How Do Your Food Attitudes Influence Your Kids?
Every parent wants what's best for their child. And for some, that means reading labels and doing as much research as they can to ensure their child's diet is a healthy one. But could too much focus on things like trans fats and high fructose corn syrup lead to unhealthy feelings and behavior in our kids?
Often the parents aren't as concerned about obesity as they are about other health problems (like diabetes and hyperactivity) that can be strongly influenced by diet. But experts are finding that creating a diet that is too strict (such as only eating organic foods to avoid pesticides) can create unhealthy feelings about food. Many children start to become anxious and afraid of what's going to happen to them if they consume "bad" foods. These feelings and attitudes aren't just showing up in older kids and adolescents, but even in children as young as age 5.
One researcher has coined the term "orthorexia," which refers to people obsessed with health food. He theorizes that this condition can develop in homes where there is a fixation on health food, although eating disorder experts disagree and consider this to be a form of anorexia nervosa or obsessive compulsive disorder. There's no research to prove that an obsession with health food can lead to eating disorders. But preoccupation with avoiding "bad" foods can become an issue for young people who are surrounded by those ideas at home.
I'll admit that I'm a label reader, and I try to be very careful about the foods I prepare for my 2-year old. I want to set a good example, teaching her that healthy foods can taste good and veggies are a normal part of the day. I buy organic products when I can and she doesn't drink juice or soda. But I do let her have "treats" now and then. If we go to a birthday party, I'm not going to tell her she can't have a few bites of cake because it's full of processed foods and "chemicals". Sometimes I worry that my label reading and focus on healthy foods could create fixations for her down the road. But I do my best to balance being an informed consumer with relaxing and letting her "live a little".
When it comes to food, how do you create healthy attitudes and behaviors in your children? Are you worried that they could become too focused on health food because of the examples they see at home? How do you create a healthy balance?
Often the parents aren't as concerned about obesity as they are about other health problems (like diabetes and hyperactivity) that can be strongly influenced by diet. But experts are finding that creating a diet that is too strict (such as only eating organic foods to avoid pesticides) can create unhealthy feelings about food. Many children start to become anxious and afraid of what's going to happen to them if they consume "bad" foods. These feelings and attitudes aren't just showing up in older kids and adolescents, but even in children as young as age 5.
One researcher has coined the term "orthorexia," which refers to people obsessed with health food. He theorizes that this condition can develop in homes where there is a fixation on health food, although eating disorder experts disagree and consider this to be a form of anorexia nervosa or obsessive compulsive disorder. There's no research to prove that an obsession with health food can lead to eating disorders. But preoccupation with avoiding "bad" foods can become an issue for young people who are surrounded by those ideas at home.
I'll admit that I'm a label reader, and I try to be very careful about the foods I prepare for my 2-year old. I want to set a good example, teaching her that healthy foods can taste good and veggies are a normal part of the day. I buy organic products when I can and she doesn't drink juice or soda. But I do let her have "treats" now and then. If we go to a birthday party, I'm not going to tell her she can't have a few bites of cake because it's full of processed foods and "chemicals". Sometimes I worry that my label reading and focus on healthy foods could create fixations for her down the road. But I do my best to balance being an informed consumer with relaxing and letting her "live a little".
When it comes to food, how do you create healthy attitudes and behaviors in your children? Are you worried that they could become too focused on health food because of the examples they see at home? How do you create a healthy balance?
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I want them to be completely aware of my idea of healthy foods and unhealthy foods. We all eat unhealthy foods from time to time, but I try to make sure most of the options in our house are the healthiest versions of our favorite foods. I don't think being very aware of what you are eating is a bad thing. Even being aware of the junk food that we consume. We're aware - not obsessed! :) :)
Great topic!! - 3/5/2009 5:08:35 PM
- 3/4/2009 11:29:13 AM
My 3 stepkids came into my life when they were 5 and 7 years old. The 7-yo was obese, and the 5-yo twins were underweight. I started by exchanging out their whole milk for 2%, then down to 1%, and eventually to skim milk. Then, I exchanged their white bread for wheat bread. I laid down rules about sweets and snacks ("you can only have a snack if you ASK first; no raiding the cupboards without asking," and "sweets only after lunch on the weekends"). I don't bring soda into the house, but I allow them one soda per day on the weekends (usually lunchtime, as I don't like them having soda at night) if we eat out. I water down the 100% juice that I allow them 8 oz. of with breakfast each day. I insist that they vary their breakfasts, so they don't have waffles every day with syrup. Over the years, I have stopped buying PopTarts (too much sugar) and started buying mini bagels (the regular-sized bagels were TWO servings each!). I recently also stopped buying white pasta and replaced it with a whole wheat blend. Small changes like this have made a difference.
I also talk to my kids about portion sizes. I especially emphasize that NO child should be on a diet until they have finished growing. So my daughter, who is now 17, has decided to go pescetarian (vegetarian, but she eats fish, too). I make her go on Spark and keep track of her protein and her vitamins, to be sure she is getting the right amount every day. The 14-yo (who was once the 7-yo obese stepdaughter) has now "grown into" her weight, but still struggles with eating healthy. I talk to her about healthy foods, and she has to make the choice to eat healthy or not. I am not with her 24/7, so I know that when she goes to the mall she gets sugary drinks, cookies, and candy. But she knows what is good for her and what is not. She is a teenager, after all, and is probably rebelling against my suggestions! But I am confident that, in the end, she will choose to eat well most of the time. Isn't that all that we can hope for?
The twins are 12 now, and they are always asking me, "is this healthy?" My next challenge will be to stop buying Kraft Mac & Cheese and exchange that for something healthier. Now that the kids make a lot of their own breakfasts and lunches, I am trying to keep very healthy items in the house so that they have good things to choose from. I do sometimes buy a bag of chips that they can share, but I don't keep cookies, cake, or other processed snacks in the house. We have granola bars, fruit, nuts, and yogurt, which I encourage them to eat as snacks. I am also on the lookout for a healthier option to the granola bars, as I think there are fruit & nut bars out there that have less processed ingredients and more whole ingredients. Baby steps! - 3/4/2009 10:48:19 AM
On the other hand, I make desserts 3 or 4 nights a week, I make cookies for their lunches, we eat ice cream & chips on occasion and while I don't buy much candy, I do not ration the candy they do get for holidays.
We often hike, bike, swim or run as a family and my 3 kids are involved in various sports. No one in the family has a weight problem. I think it is all about moderation and balance. - 3/4/2009 10:16:37 AM
Now I'd rather stick with foods that are healthy, avoid my trigger foods (high carbie/starchie foods) and have accomplished much WITHOUT tracking my foods.
But to reach my weight goals I think I may yet have to conquer this Achilles Heel and take a hard look at tracking after all.
Don, Co-Leader of All Health Professionals and Laid Off But Staying Strong SparkTeams - 3/4/2009 8:43:09 AM
And I don't understand about the fruit juice either. There are many options for no sugar added, and while it doesn't replace a piece of fruit exactly, I don't think it is a bad choice for a drink. In fact, my kids like milk so much I find I have to limit that and balance with juice to avoid constipation problems. I've allowed my kids on rare occassions (eating out) to taste soda, but they don't really like it. I feel it's important to let them try most things, and lead them to make the best decisions. - 3/3/2009 4:33:59 PM
I always have fresh fruit cut up and in bowls on the table when they get off the bus and they go right for it. My 2 year old ASKS for broccoli!! Start'em young and just asking them to try something is important. If they don't like it I don't force them to eat it, we'll just find something else they do like. - 3/3/2009 2:37:18 PM
Now the stuff that is packed with hfcs and sugar, I definitely understand, its just as bad as soda, but with 100% juices, you're not getting empty calories like you are with soda or non 100% juices. - 3/3/2009 1:50:33 PM
My son also has a peanut/tree nut allergy, so I have to be careful about various processed foods we eat due to their processing techniques. So that ironically has helped me keep healthier foods in the house. - 3/3/2009 1:34:49 PM
My mom would never let sweets or junk food in the house. I remember as a young child when I would visit friends, I would beg for cookies, sweets, etc. And gained a lot of weight after age 12.
I always gave my children the choice of what to eat and never made them even taste any one food. Today, both are grown and prefer healthy foods. They know the dangers of eating junk. I on the other hand, had to learn the long, hard way.
Thank God, today I eat healthy and love it! - 3/3/2009 1:27:50 PM
My husband is complete opposite. He prefers white and if I don't buy white he either won't eat or will buy it himself. He is a huge soda pop drinker, will not drink water, milk occasionally.
He grew up with 12 siblings. His mom's quote, which he still quotes today, "it's not about quality, it's about quanity." My husband will not buy quality food because it's too expensive. He believes cheaper the better.
It's a battle when it comes to the kids. I buy heatlhy cereal, my husband wants the sugary cereal. My kids eat the sugary stuff, as well as pop-tarts (Yuck!) Wrestling season is an awful time around the house. I try to encourage my son to eat healthy and exercise to control the weight. I hate the statement generally heard regarding wrestling, "cut weight". My husband has been involved in wrestling almost his entire life and this is his way of doing it. It's a guarentee fight in our house.
However, my kids do love fruit and veggies - fruits especially.
I'm the healthy eater, my husband is the junk food junkie - the kids fall somewhere in between. I encourage the kids to eat healthy as much as possible. My daughter (14yrs) actually eats pretty healthy, my son (10yrs) not so much. - 3/3/2009 12:27:01 PM
If I ever have children I wish that I would be as balanced and worry-free as my Mother. However, I can't see myself happily feeding my kids a meal from a fast food restaurant. I think that when I was growing up, while people understood that burgers and fries from a fast food restaurant weren't exactly healthy food, they didn't realize just how unhealthy it can be, even if eaten only on occasion! It is still something I have to work on, being more relaxed, but I have time ;) - 3/3/2009 11:52:54 AM
Avoid drinking your calories
How many sweets does this make today? A healthy person limits their sweets.
Fruit at breakfast helps to regulate your energy all day (while she's eating a breakfast every day that I made)
Eating a variety of vegetables helps you keep cancer and diabetes away.
Did you "Do" anything today? A healthy person get some activity in every day. - 3/3/2009 9:06:04 AM
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