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5 Mind Games You Need to Stop Playing

These Common Tricks Never Motivate--Find Out Why

Motivation is like cold hard cash: You can never have too much! And when you’re trying to lose weight (for the umpteenth time for many of us) you know that you need a wealth of motivational strategies you can count on. But, with so many motivational tips and tricks to sift through, why are we so often losing our motivation rather than reaping the rewards?
One reason is that some of the most popular motivation strategies people use are mind games—games that don't really work for the long term. At first glance, they all seem helpful, but most are actually bound to fail. Instead of playing Russian roulette when you’re choosing a weight-loss strategy, read on to find out how you can beat the odds and pick a winner.
Mind Game #1:  Going for the Gold
You have your perfect weight and pants size in mind. With a big, bold goal to aspire to, you start biking to work, cooking lighter, packing your lunch, skipping that morning latte, and taking the stairs. Then, three busy, butt-busting weeks later…the scale hasn’t really budged and you’re trying on the same size in the dressing room. Deflated, you start snacking a bit here and slacking a bit there, and your dream of a whittled waistline slowly fades from view.
Motivation Makeover: Going for the gold is a great way to start your weight-loss plan; setting a long-term goal can help you to keep an eye on where you’re headed. But it’s also important to remember that your goal weight is far from the only benefit of incorporating healthy eating and exercise—and it could be a long ways off. Taking note of smaller, more subtle changes (more energy, better sleep, lower cholesterol, better mood, etc.) can help you stay motivated, even if the pounds aren’t coming off as quickly as you’d hoped. Setting some shorter-term goals (1 pound, 5 pounds)—especially ones that aren't based on the scale (like getting to the gym 5 days a week) can also help you stay on track.
Mind Game #2:  Starting Out Super Strong
It’s Sunday evening and you realize that you spent the weekend indulging on brews, barbeques, and binges. A twinge of guilt has you psyched to start speeding down the road to wellness first thing Monday. So you restock your pantry with healthy eats, download a hardcore training app to your phone, and plan out the next month's food and workouts. You figure that going full throttle is the way to reach your weight-loss goals as quickly as possible. And why not? You're excited for it! But two weeks into your overhaul, your muscles are so sore you have trouble rolling out of bed, you’re sick of salads and you’re already thinking about throwing in the towel.
Motivation Makeover: Maintaining motivation is like running a marathon. Instead of starting at full speed and running out of steam, it is better to focus on simply putting one foot in front of the other. Set small, achievable goals so that you can build momentum and feel successful in the beginning, and pat yourself on the back when you conquer each one. No matter how long it takes to reach the finish line, you’ll be reaping the rewards for years to come. Continued ›
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Megan Coatley Megan Coatley
Megan is a Board Certified Behavior Analyst (BCBA) with a masterís degree in applied behavior analysis from Western Michigan University. As a health and wellness coach, she combines her passion for nutrition and fitness with her professional talents to help others creative positive, lasting change and live healthier lives.

Member Comments

    Very good article, especially number 5. It's SO easy to get sucked into weighing yourself that it can get obsessive. Now, I weigh myself every 3 or 4 days (a couple of times a week) and I can see progress. It's also very true that setting goals are the best way to get to where you want to be. So, when I go swimming, I try to swim further and for a longer time on each visit. When I swim I find that I am very hungry. My advice is NOT to eat after swimming, it's easy to overeat and destroy all the good you achieved piling on the lengths. Instead of eating, drink plenty of water and have a very light snack. I eat a few almonds and wait until dinner to eat again. - 3/3/2015 10:41:10 AM
  • #1 and #2 are definitely ME. This is quite my attitude in most things, not just dieting etc. And I know all too well how useless this attitude is, when it comes to losing weight for example. Changing it is difficult... but I need to do it! Thanks for the inspiring article! - 1/31/2015 2:57:59 PM
  • What can I say but WOW to this article!!! Thank you for tapping into my mind with this one. I'm seriously Motivated by this article. Again Thank you! - 1/14/2015 5:06:35 PM
  • Thanks a lot for this inspiring article, I am now aware that I make most of these mistakes and will work to avoid them! - 8/31/2014 8:23:03 AM
  • Great article and just what I needed to hear! Thank you! - 6/9/2014 7:17:21 AM
  • I am guilty of all of these!! I have been trying to break the starting strong one. I am so bad about that.
    Unfortunately, for me, I have reached a place with my diet/thyroid where there are no more "little changes" I can make to improve my overall health. I eat very healthy and base in on the glycemic index, but I still can't lose weight. It is pretty frustrating, but I won't quit! My body is too important. - 3/11/2014 2:27:41 PM
  • Great article - 2/11/2014 7:13:32 AM
  • Thank you! Really enjoyed this article!
    I definitely play mind games on myself.
    - 12/20/2013 9:16:18 AM
  • ******Motivator**
    ** : ) Good write!! - 8/24/2013 11:25:43 AM
  • HAIER731
    I enjoyed reading this it has given me many ideas and has shown me some reaons why I had failed in the past. - 8/6/2013 1:44:13 PM
    Great article, but I have to say I have better success when I don't talk to others about my weight loss program/plans. I'm also more of a loner, but would not give up going out with friends....I just make sure I make good choices. If I'm going out for happy hour and have a couple of glasses of wine, I'll give something else up during the day. Then I don't have to discuss what I'm doing or answer a lot of nosy questions from people. - 8/4/2013 3:07:30 PM
    My biggest downfall #5 - the scale. Glad I read this article. Will gauge doing other things. Gosh, this is such a struggle. - 7/25/2013 12:09:04 PM
  • #5 is my big problem. I go to the gym, I eat right, I focus on being healthy, and then I step on the scale, don't see the results I was hoping for and lose all motivation. So I'm looking for ways to gauge my improvements (which helps cheer me along), without setting myself up for a plateau depression. - 7/5/2013 1:06:58 PM
  • Great article. Loved it I saved it. - 7/2/2013 9:18:56 AM

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