Confession: Getting Older Really Stinks, but I Guess it Beats the Alternative

By , SparkPeople Blogger

Last week I celebrated my 48th birthday. While for many of you that may seem quite young, for others, that means I am old enough to be your mom. Either way, I do not like the transformation my body is undergoing! I wish I could say I am embracing this aging process with grace, but in all honesty, I hate IT!

I do not like the way everything is beginning to dry out and sag just a little more with each passing year. It's hard not to notice the fine lines every morning and the gray hairs that seems to be multiplying by the hour. Thankfully, I have a good colorist! My skin is not so moist, my hair is even thinner than it was before, and yes, sometimes I awaken with a few more aches and pains than I remember just a few short months ago.

And let's not talk about the "where's my reading glasses" scenario. Yes, I was the one who was going to defy presbyopia--defined as 'old eye' (I am not kidding) on a website for an eye doctor. I was the one who planned on aging well into her fifties without needing arms the length of a football field to read the fine print on the shampoo bottle that seemed so big just 2 years ago and now just looks like a GIANT blur. I was the one who was never going to wear glasses like my high school typing teacher used to wear, you know the ones that sit on the end of your nose so that you can still peer at the people you are talking to. Now she was an old lady. I, on the other hand, can't be that old, can I? Well, I have to say I have not defied presbyopia--I own at least three pairs of reading glasses and I always misplace at least one pair somewhere in the house. But memory is a whole different story.

And sometimes I forget that I am actually getting older. During a run one evening just after my birthday, there were two boys around 13 or so riding their skateboards. While I had my iPod on, I could hear one of the boys yell to the other, "let's race her." Well, I thought to myself, "I can't let these boys beat me! Bring it on!" I put these legs into motion and before I got even 300 meters the boys stopped. Thankfully, I was able to round the corner so that I could stop and catch my breath. There was just something that triggered this need to not let these two adolescent boys beat me. Don't ask me why--and it wasn't even my speed work day!

While I can't stop the aging process, I am not going down without a fight. I plan to continue running as long as these legs will carry me. I know menopause is just around the corner--OH JOY! And in two short years I will be eligible to sign up for my AARP card, which means I can treat you all to a Denny's breakfast for a discount.

Funny how kids are so eager to grow up and the older we get, we want life to slow down. Either way, it's out of our control, so I guess we better enjoy the ride while we can.

How do you feel about growing older? Have you learned to embrace the aging process? What do you think will make you feel old?


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TAHOSA 6/18/2018
I'm almost 71 and still work full time. And I work in a retirement center so I know what is down the road. I have a pacemaker and wear a knee brace to keep Arthur Itis in line. So go for it. Report
CLEOALLEN 6/16/2018
I'm 68 and have never been this healthy. I love being older. No worries about work, kids or anything else. Yes, I do get aches and pains but I also did when I was younger. Now I just don't sweat it.(except when I exercise) Report
HEDSTS58 5/28/2018
Yes aging can suck. I don't always like the changes but some I don't mind. I'm in better shape than my Mom was at this age. So I guess you're as young as you feel Report
SMITTY-B 5/17/2018
My first thought when I read this blog: Oh, honey. 48 is not old and neither is 58. Not anymore. I've met old 30 year olds and young 80 year olds. You are what you believe. Report
LOOKINGAHEAD56 4/30/2018
I am 57 years old. I wake up with aches and pains and remember watching my mother struggle to climb the steps or grunting as she walks. I refuse to go down like that, although the aches and pain often make me want to scream and grunt. However, I thank God for every day and I try to enjoy each day to the fullest. I stopped dyeing my hair around 15 years ago and I have a healthy head full of salt and pepper hair that folks often stop me on the streets and ask how did I dye it that color. I have a wonderful husband, a two awesome sons, a smart beautiful DIL, and two amazing grandchildren. I have more years behind me than ahead, I know this. I plan to enjoy each and every pain, wrinkle, gray hair, that comes my way. I thank God for this life every day. I also plan to work harder at keeping this body in shape. As we age, stuff gets a little softer. It takes work to keep things in check. Report
BIKE4HEALTH 4/29/2018
I NEVER thought I would get this old. But I have to be grateful as I was given 6 months to live after finding I had a level 4 melanoma 22 years ago. I fought it using a variety of things and won. EVERY single day is a gift and even though I dont like how much slower I might be moving now I am still moving. I walk often in nature as it aligns me with how beautiful things can be and still be aged. Report
GETULLY 4/16/2018
I never thought I would get old. I never expected to see 30. My younger years were really rough and I almost ended it several times. But now I am married and am taking care of myself so I can take care of Dearly Beloved. Report
ZIPITUP 4/12/2018
I had to put on my reading glasses to read this ..lol. Fun article- yes above the grass... well actually I am donating my body to science ....but yeah Report
ALWAYSSTARTING 4/9/2018
As I approached 60, a friend told me, "That's when it really hits you that you're getting older." Now, at 72, I guess I agree. I certainly notice all the things you mentioned, but I live by Paul Newman's motto, that every day above the grass is a good day! I refused to ever get on the vicious cycle of hair-coloring, and it was actually kind of entertaining to see what color I would end up with. I've also said no to the Nip-and-Tuck-Train, which I view as another vicious cycle. I am working at seeing every day as a new beginning, a day denied to many others, and a day for me to live fully and productively! Report
NANHBH 3/28/2018
This is so funny! I can really relate to this.
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TWOTONTESEE 2/21/2018
Getting old isn't for sissies. Report
SUNSET09 2/21/2018
I'm embracing the fact of getting older, benefits and not having the concerns and issues I did while younger. I'm looking for every discount I can find. House and car paid in full, it's nice to have extra time and funds to do and be what you wanna be. No bucket list here, I'm working on my life list! Thankful to have enjoyed the life I live for this long and being healthy and happy helps. Report
IMAVISION 2/18/2018
Actually I have found great joy in the rich blessings of aging and I praise & thank my Creator God for each day along the way. To me the physical process of aging has been extremely interesting; however, one of the greatest joys of aging has been the learning along the way...with the absolute most wonderful joy being the spiritual growth granted me = growing in knowledge of & relationship with the Creator, who is my beloved Abba Father, & His Son, my Lord Savior Christ Jesus! I truly look forward to each day that dawns & am looking with eager excitement to when I enter my eternal destination of choice = when the aging of this earthly vessel ends. \o/ \o/ \o/ Report
SYNCHRODAD 2/13/2018
I am 76, and have dumped about 40 pounds (on purpose) in the last 9 months. The subcutaneous fat is gone, gut fat is hanging around. and I am saggy every where! As for besting kids, grandkids specifically, my oldest one was just accepted into Navy SEAL training. He does not have any sags! My goal at this advanced age is to add some muscle to fill out these sags. Hard to do at this age, but not impossible. Report
YICHE12 2/12/2018
When I got depressed about aging was when I turned 25. You see, I teased my older siblings about turning a quarter of a century old. Wow! Now, my next birthday I will turn 70 y.o. I feel better and less stressed than when I was in my 30s and 40s. So it goes to show that if one keeps active, embrace the changes that are happening in your body, eat well, sleep well, you're on your way to be a much happier person. Take the time to enjoy who you are today and not what you were 20 years ago. Report
REBL57 2/8/2018
Ha--first I realized that time was changing how people looked at me was back in my 30s with young kids in tow. I seemed to "disappear", didn't get noticed or acknowledged like I used to. Then in my 49th year I was hit with the first of a number of major medical issues that continued over the next decade. It was sort of a crash course in aging, I suppose. Crash, burn, resurrect as someone I like to think is a better person now that I'm in my 60th year... My body still has its aches, pains, and limitations, but I kind of love the person I see in the mirror every day, flaws and all. And I now try to see light in everyone I run into. It seems to keep everyone happy. Report
MARITIMER3 2/1/2018
48??? Why youíre a meer child! In September I will be 3/4 of a century old, and believe me, itís all downhill from here. I gave up on colouring my hair years agoafter seeing too many women who looked great from the back, but not so good when they turned around. I have wrinkles on my wrinkles, saggy just about everything, but life is still great. My husband and I are relatively healthy and enjoy travelling two or three times every year. He rides motorcycles, I love to garden, and our 2 1/2-year-old granddaughter keeps us hopping. Report
SPUNOUTMOM 1/30/2018
Love this article. Especially the part of not letting adolescents beat her, I have a grandson and when we went for a walk, he said we should race. I won. I was completely out of breath and needed to stop. He was not out of breath and wanted to try again. I just couldn't let him win and he was 10. Report
POLSKARENIA 1/30/2018
What is this,'old' you speak of, lol. In my family, we always say that we don't do old. And that's the way forward for me, as it worked for my dad, who was going strong until a week short of his 93rd birthday. He refused to go to the weekly seniors luncheon as it was full of old people. Report
CEVIZAGACE
I love getting older (I'm 61 now) and I'm grateful for every healthy day. Imho, being young is overrated - getting older made me less self-conscious, more easygoing, more independent and way more self-accepting. O.k., gravity takes its toll and I need to dye my hair more often. But turning 30 was way more traumatic than turning 60! (I remember because I always kept a journal). Report
Enjoyed your blog and agree with the realization of bodies changing and keep moving forward. You GO! Report
TRUCKER72
I am celebrating each day - looking for, nay, expecting favour from above. I am through with being tired and down. Today starts the first day of my 40th birthday week and I am so excited to see what's in store for me, I can't wait to get up every day. The way I see it, each day is time on this earth I get to be thankful and giving. Smile - you're on God's camera Report
CASPIAN3
Do not regret growing older. It is a privilege denied to many.

I read this saying a few years ago and have since appreciated its sentiments. The best one can do is to live, enjoy and appreciate each day.

I am almost 62 and live with my mother who is 86 who is still going strong. I embrace each day and am happy to be alive and healthy to enjoy. Report
I'm 59 and I love getting older. I no longer care what others think about my looks or what I' m doing. Do you know how freeing that is? We have a group that all meet at the dog park every day to socialize and play with the dogs. WE have a lot of fun. It's all in the attitude. And SP is getting me more active and fit.
Enjoy what's still working and hope for the best.
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Since I retired, I have time to read the newspaper each day.
I'm sad to say, the majority of people in the obituaries are younger than I am, sometimes 5-to-1.
Every day on this side of the flowerbed is a good day!
But sometimes, I wish I didn't look like what I am...a grandmother! Report
At 56, I'm more active than I was at 36. I have more time to pursue my interests, and I'm really having a good time with this phase of my life. I'm making plans for retirement, and for that point when I can't climb peaks any more. I don't mind being over 50 at all. Report
SEPTLEFTY
My eyes are going b4 my body Report
How funny! I'll be 61 soon and I still have that competitive piece in me...My husband teases me every time we are out for a brisk walk and see someone up ahead, my pace quickens. We can't stop the aging but we can work on the attitude! Report
LBRYSON26... I got u beat.... I am 51 with a 9 year daughter and plan to be there for her thought high school and college Report
LAMKIN101
I like this blog. As I get older, I look more and more like my parents. Even my daughter keeps telling me that I do things like Grandma and dress like her at times.(and believe me, that is no compliment,lol..) But I do appreciate my life and try to enjoy every moment of it, by living each day to the fullest and by being thankful for this wonderful world God has given us. Report
I am still learning how to embrace the aging process. I am dealing with some of the same things as this blogger - aging eyes and dry skin to name two.

cj Report
I am following my mom's example regarding some aspects of aging. She never lies about her age; takes care of her skin, does word search and crossword puzzles, and she never complains about being older. She is 62. I am going to age as gracefully as I can, and at age 41 (42 next October), I am well on my way. :-) Report
OK, the older one is me, 68 years and yes a feel really old. Report
I was so active until I reached 50 (I'm now almost 56) and then my health started to spiral out of control. For no reason I suddenly had intestinal problems, heart problems and bone and joint problems. I have been in and out of hospital so many times in the past 5 years it would make your head spin. Then to add insult to injury my weight started to go up and up. I have never been as heavy as I am right now. Although a lot of it is down to my mobility problems, I did comfort eat (not surprising really) and my portion control was non existant. I am lucky as far as not having dry skin so the wrinkles aren't too bad - I think this is down to drinking loads of water and possibly my late Dad's youthful genes. I really looked youthful up until hitting 50 - everyone used to think I was in my 30s then overnight I seemed to age and I remember looking in the mirror one evening and seeing not me but my late mother looking back. I was so down that my youthful looks had seemed to vanish without my noticing. Not to say how thin my once very thick hair was getting - a testament to this lay choking the shower drain! Slowing down, clumsiness, forgetfulness and more frequent toilet visits - not a nice prospect to look forward to as we get older but I have to say that since I joined SparkPeople and got my act together more things have sarted to look up. The weight's coming off (very slowly) I now exercise which has loosened up all my joints nicely and my brain is once again in gear. So perhaps we can all stave off the aging process by fighting back the SparkPeople way. Report
Ha! I'm 50 with a 13 year old son, wanna be healthy to be here for him! He challenges me everyday hope by summer to try to get outside and play and exercise with him...... Report
I use to dread birthdays, until I had cancer. I've been living with it since 2003, was 39 when I was diagnosed. Now it's been stage IV, incurable, but so far manageable, since 2007. Now I look at birthdays as a gift. Report
I am going to be 73 in July & I don't think getting older stinks! I still work at my job, have a lot of friends (of all ages), lots of interests, play the organ for most of our Church services, enjoy my pets, clean my own home, & have a garden (although it's mostly in beds & containers now). And guess what...men still relate to me, because they're just as interested in someone who is interested in THEM as they are in beauty, I believe! I plan to go on forever until God calls me just as I am today!!!! Report
Both my mother and husband died at age 48. Needless to say I am very happy to be 82 even if things are going south and having a few aches and pains. I tell everyone I am able to get up and about and take nourishment - so life is good. Report
I love every age I've been . . . but I certainly wouldn't want to be a teenager with all that angst again. Nor a young mother with all the ferrying around of children that is done today. Nor a student, nor a young lawyer or a new bride or so many other things I've done over the last six decades. Compared to those years my husband and I have so few responsibilities. I have a job I love, my faith is stronger, nine grandchildren to enjoy without having to make the thousand and one decisions their parents do, vacations when I can travel when and where I want to . . . and so much more. There may be a few more aches and pains but the perspective is a lot better if you only lear to "stop sweatin' the small stuff!".
Enjoy every year. Life gets richer and fuller if you'll only let it. Report
I'm now 56 and I'm just starting to embrace the changes. I take my fish oil every morning for the dha (memory loss is the pits) but by far, the best thing I'm doing is yoga each morning. It's limbering me up, adding strength and giving me a very positive outlook as I start the day. I highly recommend! Oh -- and I get the gray covered every 5 weeks. Not quite ready for that yet! Report
I turn 22 this year and still my family either says that I act like a 10 year-old boy or a crazy, old cat lady! LOL You are only as old as you feel. Love the article! Report
MARGARITTM
There is good and bad at every age! At 58 I am working hard on my bucket list! Report
WETPTARMIGAN
It's a waste of precious time and the limited supply of effort and energy to wish you were elsewhere in your life. You're only 48 once, and you should be the best 48 you can possibly be. And the best 25, and 37, and 63, and 92! Report
I'll be 44, this year, and I'm already perimenopausal. In my head, I'm still in my early or mid 30's. My mind is always about 10 years behind my biological years. I'm lucky that I don't really look my age, either (it runs in the family). I have a 5 y.o. son and a 2 y.o. daughter, so I HAVE to stay young for them, now.

I'm also lucky that I have no serious medical or physical complaints, no road blocks to exercising. I just started power-walking and jogging a couple of months ago, since joining SP. I've been inspired by stories of people who start succeeding later in life. I already feel like my physical fitness has returned to how it was about 7 years ago.

Sure I'm a little saggy, already, but that's mostly from having babies. I have a few fine lines, a couple of silver hairs. I don't plan to colour my hair or have surgery, although those things are tempting. But, I also don't plan to age without a bit of a fight. I'll be fighting by staying as healthy as possible, for as long as possible, and by keeping my mind young. Report
Jack LaLanne is 95 and the "Father of Fitness" and he is "alive while he is living" and I want to follow him, and be young within myself and live each day to its fullest. My children have thought that I was OLD since they were born, so I don't care about it at this point. Report
I am enjoying my life. In a big part due to spark people. It has motivated me and I can see you are staying motivated. Getting older can mean getting wiser. Knowing myself better with each new challange is reigniting fire in my life. P.S. I'm 54 and still growing (smaller physically + Larger spiritually. Report
I totally agree - get old stinks. It certainly isn't for sissies. Report
PAMELA52
What a great article, please write more in this style!!!
I loved the bit especially about the 2 teenaged boys and you nearly exhausted around the corner. Been there and still doing that at nearly 57.
Go girl, while you can coz I sure am!! Your grandmothers have a wonderful tribute in you to their impact on your life. Make them proud . pamela Report
I LOVED your blog.... It says it all in a nut shell and I am in exactly the same boat as you and millions of others are...
Its great to see it written down and concrete...
Thank you for writing it...
Sharon Report
Funny how we know what we are supposed to be saying, but when looking in the mirror, it's just sometimes downright hard to deny the effects of the aging process. I'm with the original writer with the reading glasses, memory loss, etc. On the other side of the coin though, I happily admit that losing my first pounds this past month has done much to give me back several years, I suddenly am feeling younger than I have in a long itme! It's all about attitude and perspective - my granddaughter asked me if I color my hair, because "it's silver" - she was impressed with those gray hairs that I normally hate! Report
 
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