BF: What advice would you give moms to help expecting dads? DH: I would say (dads) can't read your minds, so as much as you can tell them about what's going on is good, let them how you're feeling. JK: Sometimes they just don't notice or pay attention, but mom has to change for him. KC: Dads can get really nervous too, just thinking all the different things that could happen. BF: How did your time break down during the pregnancy and afterwards? CD: There is a big difference before and after. Once the baby comes, everything changes. KC: After the baby is born, all of your time, forever it seems, is focused on that baby. He is going to wake up or she is going to wake up and then you're going to wake up too. DH: You just need to realize that you can't schedule time. Someone told me not to plan any house projects after the baby because it's the last thing you'll have time to do or want to do. Get as much stuff as you can before the baby comes, because after you won't have any time for that. JK: Especially the first couple of weeks. It's a really big switch. You don't get nearly as much sleep. But you get use to it. And once you start getting 6-7 hours of sleep again, you'll think, "OK, this feels pretty good." CD: For me, it seemed like the first 2-3 weeks or, life was completely upside-down. Then there is this transition period, where you're like, "OK, I can deal with this." And there is good stuff going on that whole time, but once you start figuring it out, it becomes better. BF: What were your biggest fears or some common fears? KC: Probably losing the baby. DH: That your wife makes it through OK. BF: Would you talk to your partner about these fears? CD: Probably no, because you don't want to freak out your wife. DH: I just resign myself to avoid thinking about it. JK: Generally the things I was concerned about, Julie was too, even though we didn't talk about them. I just think that people have been having babies for years and years and a lot of the people didn't the technology that we have now. CD: You want to be there to support your wife if she brings up those fears. But I wouldn't generally bring them up to her. JK: Things that scared me right before she was born was that her heart beat was slowing down. Continued › |
Member Comments