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Positive Self-Talk Leads to Success

Good Things Come to Those Who Believe


So how do you even begin if positive self-talk doesn’t come naturally to you? Start by appreciating your efforts and giving yourself a pat on the back for the good choices that you make, no matter how small.

If that doesn’t work for you, imagine that you are talking to a friend. Would you tell her that she hadn’t lost enough weight? That his arms are too skinny? Or that she should spend more time at the gym if she ever hopes to look better in a bikini? Of course not. You would cheer on your best friend for every small accomplishment, encouraging him when he feels down or telling her all the things you love about her. So why can’t you treat yourself with the same kindness and consideration?

Next, try to be more aware of your thoughts at all times. Be mindful of thoughts that come and go, and those that linger. Consciously decide to think more positively. When you notice negative self-talk in action, nip it in the bud—don’t convince yourself that your actions are pointless, that your goals aren’t attainable, or that you don’t deserve to be successful. Whether you think you’ll succeed or fail, your thoughts will become your reality. Be a success. Boost yourself up whenever you can. Be your own best friend. Have faith in yourself and the results will come! The important thing is to feel that you’re worth the effort. You deserve to be healthy and confident and strong.

It’s been said that our minds can only hold one thought at a time, which means we have a choice: We can focus on a thought that makes us feel badly or we can focus on something that makes us feel good. Every second that passes is a chance to turn things around. Even if you didn’t eat well at lunch, you can do better at dinner. You’re not a failure if you didn’t go to the gym last week. You can go today. The only thing holding you back is your thinking.
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Leanne Beattie Leanne Beattie
A freelance writer, marketing consultant and life coach, Leanne often writes about health and nutrition. See all of Leanne's articles.

Member Comments

  • Good article. One for the editor: you feel badly with your hands, not with your brains. You feel bad about yourself. - 11/19/2014 7:49:17 PM
  • This article really hit home with me. I recently reached my goal weight, and it have been obsessing about whether or not I can maintain it. Of course I can! - 7/28/2014 10:14:11 AM
    I could be my worst enemy or my best friend, I leave it at that. But Today I chose to be my best friend. - 7/27/2014 1:35:12 PM
    I agree you have to tell yourself you are doing positive things. Turning down the brownie benefits you, it does not deprive you. - 2/28/2014 10:12:00 AM
  • I really needed to read this one! I've been struggling a lot with this exact problem lately and this really helped! - 10/17/2013 3:59:07 PM
    I really agree with this article. While I never felt affected by fashion magazines in high school (I just wanted to look at the clothes!) I DEFINITELY noticed the way it would affect a lot of the other girls around me and I think that fitness magazines are even worse. Just a whole lot of negativity masquerading as positive "healthy" adivce etc.

    I will say though that I also think SparkPeople could do better in this aspect. None of the models look heavier than 120lb at most and none of them are really athletic looking. I'd like to see more images of women who look like Coach Nicole; athletic and healthy not skinny. Or how about some "plus size" models? Particularly since "plus size" in the industry is size 10-12 or even size 8 nowadays. How much more inspirational and healthy would it be to see happy smiling women with everyday healthy bodies!

    - 10/5/2013 12:46:41 PM
  • Hmmm. - 10/4/2013 12:38:27 PM
    I need to share this on tumblr-the amount of fitness and thinspo on's counter-productiv
    e people! - 6/27/2013 4:11:01 AM
  • Great article. The mind does play tricks on us. - 6/11/2013 8:07:50 AM
  • Excellent article thank you. - 11/17/2012 8:34:47 AM
  • I've spent so much time reading fitness magazines and coming away from them with a certain self-loathing. This article was an eye opener and I truly appreciated reading about being your own best friend. I think this is something that our society in general needs to accept and cherish. Being okay with myself and remembering to give myself credit for all the effort (even the small accomplishments) will now be my new "norm". Thanks! - 11/4/2012 7:29:48 PM
  • This finally 'clicked' for me earlier this year. I have spent the better part of my life (since childhood) always putting myself down and focusing on the things I didn't like about myself. For some reason that all changed. I now have motivational quotes and reminders all over my house and talk to myself a good way. - 10/17/2012 9:32:08 AM
  • Great aritcle made me change my way of thinking and looking at things... will start today on postive thoughts every step of the way today... - 9/26/2012 6:52:38 AM
    Great article ... and I'm glad I read Oprah. :) - 6/30/2012 1:50:08 PM
  • I'm so glad the author mentioned that oh-so-annoying phenomenon of craving what you have told yourself you cannot have. How many rationalizations have I invented over the years in order to do what I don't even want to do? I love the idea of substituting the thought with a positive thought. Take charge! - 6/30/2012 12:40:57 PM

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