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Mastering the Mysteries of Motivation - Part 2

Building & Maintaining Motivation

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There are many situations that can push you strongly in one direction or the other. If you tend to see yourself as helpless victim, this is probably because at some formative point, you were victimized and helpless to prevent it. If you feel powerless to manage your own feelings and soothe yourself, you probably didn't have much help learning how to do that when you were young.

But history is not destiny. From a psychological point of view, emotional "reality" is the product of whatever story you tell yourself about how things are and why you are the way you are. If you want (or need) to change your reality, then change the story you are telling yourself. This does not mean denying or ignoring your past or present circumstances, or inventing a nice fairy tale to take their places. If you are a single parent with a full-time job, a person with major medical or emotional issues to contend with, or someone who is so large that physical activity is very difficult, this will be harder for you than for some others. You need to acknowledge that and be realistic about the changes you can hope to make and how easily you can make them. But you CAN rewrite your story so that these circumstances are not the determining factor in your success or failure. Your new story can be about how your creativity, ingenuity, and perseverance enable you to find full or partial solutions to these challenges, and to do the best that you can with what you've got to work with.

The story you are telling yourself at any moment is the foundation of your motivation, or lack of it. Make sure you are telling yourself the story you need to hear. And the best way to really come to believe your story is to see it come true in the small, well-chosen steps you take every day.
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Dean Anderson has master's degrees in human services (behavioral psychology/stress management) and liberal studies. His interest in healthy living began at the age of 50 when he confronted his own morbid obesity and health issues. He joined SparkPeople and lost 150 pounds and regained his health. Dean has earned a personal training certification from ACE and received training as a lifestyle and weight management consultant. See all of Dean's articles.

Member Comments

  • FOXGLOVE999
    Another great article. We are responsible for our choices, sometimes they further our goals, sometimes not so much. That's okay. As long as we have more of the former than of the latter, we'll be okay. - 10/5/2014 9:25:42 AM
  • Great articles (1&2) both gave me insight into my struggles with motivation and tools useful for rewriting my life story. Thanks! - 6/7/2014 12:18:42 PM
  • These are very meaningful articles for me.
    I really appreciate the quality and accuracy of the information found in SP articles. - 1/23/2014 9:49:05 PM
  • These two articles are exactly what I needed right now. Thank you! AJ - 1/16/2014 8:08:37 AM
  • COASTAL6
    Thanks for sharing this article, It helped me a lot. - 10/27/2013 2:52:03 PM
  • I tried to save it but it wouldn't let me. Great article. - 8/16/2013 6:33:20 PM
  • "History is not Destiny"

    This was liberating phrase for me to read today, because it goes further than just weight loss. It's going to help me change how I see myself.

    Thank you for this article. - 7/26/2013 12:27:26 AM
  • OK- This article really spoke to me, uh, except maybe the part about having to consider
    yourself "NORMAL". not, and I like that - what is normal after all? Conforming???
    WON'T DO IT! But I will continue to spread the SPARK and love this community! - 3/16/2013 4:13:47 PM
  • just what I needed! it's official. I have now set an ongoing event in my calendar to read one motivational article every night at eight. This is the time I start to feel, who knows what, but it inevitably ends with my eating all the wrong things. Well, no more! I am proud that I have lost twenty pounds. instead of beating myself up for not being able to loose the last fifteen, I'm going to congratulate myself for having kept it off for three years! I will get there! Not beating myself up is good for starters! - 3/6/2013 9:32:53 PM
  • "Change Your Story, Change Your Results
    Motivation is not something you find or lose, have or don't have. It is the product of how you see yourself in the world: active or passive, effective or ineffective, powerful or victimized, normal or pathological. If you want to be able to motivate yourself, you need to begin seeing yourself as active, effective, powerful, and normal."

    I think these are perhaps the most important words in both Motivation articles. *Change your personal story*! - 11/26/2012 1:48:09 PM
  • I don't want to be normal. I want to be exceptional! Does that put me in the perfectionist category? I don't think so because, in my book, even exceptional people occationally stray from the ideal path, but then we get back! - 8/30/2012 2:40:33 PM
  • You are, my friend, a genius! You have so perfectly nailed down not only the definition of motivation, but also the process of self talk and the source of feelings of powerlessness. I was vicitimized and bullied as a child, suffered severe depression several times in my life, and am now fighting habits that are affecting my weight and health. You have peeled my emotional onion, so to speak, with your words. THANK YOU! - 3/29/2012 10:40:01 AM
  • Thanks for the motivation articles. I can now see some of the mistakes I made in the past really were linked to my stories I was telling myself. Lets call them lies! I believe now, I can conciously catch myself doing this self abuse thing after reading the articles. GREAT information. - 2/6/2012 10:12:05 PM
  • I think I'm in love with Coach Dean! He hits the nail on the head every time! THANK YOU! - 12/9/2011 11:39:58 AM
  • This is the perfect article for me... probably (at least for right now) the best I have read yet! Some of my friends went through empty nest syndrome when their kids left home. I wish that is all it was with me. I went through some really "BAD" family issues which devastated me emotionally and here I am! Still hanging on to pieces of those issues. I really need to let go of them and get on with living my life! I WANT to let go of them and get on with living my life. I have that burst of energy in starting something new and get all excited about what I plan to accomplish and then I let life get in the way EVERY SINGLE TIME! I don't value myself enough to say no to those issues and that is going to change. I have always said I am a VICTOR not a VICTIM... but in this case I am still the victim and enough is enough! - 7/7/2011 12:34:56 PM

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