in attitude. I've not made any friends which is very unusal for me and spends 90% of my time alone except for an occasional squirrel or cat coming through. :=).

    How it has affected my healthy eating habits, well it has but oddly enough, because I am focused on baby steps forward being cut off has helped. I rarely go out to dine since people do not speak to you ouside of the waiter. Even when I go out walking, if I pass people they look through me asif I am not there (and I am not hard to miss).

    We are not talking about being insecure or imagining. It is very real and happening, but since I've decided to return home later this summer it has given me opportunities or incentives to eat far more healthy then I was the first few months I was here and feel the stress of isolation. I am very much the extrovert and really enjoy people having no problem with engaging in conversations, it just will not happen here for me. - 5/30/2009   11:03:44 PM
  • 192
    I think that living alone makes it easier to live a healthier lifestyle because you are in total control of everything that comes into the house. No junk food comes in unless you bring it and I think that that within itself makes things much more bearable. Having someone else there automatically brings temptation unless they are health conscious as well. Now, on the other hand, the loneliness sometimes can be a killer and cause you to over eat, but as far as health, I think living alone probably wins. - 5/29/2009   3:30:30 PM
  • 191
    For the second time in our 25 year marriage, my husband is working away from home and 'commuting' every few weeks. I find that it is SO much easier to keep on my diet and fitness program when I am alone. When I am visiting my husband (like right now!) or he is home, I feel the need to cook his favourite comfort foods, and then there is the temptation of sitting beside him on the couch while he eats that tantalizing buttered popcorn.... these are not issues during the weeks that I am on my own. Haven't got it all figured out yet.... I just know that I can't be totally inflexible.... the time that we have together has to have equal priority. - 4/13/2009   1:48:13 PM
  • 190
    I read this and had to smile at how I related to so many of the things said. I moved out of a uninviting living situtation nine months ago and was TERRIFIED of living alone . . . I thought that I would become a loner, scared for my safety, and depressed but exactly the opposite has happened. My friends now actually come to visit me, I've gotten to know a couple neighbors and we look out for each other. It took me a couple months to realize it, but I am so much happier now . . . my family comes out from their home state to visit frequently, I have found new activities I enjoy outside of my apartment, and I can do what I want when I want to do it. While I love being around people, I also love that I can come home at the end of the day and just me alone with myself. After joining Sparkpeople about a month ago, I have also worked in time at the gym in my apartment complex so it makes my schedule more focused on being healthy than what to do when I'm alone. - 4/3/2009   12:58:19 PM
  • 189
    Living alone can be a great experience where you can find out who you really are without having to conform to the lifestyles of others. I lived alone after over 30 years of marriage and had an opportunity to figure out who I am and my own personal likes & dislikes which sometimes can become masked in other's personalities. It is also a good thing to be independent and know you can take care of yourself. Yes, it was most definetly easier to eat healthier because you can buy only what you know you WANT to eat and not be tempted by food you really don't want. I also believe living with someone else is a wonderful thing when it is someone you love and are compatible with, which is my current situation. - 4/2/2009   10:26:38 AM
  • KHALLEXY
    188
    Three little words that comes to mind, PEACE OF MIND! Don't get me wrong I enjoy having friends and doing activities, however when I turn my key and hear nothing the but the refrigerator humming it is music to my ears! Coming home from a family of five I have always been a loner. My son is an adult living his own life and I just pretty much go with the flow of things. I realize because I live a lone I can cook whatever I want, it will never go to waste and I can keep a nice weight loss regimen on my own. I never needed to seek out support from no one but myself. True, I have my days when I just want to quit or slack off but that inner voice tells me get up and get to crackin and I do. My mirror is the first thing I see when I wake up and that tells the truth in itself that progress is being made!!!! - 4/2/2009   9:53:50 AM
  • 187
    I have been in a weird situation this past year. I am moving halfway across the country in a few weeks, but my husband has been living there for the past year. Long story. He does come home fairly frequently -- from once to twice a month -- but still, I'm mostly alone.

    I love to cook; being by myself doesn't change that. It just means I don't have to cook as often -- it goes much further. I've been able to eat almost exclusively vegetarian this past year, and I enjoy it.

    I enjoy some alone time, but I'd rather be together with my husband -- even if he does drive me nuts at times. - 4/2/2009   7:40:01 AM
  • 186
    I'm a nurse and work with many interesting people. With two cats, several fish that stare at me sending brainwaves demanding food, with NPR radio full of music and opinions from across the globe, and will all my wonderful internet friends including SPARKPEOPLE, I don't ever feel alone. I wish for a naked man around here sometimes, but that's different. - 3/10/2009   2:31:44 AM
  • 185
    I'm 18 and I live by myself. My favorite thing about it is having privacy...and I get the fridge to myself!

    I'm pretty extroverted, but after a long day of extroversion, I really love coming home and being introverted. Hehe. - 3/9/2009   7:52:21 PM
  • 184
    I've lived alone for 5 years now and what a change after growing up in a home with 7 children then married for 24 years with two children. I've adjusted to not cooking every night, shopping differently and the quiet and it easier to eat healthy when you don't have to shop for anyone else. I do miss the tradition Sunday Italian dinners we shared and the baking I did often but when you are alone these things aren't part of your life anymore. Things cycle and they may reenter at some point and I'd like that. I wasn't made to be alone forever. - 3/9/2009   7:17:22 AM
  • 183
    I actually can't wait to live by myself. I have two other roommates and their lifestyles are completely different from mine...I stay on track well now but I know having all my own food in my own cabinets will be a different story. plus I love just coming home to an empty apartment to do whatever I want, whenever i want - 3/5/2009   11:21:31 AM
  • BARBARASCH
    182
    re/ healthy lifestyle it is actually easier living alone. I just have to concentrate on myself and no-one is tempting me. - 2/25/2009   5:42:57 AM
  • JODEEC1
    181
    I've lived alone for the last 5 years. Sometimes, it is great. Other times, it is very lonely. Coming home late at night to an empty house can be tough. - 2/18/2009   8:49:31 PM
  • 180
    I have had about a 9 month period of living alone about 4 years ago ,and I absolutely loved the experience.I liked the idea of cooking whenever the spirit hit me without having to consider kitchen time with my brother,with whom I shared a house.Aloneness, for me ,was great !I had a chance to read,clean and just enjoy my own company without being concerned about how someone else may be vibing on any particular day.I am looking forward to being alone again on a part-time basis and although there will be some major stressors when he is on the scene ..I will focus on the fact that his being there is a temporary inconvience. - 2/16/2009   8:22:24 PM
  • KATHY:)
    179
    I live alone since April 12...my dear friend, companion, life partner, passed away on that day. Being alone isn't so bad, but not having him around is so difficult. We had the best of all worlds..shared a home for 6 months and we lived alone the remaining 6 months. We had plans to grow really old together but now that will never happen. I am having a difficult time accepting being really alone and lonely at the same time. Any magic answers for this friends? - 2/16/2009   2:17:02 PM
  • 178
    I am just about the same age as you Dean and I too lived in S. F. during the same time. I just never got married. I did the cereal monogamy thing. But also lived alone off and on all my adult life. I am happy either way. That was a big incentive to choose solo or not. One thing I have heard via stats is that men benefit from marriage more then women. Maybe the articles you read were reflecting the effects on single men. Single or not it is up to the individual. - 2/16/2009   12:43:51 PM
  • 177
    REALLY good article. I have lived "alone" since my son moved out in 1995. It is actually easier to eat POORLY when you are alone. No one to see you, course the scale tells the tale, and you grow out of your clothes!

    However, that said, it is also easier to eat HEATLHY when you are alone. No one to say, "NO, I don't what that!".

    - 2/15/2009   7:24:49 PM
  • KNELSO2
    176
    What a great article! I'm living on my own, after being a single parent for many years. I make myself cook, trying to make food that I can carry for lunch - soups are my favorite. Carrying my lunch helps me keep the calories within my range and lets me control the protein/carb/fat ratio as well. I keep frozen fish around and try to cook it up once a week - fish is high in protein, low in fat, and the omega-3 in fish is good for you. My sister gave me a really good granola recipe that uses apple juice for sweetener and is really good, that's my breakfast. And I periodically pick up prepared food at the local food coop as a treat, watching what I pick up to avoid the mayo and oil dishes. And when I'm actively trying to lose a few pounds, I don't keep my trigger foods around, it's too easy to dig into them when the stress comes up (yes, this is the voice of experience speaking! )
    I have a fairly active life, I volunteer for a few organizations and am active in others, but still make my workouts a priority. I keep my workout bag in my car so that I can go right after work. If I go home, it's so much harder to get back out the door. I've been working out with a trainer the past few years, and currently have two half hour sessions a week with him. Working with a trainer forces me to work harder than I would by myself and keeps me accountable.
    I don't think that I could have made the life changes that I did when I was a single parent with younger children, I would never have had the time to focus on weight loss and meals. I did not start working out and trying to lose weight until a little over two years ago, when my younger son was a senior in high school. And being on my own has definitely contributed to my being able to keep focus and lose the weight while getting into good shape. - 2/15/2009   11:58:18 AM
  • DAN_ODEA
    175
    You've hit the nail on the head. Humans need emotional relationships, even those of us who sometimes deny that. Living alone means you need to get out for those relationships. There are advantages to living alone, you mention them well, but I am happier living with someone than I would be alone, no matter how often my kids help me wish I were alone ;-) - 2/15/2009   9:33:41 AM
  • ONMYWAAY
    174
    What great posts! I've been married for nearly 30 years and have 2 grown daughters and a precious 3 year old granddaughter. I've never lived alone and that is about to change. I'm a full time student, at 54 years old and DH and I have decided that it's time for me to live by myself! I'm excited! I feel like I've always wondered "Who am I alone?" Can't wait to find out and will post here as I travel that journey ... moving date is March 20th! YAY!! - 2/14/2009   9:13:55 PM
  • 173
    I must agreee like a previous poster stated....diet and husbands don't mix! I've found that I have to be a LOT more committed to eating healthy now that I'm married. The weight that I'm working on losing is from eating more with my boyfriend, fiance, and now husband. When I was single and lived alone I had no temptations or interuptions. I lost over 50 lbs. and kept it off. It's so much more difficult now. I just have to get in my zone and avoid the temptations. That's difficult to do when the temptation is your husband!!! - 2/14/2009   8:34:56 AM
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    Living alone is absolutely easier for me to maintain a healthy lifestyle. When I was younger and lived with my mother, ex-step father and sister, it was near impossible for me to buy healthier groceries without a comment from my mother that I was wasting my time. When I lived with my older sister, she accused me of being selfish because I only bought food for myself. That shocked me and I thought it was really unfair. She didn't have a weight problem and she had two kids - the items on her grocery list were not suitable for my diet. And she would buy this giant container of cheese balls that I would binge on if I was alone in the apartment. I lived with my brother for two months and he never cooked, but if I made something on the stove he would grumble about a speck of sauce on the grill. He would eat out for every meal and then criticize the fact that I ate eggs. Finally, I am in my own place and although I still endulge in junk food once in a while, it is not a staple on my grocery list. No chips, sodas , cakes or cookies make it into my fridge or cupboards. I purchase single servings of whatever I crave and it is finished in one day - no leftovers. I am able to exercise when I want and how long I want to. - 1/31/2009   6:11:06 PM
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    I think I eat much healthier because I live alone. When I'm out with friends or family, I find that I don't always eat as well as I should. I watch my portions, but I still don't eat as healthy as when I'm home.

    At home, I can load up on all my fruits and veggies as much as I want. I can even eat salad twice a day without someone telling me that I don't need to worry about my weight. Who says I'm worrying about my weight ? I like eating salad.

    As far as depression does, I don't think single people are any more or less depressed than folks who are married. If anything single people may be less depressed because they have fewer marital stresses to worry about.

    - 1/13/2009   9:26:48 AM
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    I have lived alone now for about 5 years. I think there are both pros and cons for healthy living when you are on your own. The biggest con for me is not eating enough. Without having someone else to have to cook for, I will often just skip meals. Which we all know is terrible for the metabolism. But, it is nice to be able to do things on my own terms. - 12/2/2008   1:38:18 PM
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    I grew up in a mid-sized family , I had four brothers and sisters. I got married right out of high-school, and had two children. After 13 years, I divorced. I raised my children alone. I lived the basically single life for 20 years. Not that there wasn't male companionship some of the time. My daughter and grandson lived with me for about five years. After I had open heart surgery two years ago, I met a man (20 years my senior), and we have been living together for about the past 18 months. Life is very different!! I love having someone to plan meals with me. I love to cook!! There are times when I crave my single life. We are both past our working days, and having a partner 24 hours a day after being single for so long is definitly a challenge. I try to still see my friends and spend time pursuing my interests. However, something has to give. I used to read all the time, (about 8 books in 3 weeks), I haven't read a book in months. I love my guy, but am having trouble balancing!! Any ideas? - 12/1/2008   10:57:46 AM

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