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How to Deal with Your Fiance's Unhealthy Habits

9 Ways to Cope Before Walking Down the Aisle

If you're planning to walk down the aisle soon, you're probably already putting some extra care and attention into eating right and working out. After all, you want to feel and look your best on the big day! But what happens if your fiancé isn't quite so gung-ho about your healthy lifestyle?

If you're butting heads with your soon-to-be spouse about how to eat or exercise, or if your loved one is being less than supportive about your weight-loss efforts, these nine tips will help you deal without resorting to take drastic measures.
    1. Have a frank conversation. Your fiancé is—and will soon legally be—your life partner. If your fiancé's unhealthy habits are throwing a wrench into your plans of looking radiantly healthy on your wedding day, speak up. It may be that your fiancé is completely unaware that you're trying to lose weight or become healthier. It may also be that he (or she) hasn't thought about how his (or her) behavior is affecting you. , and ask for support. Remind your future spouse that this is your future, and you want to set a good example for the rest of your family. It's hard to say no to that!

    2. Work on compromising. You've probably heard how important compromise is to any relationship—especially in a marriage. If you're loved one for a healthy lifestyle, then simply find activities and healthy foods that you both love or can at least agree to try together. Whether it's planning active dates like bowling, a walk around the park, a round of golf, tennis lessons, a friendly Wii competition, or agreeing to only eat at restaurants that have at least a few healthy options, there are many ways to go about getting healthier together. Remember that marriage is all about give and take.

    3. Have a plan. Many people give up on getting healthy because their loved ones aren't supportive. But if you have a plan that you're committed to, you will more than likely be successful in your healthy endeavors. So grab a pen and paper then jot down how you're going to get healthy. Set for yourself and as you reach them. Once you start to see results from your new healthy habits, your fiancé will notice and might even feel encouraged to change, too!

    4. Prepare for tough situations. It's likely that from time to time your partner may eat something unhealthy in front of you or—even worse—provide commentary while you follow a workout DVD. Your fiance might also try to guilt you into eating a certain food, or even try to get you to stay home instead of going to the gym ("I never see you anymore!"). Whatever the situation is, anticipate it before it happens and have a few phrases in your back pocket to use in the moment. Whether it's saying, "I'm getting healthy for us and our wedding," or even scheduling a fun date night later, don't allow yourself to be caught off guard in challenging situations. Continued ›
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Jennipher Walters Jennipher Walters
Jenn is the CEO and co-founder of the healthy living websites, and A certified personal trainer, health coach and group exercise instructor, she also holds an MA in health journalism and is the author of The Fit Bottomed Girls Anti-Diet book (Random House, 2014).

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