Do You Have 'Quick Fix' Dieters In Your Life?

By , SparkPeople Blogger
When it comes to losing weight and living a healthy lifestyle, everyone has to do what works best for them.  I can give all kinds of reasons why a balanced diet and regular exercise is the way to go.  But in the end, everyone has to find a style of eating and activity that they can live with for the rest of their lives.  It’s not my place to judge whether or not someone is right or wrong if they choose to go about weight loss in a different way.
Let’s face it:  I’ve got opinions, and I’m usually not afraid to share them.  If someone asks me for the best weight loss tips, I’ll tell them what I know.   But it’s always gets a little tricky when friends or family members share their weight loss secrets with me (without asking what I think) and what they are doing goes against everything I’d recommend.  I’ve had friends on the “certain number of days” diet, raw food diets, liquid diets and more.  I have friends doing workout programs that (to me) seem less-than-effective.  In the back of my mind I’m thinking “There’s probably a better way to go about this,” and I’m tempted to ask the question “Can you live with this style of eating (or activity) forever?”  But instead of saying something, I usually stay quiet.  I figure that most of my friends and family know where I work and what I do.  If they wanted my advice, they’d ask for it.  Right?
Most people know that there is no magic bullet or machine that’s going to make weight loss easy.  Even so, we’re tempted by all of the infomercials promising big results with little effort.  Maybe, just maybe, we hope the claims are true and it’s not going to take any hard work.  Those individuals who’ve lost weight the healthy way and kept it off know that’s just not the case.  The hard work is worth it, but it is work and it does take time. 
If someone in my life was doing a diet or exercise program I thought was dangerous to their health, I would certainly say something.  But most of them are just trying things that won’t likely lead to lasting change.   It’s hard to bite my tongue, but most of the time I don’t think it’s my place to say something unless asked.
What about you?  When you see a friend or family member starting the next crazy weight loss fad, do you say something?  Do you suggest it’s not a good idea, or just wait for them to ask for your opinion?

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Oh yeah but they usually see the light eventually. Report
It takes failing with the quick fix a few times to understand that it doesn't work. Some people take longer than others. Report
I'm keeping my mouth shut, but am worried about a small sized friend who is doing one of those brutal regime fat-camp things. :( Report
Great article Report
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I wait for them to ask me. I'm not going to push my ideas/way of life on others, something that happens WAY TOO MUCH these days, especially during the Obama "presidency". Report
I’ve been asked several times what I’ve done to lose my weight and I crack a joke. “ I started this crazy new diet. I stopped cramming crap in my face and got up off my butt.” They laugh and say no really what did you do? I say no really that’s it. And I can live the rest of my life with this, can you?

We live in an instant gratification society. No one wants it to take a year to lose 80lbs, but to do it right and keep it off, fad diets just don’t work. Report
I have a niece that has tried every fad diet there is and she always puts the weight back on. The frustrating thing is she is diabetic and these diets are just not healthy for her (anyone for that matter) and she usually ends up with either low low glucose numbers or extremely high ones. She has even had to be taken to the emergency room a few times. It's all about eating healthy and exercising for a lifetime. Report
I will try to do juicing from time to time and I have even tried the 7 day day cabbage soup diet. The one thing that they have in common is that you might lose the weight but it comes back really fast, CRASH! So the game plan is to eat as healthy as I can and exercise. Weight has stayed off with this combination. Report
Sometimes, "people" need to be convinced they can lose the weight and if a fad diet will do it for them, it's all good however, I believe in a healthy lifestyle and everything in moderation. With fad diets, there's no learning plan associated with it. When the weigh comes back on, it's very discouraging! Report
Love your article! I used to be a Weight Watchers Leader and I've seen members trying to lose weight who don't consider a healthy lifestyle as a way of doing it. I personally realize what you've said, it can be a long and winding road. Even my mother who is extremely overweight regularly eats sugar and is pre-diabetic won't even listen to me when it comes to eating healthy and exercise. If​ she sees me working out at home she then marches in place. If I turn down dessert, she turns down dessert. I realize I can only be a good example. Report
I have people like this in my life. It's quite annoying that they won't listen to me and instead will rely on a pill to do what they could have done themselves if they put forth the effort. Report
If faced with this, I'll ask questions, like, do you know what's really in that drink? Have you checked with professional sources vs. the pill's company's website? Report
I never give unsolicited advice. A dangerous diet--I'd encourage them to see their Dr so they can do the plan safely. Report
I've lost 55 lbs since I started my weight loss journey. It took me a year to do it. Though now with a trainer the weight is coming off a bit faster. During that year I had almost every over weight friend or relative of mine start some sort of crash diet. They would lose 5lbs in a week and then tell me I was doing something wrong because I only lost 1 lbs a week.

Well all those people have gained their weight back and are still fat. They are no longer on the wagon and I am still here going strong. Report
People are proud that they can drop pounds quickly on their fad diets. But then they return to their normal, unhealthy ways of eating. I try tot share info about Spark People, emphasize that it's free, and suggest that they just take a look because they may find some new ideas or recipes. I hope the site speaks for itself and may eventually lure them in. Report
Been there, done that and now eating sensible and exercising. Report
I've been on every diet pill they make when I was younger. I've used bars. I've done it all, I've done WW's, and Nutri Systems, but nothing works like Spark People. I'm not at my goal. I've lost a total of 45 lbs. Praise God, for without His help I couldn't have done it. Have a Marvelous & Blessed Monday! Report
I've been on every diet pill they make when I was younger. I've used bars. I've done it all, I've done WW's, and Nutri Systems, but nothing works like Spark People. I'm not at my goal. I've lost a total of 45 lbs. Praise God, for without His help I couldn't have done it. Have a Marvelous & Blessed Monday! Report
I am pretty sure that i have tried them all. You are right. I have had to ask the big question: " is this a change i can live with for the big picture?" Up til now the answer was always the wrong one. So sorry to myself that it took me this long to realize the correct answer. As i go through this journey, i will take one day at a time. I will try not to mentally sabotage myself. The scale will not dictate my success. No more fad diets for me Report
I had a boss that told me the right answer is You might be right and walk away. They can't argue with you, you didn't agree with them. Report
Crash dieting is harder than eating intuitively and exercising. That's why it is bound to fail. It's not easy and it is impossible to maintain. Losing a substantial amount of weight in a short period of time can also destroy your liver. It did mine. I never give advice. It is not my place to proselytize. Most people learn the hard way that diets don't work. I did. Report
Most fad diets have you cut out things your body needs. I tell people the only fad diet to use is Almased. I lost 22lbs in six weeks and to date since stopping it I haven’t gained any back because I’m doing my best to watch what I eat. When I did Almased I used the shakes from the fasting plan. Today I use recipes and suggestions from here and they are working Report
It's been my experience that when people ask about weight lose, they aren't really interested in an answer, they are just looking for an opening to complain or discuss their own ideas. So I usually just give them a generic answer and listen to whatever they want to say, smile, and go on with my life. Report
I would not say a word to them, because different things work for different people, so it's not up to me to tell others what's good or bad. I've known several people who have succeeded really well on some "fad" diets (Adkins being the most common)....and to this day......years later, they are in excellent health and kept the weight off. It's a personal choice. Report
My friends and I talk about weight loss every so often but we're all at the age where we've tried everything and keep coming back to moderate healthy eating and consistent low-impact exercise with a dose of self-love.There are some benefits to middle-age and wisdom is one of them. :) Report
Since starting on the plan I'm following (nutritionist approved) I've lost almost 20 pounds. Surprisingly, few people have commented! (I was in overweight BMI range when I started and now in normal BMI range - so I know there was weight to be lost!) The plan I'm following is no picnic - because it makes you give up sugar, refined carbs, etc. - all the crap! But it works. I'm eating many more fruits and vegetables, raw nuts, healthy proteins and carbs. I have told people that have noticed that I've lost weight - and ask how I've done it. When I let them know what I've been doing - they comment that it's too complicated. I don't get it. I'm eating food from the perimeters of the grocery store. Nothing packaged. Fruits, veggies, etc. Meals do take a little planning, but I wouldn't say it's complicated. As Louis Armstrong said, "There's some people if they don't know, you can't tell 'em." Report
It doesn't help that there are healthcare professionals out there giving out very, very bad advice. I have a friend who sees a "nurse practioner" instead of the actual doctor, and this crazy broad tells her things that I know for a fact she must be getting off of afternoon talk shows. She tells her she's fat because she uses artificial sweeteners (and not because she feeds her face all day long and never exercises), so she goes out and drops a fortune on stevia and agave nectar and all kinds of hippie-dippie what-all...and she's still fat, because she still overeats and doesn't move.
This broad tells my friend all the Dr. Oz nonsense about raspberry ketones and all the other herbal quick-fix fad things, and my friend goes out and spends stupid money on supplements...and she's still fat.
I tell her to please start asking to see the real doctor, and not this trumped-up nurse, but I guess she wants to believe that this lady's quick-fixes will actually work at some point.
Sad thing is, if she had made an effort to reduce her intake and get some exercise instead of following crackpot advice for all these years, she'd be much smaller by now. Report
Great blog - yesterday I ran into a situation as this in the beauty Salon that I have been with for 20 years the girl that styles my hair has knowledge that I am on Spark and committed to a Healthy Life Style and have lost tremendous amount of weight along with NSV over a three year period , not the quick fix - well her coworker , young beautiful girl over heard our conversation and I mentioned Spark and even brought the site up on the lap top to show her all the success stories and she still was not convinced and had dead set her mind that quick fixes were the way to go , being older and have also traveled through that thought pattern , I did bite my tongue , my thought is until someone is ready to educate themselves on a healthy life style that correlates with their beliefs and health issues , talking is a waste of time , you can lead a horse to water - if its my granddaughters well I have focused on new traditions so that this new mindset of body image starts young and new menu's have replaced old traditional menu's. Report
I am 55 years old and am learning to only give my advice or opinion when asked for it. I can only control myself and what I do. I've tried many diets from Weight Watchers, Jenny Craig and Nutrisystem. All have worked. My problem is once I lost the weight, I went back to my 'old' ways. I realize that must change. I'm still a work in progress. I feel this will be a GREAT community (through postings and articles like this) for accomplishing and discovering a new lifestyle change! Report
I was glad to find this blog posting. Last night I went out to eat with friends. My closest friend was telling me she was going to do some type of "metabolism" diet. She mentioned that she would be limiting her intake of several foods. The claim is to lose 20 pounds in 28 days! I couldn't believe it but I just did not say anything. I want to be supportive but I am afraid that she is setting herself up for failure. I have lost 13 pound over the past 10 months. It is a slow process for me and I have been discouraged at times but I feel that I am making lifestyle changes that will stick with me for a lifetime, not just the next 28 days. She knows that I believe in calorie counting and exercise but I don't feel like she wants to do either. Live and learn... Report
I am a quick fixer sometimes but I always try to err on the safe side. I'm experimenting now on water intake for cold hands/feet. Report
If someone tries to sell me on the latest fad, I usually tell them that I am satisfied with how my current program is working and how good it makes me feel and that "I would be afraid to fix it, if it ain't broke." Yes, I will speak up if someone is doing something harmful, but most of the time I keep quiet and wait for them to approach me. I always speak in terms of health, rather than appearance like "you can't starve your way to good health you have to eat and exercise your way to good health." Noticeable successes lead to many opportunities to "testify" about making permanent commitment to healthy lifestyle changes. One of my favorite lines is "if a change isn't healthy enough to do it forever, then why bother doing it temporarily?" Whenever I hear someone expressing interest in improving their eating and exercise habits, I tell them about SP. Report
You just have to put conscious of what you put in your mouth.
I have a coworker who lost some much weigh that when she left work with her workout shorts and top...I saw nothing but rippled skin a lot's of cellulite.
I get asked about my weight loss all the time. People ask "What are you doing/what's the secret?" I always explain that I am counting calories and exercising and keeping everything balanced. It seems most of the people that inquire either tell me about their new (lo-carb, sensa, green coffee, detox, raspberry ketone, all liquid, starvation) diet or ask if I am using one of those things. When I try to explain that proper knowledge of daily calorie burn and intake is all I have needed to lose the weight (I even direct them to SP!) they usually don't believe it or just don't want to hear it. Their loss! Report
I like the idea of just saying "well let me know how you get on." Non committal and hopefully stops them pestering you. Report
Over the years I have learned that I can talk until I'm blue in the face and it does no good. Especially to two of the people that I love and have seen my journey and how well it has worked. My husband and my son. Report
I have a friend at work that trys every fad that comes her way! Report
I have a friend at work that trys ever fad that comes her way! Report
I don't worry about what other people are doing. I know that for me, I have to do Low Carb, and that works for me. Don't care what anyone else thinks about it. Report
Sorry double post. Report
I ALWAYS wait till I'm asked. Now that I'm at maintenance I often am.

Funny, now I think of it, I've seldom asked anybody how she lost the weight. I've always known the only way that would work for me would be slow, steady, healthy nutrition with some exercise thrown in. Report
My friend is constantly on and off this ridiculously restrictive diet. It even limits which fruit and veg you can eat!
But I'm not the kind of person to throw my opinion around. If she asks I'll tell her how much better Sparking is and how much happier she would be (you should see her face when we're all eating chilli and rice and she's stuck with 10 asparagus spears) if she would just try it. Until then I shall just stick to secretly rolling my eyes. Report
The biggest problem with my "quick fix" diet/exercise friend is that she loses weight fast -- but she can't sustain the rigid diet, she regains the weight and more. Report
I am not one to hold my tongue. I tell them what I think but not what they should do. A friend of mine is pretty heavy and she is thinking of getting weight loss surgery. I said "Why would you want to put your life at risk when all you need to do is walk and eat less????" I don't know why people would want to go under the knife so easily. And I know 3 people who did get the surgery done, and all 3 have put on at least 20 pounds afterward. Report