"Of course she was apologetic at that point and told me she didn't mean to offend me, but the damage was done. She... had messed with the wrong pregnant woman." Member Traci (Preggougafan) has a similar beef: "Comments about my waddling like a duck. I am sorry, but being 4 feet 11 inches tall doesn't leave much room, so yes I DO WADDLE, and yes I am proud of it. "Why do people feel the need to say such crazy and hateful things?" Worse than the offhand remarks of strangers are the comments of those closer to home-- especially when they seem to be deliberate jabs. "You look tremendous in that picture"-- tremendous as in 'huge'-- is the remark by her mother that still rings in the ears of Sanpoble, a BabyFit member who delivered a baby girl on January 23rd. "Sometimes I think my own mother can be cruel. She is overweight (all her life). We don't see eye-to-eye on a lot of things-- We just don't get along well. And sometimes she has nasty comments I feel [are designed] to make me feel down." Indeed, impending deliveries often seem to rekindle dormant sibling rivalry. "My sister (my younger one) is very competitive with me... and when she started dating this guy... I had just had my son about six months earlier and she said-- in front of him, out of nowhere-- 'So, your belly has to be all stretched and loose, and stretch marks after having a baby.' I knew she wanted to make me look bad in front of him... so I lifted my shirt and showed her my 6 pack. "I worked hard to get it back, was almost where I was prior to pregnancy, and no stretch marks. I think she wanted to scream inside... But she asked for it." Adds Donna777, expecting her second child at the end of March, "My best friend is 12 weeks' pregnant with her first. She likes to rub it in that she has only gained 2 pounds and I am already at 20 pounds' weight gain." Then there are the overbearing know-it-alls who insist on sharing their dubious knowledge, (often old wives' tales with no basis in fact), the lame attempts at humor ("Beep beep beep when you're backing up"), the presumptuous questions ("Was it planned?"), and the psuedo-solicitous comments about food consumption ("Wow! You're gonna eat that too?"). Reports BabyFit member JMACDOW, "I hate when people swear to know the sex. The other day an acquaintance saw me and said, 'You're having a girl.' I responded with 'No, I know it's a boy, the sonogram shows it.' She proceeded to argue with me!" Continued › |
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