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How to Tell Others about Your Weight Loss Goals

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You want to change your life and improve your health. So you joined SparkPeople, which is a great step, and started a healthy nutrition and fitness plan. Whether you're looking to drop a few pounds, eat more vegetables, or get in shape, you'll eventually want to share your goals with your friends and loved ones.

Yeah, yeah, we know. Talking to your family, roommates, and even your co-workers about tough subjects can be more uncomfortable than a colonoscopy. But your spouse or partner, children, and even your parents and siblings need to know what's going on in your life. And you might find out that they're very eager to help you reach your goals, too. But you'll never know how they'll react if you don't talk to them!

If you're nervous about sharing your goals with others, start by talking to a close friend. Is there someone in your life who has successfully lost weight or gotten in shape? Talk to her (or him) about your feelings. Ask her if she had similar feelings and how she shared her goals with others.

Here are some do's and don'ts about sharing your health and weight-loss goals with your family.
  • Don't be embarrassed or ashamed. The decision to eat better and exercise more is a smart one. You should be proud of yourself for deciding to change your life. Ignore your son if he tells you that you're "weird and gross" when you're sweaty after running. Tell your husband to be quiet when he mocks you for eating broccoli instead of fries. Your family is going to make fun of you—in some households, it's practically their jobs. (Chances are, you tease them about some things, too.) If you're feeling especially brave, you might even be able to explain your goals and get them on board!
     
  • Don't get discouraged. You can keep exercising and choosing healthy foods, even if your family isn't 100% keen on the idea. Show them you're serious, and they'll be more likely to support you (by learning to cook healthful food or budgeting to purchase some workout equipment). Just make sure you're safe and reasonable in your exercise and nutrition plans.
     
  • Don't feel guilty. If you're the only person in your family who's trying to change, that's OK. Maybe you'll serve as a role model for them. Your commitment to exercise and healthy eating will positively influence those around you. Wanting to change your body and your life is not a judgment on your family's eating or exercise habits. It's about making your own life better. In this case, it's OK to be selfish.
     
  • Do drop hints. If you're not ready to talk to your family about your weight-loss plan, then just start bringing up the idea of making small changes. Forgo the popcorn when you go the movies with your husband. If he asks, tell him you're full from lunch or dinner. Ask your wife to buy low-fat yogurt, carrots or skim milk. If she asks why, say you just like those foods. Tell your teens you're going for a walk, and if they ask, just say you need some air.
     
  • Do start small. Skip the cheese and mayo on your burger, have fewer tater tots, and get a single scoop of ice cream instead of two. Grab an apple instead of chips; have water instead of soda. These small steps will make a big difference—and your family might soon notice how healthy you look and happy you are.
     
  • Don't keep it to yourself. You may feel embarrassed about exercising or choosing healthier foods, but there is no reason to be. In fact, you can be an example to others, or even enlist your friends and family to help you reach your goals. Soon enough, you'll feel ready to share your goals with your family and friends.
     
  • Don't get carried away. As a parent, you have a responsibility to be a good role model to your children. If you are constantly on crash diets or relying on unhealthy methods to lose weight, your children will believe that's the way to get healthy. When they see you give up on your "diet" and revert to your old habits, they'll think losing weight is a hopeless cause. Tell them you want to be "sensible" and "responsible" about exercise and food. Then show them you can stick with a plan. (If your kids are 13-17, introduce them to SparkTeens.)
     
  • Do show them your plan. You're probably using the tools on SparkPeople to reach your goals. Show your family that you can track your foods and plan workouts using the site. When they see that the food and exercise plans are created by professionals, they'll be more likely to believe that you're serious. Show them the exercise videos and demos, the Fitness Maps, and the SparkTeams. Once they see how much fun you're having, they might want to join in!
     
  • Do write it down. If you don't feel comfortable talking to your family, try writing down your feelings. (Find a sample letter at the end of this article.) Whether it's via e-mail, instant messenger or a handwritten letter, you can still communicate your goals to your family. If you want to face your family in person, try making an outline or jotting down a few notes. It will make it easier for you to stay on topic and deliver all your key points. Continued ›
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A former newspaper reporter, Stepfanie now writes about nutrition, health, fitness and cooking. She is a certified Ashtanga yoga teacher who enjoys running, international travel and all kinds of vegetables. See all of Stepfanie's articles.

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  • ETHELMERZ
    Best to keep it to yourself. Seriously! Avoid useless comments. - 4/23/2015 8:06:02 AM
  • Super lame article. I don't feel like it is something to make sure to shove in everyone's face. And I guarantee they don't want to hear t either. What's better than watching someone lose weight? Watching them gain it all back. - 4/22/2015 9:22:09 AM
  • I'll share my goals & plans on Spark but that's about it. Friends & family would be um....less than supportive. I envy people for whom this article would help. I'm just thankful online resources are here for an online support group! - 4/18/2015 2:28:37 PM
  • MAX10IE
    I am getting mixed comments from family and friends as to my wanting to loose weight. Fortunately I am not looking to loose a significant amount, but get back to the weight I want to be and my doctor said would be better for my height. Unfortunately friends that are over weight make comments as to wishing I was as small as you are now....I would die to be as slim as you!! Of course I am the one who sees the scale!! And not only I but also my endocrinologist agrees... I have diabetes and really have to watch what I eat, which can be a challenge. I am more conscious as to veggies and fresh foods which help. But, do need other people who are in this same position and can give some encouragement in that area... Anyone who can send encouraging words of wisdom would be helpful. Max10ie

    See if this is at all helpful.

    It was on mom's email.

    Dad.or that weight!! - 4/15/2015 9:45:50 AM
  • ETHELMERZ
    I do better at weight loss without constantly talking about it to people. In fact, large amounts of congratulations for weight loss has always set me back. It is far easier to deal with it alone, so your spouse or friends won't hound you at every meal, commenting on your every food choice. That becomes nagging, and nagging helps No one! - 4/14/2015 8:44:11 AM
  • I take issue with blaming other people for one's success or failures. Own your progress or lacking of progress. When one relies on the support of others for success, when the support stops so does the success. - 4/8/2015 1:09:43 PM
  • I'm married to my saboteur, and it's been a long hard struggle to face it that he is not going to change. I can only change me, and the way I react to the negative noise around me. I've lost 70 pounds, and I am a changed person - I like me better because I think I'm a better person for not trying to change other people. 8-) - 3/31/2015 8:10:52 PM
  • This is a great article! Just what I needed.

    Family and friends may mean well, but sometimes their kindly meant words hurt more than if they's said nothing at all. - 5/7/2013 9:33:32 AM
  • I LOVE this article. Thank you for posting it...thank you, thank you, thank you!!! When I told my mom I was trying to lose weight, every time I call her she asks "Well how much have you lost?" If I tell her I haven't lost any this week, she asks me "Why not? You must not be trying." That type of support I DON'T need!!! Same way with my husband, BUT, with him I just tell him "I didn't gain all this weight overnight and I sure can't lose it overnight after all Rome wasn't built in a day." Usually that shuts him up for awhile.

    Now that I have something to go by to guide me in telling them, instead of getting frustrated, maybe I can make them understand. Thanks again for this post. - 12/8/2012 12:06:31 PM
  • I have been at or near goal for over 6 years, but my family will still make comments about where we eat out such as..."Can't go there, there's nothing Mom would eat." While I do really appreciate the acknowledgement of my changed habits, I can almost always find something either on or off the menu that will satisfy me. I wish I could say this in a way to derail comments in the future. - 10/21/2012 3:32:40 PM
  • I have been at or near goal for over 6 years, but my family will still make comments about where we eat out such as..."Can't go there, there's nothing Mom would eat." While I do really appreciate the acknowledgement of my changed habits, I can almost always find something either on or off the menu that will satisfy me. I wish I could say this in a way to derail comments in the future. - 10/21/2012 3:32:39 PM
  • I guess I've been very fortunate in the fact that I have many friends and family members who I feel very comfortable talking with regarding my weight loss. Some of them also want to lose weight and I've been able to encourage them through sharing my goals. Some of them do not want to lose weight but cheer me on in my efforts. And all have been very supportive and encouraging, and quick to tell me when they see the results of my efforts, making me feel very good about the struggle, and motivating me to continue trying! - 8/9/2012 8:53:37 AM
  • This will be a helpful key to my success! - 6/7/2012 12:19:35 PM
  • My partner, who is very supportive, often asks me how he can help, what he should say, etc. I have saved this article to share with him later when I'm at home. This will also be helpful in dealing with my family (who live in a neighboring state) as they just don't "get" it (even though they should as most of them are also overweight or obese), and my friends who have never had weight issues, as they don't have any idea what kind of struggle, commitment, and huge life change this is. Thanks for the tips! - 2/6/2012 10:49:43 AM

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