"How do you do it?" my friend asked me one day over coffee. "You've had some awful stuff happen to you over the years, but you're still so cheerful. What gives?" |
My friend wasmy right, my life had been rough at times. I'd gotten divorced and I'd been laid off a couple of times within a five-year period. I should have been angry and bitter, but I wasn't. I was still looking forward to each new day and the possibilities ahead of me. While this was normal for me, my friend's comment made me realize that not everybody felt the way I did. Why was I so optimistic, anyway?
The Definition of Optimism
Optimism comes from the Latin word optimus, meaning "best," which describes how an optimistic person is always looking for the best in any situation and expecting good things to happen. Optimism is the tendency to believe, expect or hope that things will turn out well. Even if something bad happens, like the loss of a job, an optimist sees the silver lining. For me, getting laid off was the catalyst that allowed me to start my own business. As I packed up my office, my mind was already whirling with the possibilities ahead. Without that push, I may never have made the leap to self-employment. Losing my job was a good thing after all.
The emerging field of positive psychology studies the positive impact that optimism has on mental health. Other research shows that optimism may be good for my physical health too-optimists are sick less and live longer than pessimists. Apparently, a positive outlook on life strengthens the immune system (and the body's defenses against illness), cardiovascular system (optimists have fewer heart attacks), and the body's ability to handle stress.
Happiness through Positive Self-Talk
Being an optimist or a pessimist boils down to the way you talk to yourself. Optimists believe that their own actions result in positive things happening, that they are responsible for their own happiness, and that they can expect more good things to happen in the future. Optimists don't blame themselves when bad things happen. They view bad events as results of something outside of themselves. I didn't blame myself for losing my job, but saw it as a business decision that had nothing to do with me personally.
Pessimists think the opposite way, however. They blame themselves for the bad things that happen in their lives and think that one mistake means more will inevitably come. Pessimists see positive events as flukes that are outside of their control-a lucky streak that probably won't happen again.
Optimism and the Power of Positive Thinking
Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life!
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