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6 Things Your Personal Trainer Wishes You Didn't Do

What Your Personal Trainer Really Wants to Tell You

-- By Jennipher Walters, Certified Personal Trainer and Fitness Instructor
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They may seem superhuman at times, but personal trainers are people, too. And although they love sharing their workout wisdom and helping people reach their goals, there are a few things that might get under their skin when they're training a client.

As a personal trainer myself, I've had a lot of conversations with other trainers about what irks them. While some clients' personalities may rub a trainer the wrong way, a good trainer will never let that get in the way of a good professional session. However, there are some client no-no's that are more than just personality quirks—they're detrimental to both a trainer's and client's success in the gym.

Read on for the six biggest faux pas that are could be driving your personal trainer crazy but are also hampering your fitness progress.

Withholding Health Information
Are you on any medications? Did your recent bone scan reveal thinning bones? Did you injure your knee or have back surgery five years ago? Even if your health care provider has cleared you to exercise, your trainer needs to know these important health facts to keep you safe. Medications can affect your heart rate; doing certain moves when you have osteoporosis can make your condition worse; and prior injuries or surgeries can also affect your workout prescription. Even if your trainer hasn't asked, it's up to you to fess up and tell-all when it comes to your health. Don't worry: Like health care providers, trainers must abide by codes of conduct and keep your health status confidential.

Complaining
No one likes a complainer and, if you're a personal trainer, you really dislike complainers. You see, to a personal trainer, complaining doesn't make sense. If you're paying someone to work you out and push you, then you have to expect to be worked out pretty hard. And why would you want to complain and impede your progress? In fact, complaining takes up precious time that a trainer can use for explaining proper form for an exercise or for general dietary advice. You wouldn't want to miss that important information, would you?

Making Excuses
Many people are busy and have trouble fitting in exercise. But once you commit to working out with a trainer, refrain from making excuses for missing a workout or overeating. Be honest as to why you missed a workout or what drove you to overeat. If a trainer doesn't know the full scope of your situation, then how can he or she help you? And, for most of us, let's be honest—excuses are what has kept us from reaching our full potential. It's really in your best interest to fess up as to why you did or didn't do something. It's all part of the learning process.

Lying
This point is closely related to "making excuses" except instead of saying that your dog ate your workout plan, you fib that you skipped a third glass of wine after dinner or you really did squeeze in that circuit workout—when you didn't. Personal trainers get it. No one wants to look bad or let down their trainer, but it's essential to tell the truth.

A good trainer is constantly modifying your workout plan to fit you. And if you're not telling the truth about your workout or eating plan, then a trainer isn't going to be able to adapt your fitness plan accordingly. And at the end of the day, you're paying a trainer to help you reach your goals, so by lying, you're the one you have to face at the end of the day.

Talking Too Much (Or Not Enough)
A trainer can only design your workout based on the information you give them. If you're as closed as a clam in chilly waters, then it's darn near impossible for a trainer to help you set goals that really matter to you. On the flip side, if you're a total chatty Cathy or gossipy Glen, then you really need to make sure that your conversations with your personal trainer stay on track and are about fitness, your goals and your health. A session with a personal trainer doesn't come cheap, and you need to make sure your time is being spent discussing your weight loss—not the neighbors down the street.

And, for the record, trainers can get frustrated when they have to keep redirecting you to the task at hand (read: working out).

Not Following Your Plan
Personal trainers create a workout plan for you for a reason. It may seem random, but they have a method to their cardio and strength routines. Trainers are not expecting you to do more than your plan calls for—or less. If you work out more than called for or eat less, it can really mess with your results. And, if you do too little, then you can't expect full results. Simply put, if you believed in a trainer enough to purchase their services, then believe in them enough to follow their advice!

Wearing Overly Baggy Clothes
This may seem like an odd point to make, but it's an important one. To properly correct form when lifting weights, a personal trainer must see the angles of your body. In a lunge, they need to make sure that your knee isn't going over your toes, and, if you're doing a triceps extension, they need to know that your chin is level. However, if you have on big, baggy sweatpants or a hooded sweatshirt, then they won't be able to tell if your form is as it should be. I know that you want to be comfortable at the gym, but for your safety, a personal trainer really appreciates when you have clothes that show your full form. Spandex isn't necessary, but a big oversize T-shirt isn't helping you—or your trainer!



To get the most out of your personal training sessions, fix these faux pas and you will be on the right path to reaching your goals—and get on your trainer's good side in the process!
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Jennipher Walters Jennipher Walters
Jennipher is a certified personal trainer, group exercise instructor, and lifestyle and weight management consultant. She blogs regularly about her own fitness adventures at www.fitbottomedgirls.com.

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  • Silly article. IMPO its the trainer's job to help the person. As the commenter before said people go to a trainer to be pushed. That is what they are getting paid to do. To help the person change for the better. You also have to keep in mind that most people who see a trainer haven't exercised in quite a long time or maybe don't exactly know the ropes. So you have to expect some "complaints" and some negatives. When I choose a trainer, I usually go with someone I can work and connect with and I make whatever I have to say very clear. If I want to "complain" I will. As far as big clothing goes...some people want to dress in spandex. Its more comfortable dressing in baggy clothes. If anyone who reads this article and is now having 2nd thoughts......ple
    ase don't listen to this mumbo jumbo. There are quality trainers. - 1/4/2013 9:41:37 PM
  • As a personal trainer myself, all I can say to this article is, well, something that would be censored.

    Honestly, soooo much of what this "trainer" wishes you wouldn't do are the EXACT reasons why you need a trainer....so that you can learn to like exercise, so that you don't "cheat" and then lie about it. ugh.

    Too many trainers expect their clients to come to them already "trained". The VAST majority of people who hire a trainer are doing so because they need the "push". They come to you as a complainer, excuse maker, and nutrition plan faller off of er.
    They know this about themselves. THIS is why they hired you....to help them NOT do that anymore. What this trainer seems to be saying is she just wants you to come to her already doing all the things you hired her to help you do. Kinda silly, no?

    I've had more than a few chatty clients. You find ways to deal with it...like work them so hard they would rather not talk! ;)

    Complainers? If they aren't complaining, I'm not doing my job!

    The diet cheaters. Well uhm, yeah, it happens. I don't expect perfection. Perfection is NOT healthy. Just don't lie about it! People lie if they think there will be negative consequences, or when they feel shame, or fear they will be made to feel shame, or maybe the feel like they've let the trainer down. There is no shame in being an imperfect human being...unless you lie about it! ;)

    The over achievers who do more than they should or eat less than they should - well, for the over exercisers, I adjust their calories, for the under eaters? Work them less. You have to look at the reasons WHY people aren't following the plan and them help them find ways to follow it...or change it up so that they WILL follow it.

    Baggy clothes - I have the same "issue" with it...however, I have a bigger issue with people feeling uncomfortable during workouts. Most women want to hide their extra weight. Having been there, I understand this. If I can't get a good sense of how the body is moving...I change the exercise. Simple.

    Not withholding heal... - 12/7/2012 7:46:26 PM
  • Wow when I left comments like these elsewhere on this site they were deleted. - 12/3/2012 9:01:53 PM
  • While I can understand that some may feel defensive here, the point is not to put you down if you do a bit of complaining. We all do that sometimes. The point is made in conjunction with the original article (about how to choose a good trainer) that WE are actually hindering OUR OWN progress when we spend too much time chatting, complaining etc.

    We are with a trainer to optimize our time and efforts to get the best results as quickly as possible. This article is presented as a help for us to do just that. And let us all remember, the trainers are people too, they have feelings as well. If you don't have a good fit with your trainer, I did see another article on how to break up with your trainer.

    There might simply have personality differences that are hindering you both. Hope this helps, I know how hard it is to be frustrated with something so important.
    - 6/16/2012 12:46:27 PM
  • I agree completely with TXGrandma. It's ironic that this trainer wrote a whiny, complaining article about customers who complain. - 6/4/2012 8:59:39 PM
  • I would click "dislike" on this article if there was a button for this. As a paid employee, the trainer shouldn't complain about the actions of the people paying his/her salary. Whenever you work with the public, you have to put up with a lot.......People will never change. - 3/10/2012 2:38:42 PM
  • MARYXXXXXX
    I would like to weigh in on the issue of complaining as well. I hired a personal trainer based recommendations from gym staff. Unfortunately, I discovered that although she was probably highly qualified to train someone in excellent shape, she was not capable of designing a program to accommodate my fitness level and goals. I repeatedly had to tell her that I had a rotators cuff injury and certain movements were contra-recommende
    d by my doctor. There is no doubt in my mind that if I continued with her I would have sustained an injury. Furthermore, at no point did she ever think to discuss the importance of diet and nutrition. I am not sure how she came about her credentials, but people (myself included) stopped training with her and she eventually left the gym. - 2/20/2012 12:59:05 PM
  • I have had a few personal trainers over the years. You definitely need compatible personalities, or it won't work. I push myself as hard as I can, but I make it clear from day 1, that I will not tolerate a personal trainer yelling at me to do things I know I am not capable of. I have a personal trainer to make sure I have good form and to show me exercises that will assist me in my goals. If I hurt doing something, I stop. And, so should you. I do not consider that "complaining". - 2/8/2012 12:49:20 AM
  • That was a very interesting article. I feel like a saint though, because I hardly do these things. But it's interesting to see things from the trainer's point of view. - 1/7/2012 3:15:13 PM
  • I think there is a very real distinction to be made here - there is complaining or lame bellyaching, and there is constructive feedback. The latter is hugely important, the first - not so much. Lots will depend on variable like the personalities involved, the level of effort required/wanted, the length of time and level of relationship going on, etc. One *should* provide information/data/
    feedback that the trainer needs to help one achieve their goals. They don't need someone who whines about every little thing. It's a common sense thing.... - 9/19/2011 5:53:37 PM
  • MELLIL
    WOW! I don't have a personal trainer... but these are so NOT the things I expected to read in this article! I'm sitting here trying to figure out WHY anyone would LIE to their trainer!?! How could that possibly benefit them? I'm amazed. - 9/19/2011 3:23:42 PM
  • About 60 lbs ago, I had a trainer, she did complain she couldn't see my legs in the baggie work out pants I wore then. But I wasn't ready for "tight" then. I'll keep this in mind in the future. Thanks for the info. - 9/19/2011 11:40:03 AM
  • JTB1972
    I have/had 2 personal trainers and both trainers said that they are use to people complaining. Both said that they complain when they workout (both trainers are in excellent shape). My current trainer knows that I will do what ever she asked me to do however I own the rights to complain. I am going to print this article out and see what my trainer thinks of it today. - 9/19/2011 10:55:47 AM
  • I had to laugh at each and every complaint...It's like a teacher writing in saying "gosh, I wish the kids wouldn't be so excited for recess" really? really? If the job were easy, they'd call it somethin else.

    silly article, I thought. but then again I tend to talk to much, or not enough :o) - 9/19/2011 12:21:02 AM
  • I've been working with a trainer for 7 months. We get along really well. My biggest thing is I have a big mouth! I can talk for hours! Lol I told him from the beginning if I talk to much or complain to much, he can tell me to "shut up and just do it". He's only had to use that against me a couple times. It works to keep me focused though. - 8/19/2011 7:35:41 AM
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