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The Power of Gratitude

4 Ways to Develop an Attitude of Gratitude

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I’m sitting on my deck, laptop perched on my outdoor table, and my beautiful dog by my feet. Finally, after weeks of humidity that made even breathing difficult, it’s warm with a cool breeze—the perfect weather to be working outside. As I gather my thoughts, I notice my emotional state: content, calm and peaceful. I am struck by the irony. Sitting here preparing to write about gratitude, I realize that is exactly what I am feeling today.

My blessings are numerous. I have a career I am passionate about, which also allows me to work from home and create the schedule I want. After growing up in an apartment, I still marvel at the luxury of living in a private home with a lovely, quiet backyard that has become an extension of my office. I can go on and on, finding things to be grateful for right now, but I don’t always feel this way.

As a matter of fact, I had planned to write this article the other day but I was feeling anything but grateful. My email program had gone haywire, causing me to lose many important messages, and not allowing me to send the ones I was writing. I wasted hours on the phone with technical support, to no avail. To add to my not so pleasant mood, my daughter was supposed to start a new job that day but her new supervisor was nowhere to be found. To top that off, a foot injury that had slowly been healing, was acting up and throbbing all day.

Needless to say, I did not write about gratitude that day. I honestly don’t even know what I accomplished, and when I flopped into bed exhausted—and still frustrated—my mind wandered to the preparatory research I had done for this article. Believe it or not, researchers in the field of positive psychology have been studying the effect of gratitude on health and well-being for years.

Robert Emmons and Michael McCullough are two of the leading American investigators of gratitude. They describe gratitude as personality strength—the ability to be keenly aware of the good things that happen to you and never take them for granted. Grateful individuals express their thanks and appreciation to others in a heartfelt way, not just to be polite. If you possess a high level of gratitude, you often feel an emotional sense of wonder, thankfulness and appreciation for life itself.

Researchers are finding that individuals who exhibit and express the most gratitude are happier, healthier, and more energetic. Grateful people report fewer symptoms such as headaches, stomachaches, nausea, even acne, and spend more time exercising! And the more a person is inclined towards gratitude, the less lonely, stressed, anxious and depressed he or she will be.

Martin Seligman, a researcher and teacher at the University of Pennsylvania, is considered the father of positive psychology. He developed an inventory, the VIA (which stands for Values In Action) Survey of Character Strengths, which allows individuals to explore character traits and rate their personal strengths and aspects of happiness. He noticed that when an individual had an insufficient appreciation of good events, and an overemphasis of bad or unfortunate experiences, it greatly undermined their serenity, contentment and satisfaction with life.

Seligman conducted research with his students, using one of the exercises that Emmons and McCullough developed in their experimental investigations, namely, counting your blessings. When asked to write down five things for which they felt grateful for, once a week, for 10 weeks in a row, exciting results emerged. Students reported feeling less stressed, more content, optimistic and satisfied with their life. These were similar to findings of other researchers, which showed that participants who counted their blessings on a regular basis became happier as a result.

Even more interesting, when Dr. Seligman than asked his student to write gratitude letters to significant individuals in their lives, and conduct gratitude visits where they read those letters out loud to the recipients, it fostered not only increased feelings of joy, but also a closer meaning and pleasure derived from the relationship.

It would appear that counting our blessings on a regular basis can improve our moods and overall level of happiness and health, but expressing that appreciation to others will do so even more. And the good news is that noticing, appreciating and expressing our feelings for life’s little blessings can produce just as much benefit as noticing the monumental moments.

So it certainly seems that developing a higher level of gratitude is emotionally, physically and mentally rewarding. But, how do you increase your feelings of gratitude when nothing seems to be going right, or life presents great challenges and adversity? Is it really possible to express gratitude when you are not feeling you have anything to be grateful for?

Although we may acknowledge gratitude’s benefits, it can still feel difficult to feel grateful when we are going through a difficult time. That’s why it makes so much sense to practice gratitude, in good times and bad. It may be human nature to notice all that is wrong or that we lack, but if we give ourselves the chance on a regular basis to notice all of lives gifts and blessings, we can increase our sense of well-being, and create hope and optimism for the future—no matter what is going on.

Here are some ways to start practicing gratitude to improve your well-being:
  1. Keep a gratitude journal. At the end of each day, write down 3-5 things from the day you feel grateful for. Simplicity is key. Your baby’s smile, a perfect sunset, the train arriving on time, or your best friend’s laughter. Relish the feeling you get when remembering and writing it down.
  2. Express your gratitude. Take the time to share your feelings. Not the simple, polite thank you, but the heartfelt emotions. Tell your friend how her support and sense of humor helps you get through tough times, and how much it means to you. Don’t take your loved ones for granted. Let them know how much you love them and why.
  3. Look for what is right about a situation, not what’s wrong. Sure you’re frustrated by the bus being late, but thankfully you have an understanding boss. Service at the restaurant is poor, but you are lucky to afford an evening out surrounded by good friends.
  4. Practice gratitude with your family and friends. Although you may not say grace before a meal, encourage each family member to report one thing that happened that day that they feel grateful for. When you hear a friend moaning and complaining, challenge him or her to find the hidden opportunity or silver lining to the situation.
The other night, lying in bed reviewing all this information, I reminded myself that when I took the aforementioned Survey of Character Strengths, gratitude was one of my strongest characteristics. So I put that strength to use and began to count the day’s blessings. I remembered that although the email technology drove me crazy that day, it also allowed me to connect by text message. How lucky I am to live in a time where communication is so easy. And although things weren’t off to a good start, my daughter has a job despite a difficult economy. Sure enough the next morning, her supervisor called with apologies for the delay and off to work she went. I remembered that when I felt at my wits end, my best friend readily met me for coffee, made me laugh and reminded me that although frustrating, life is good!

For today, the warm breeze, my outdoor office, and the singing of the birds in the trees all fill my heart with gratitude and joy! What are you grateful for today?

Sources:
Ben-Shahar, Tal. 2007. Happier. New York: McGraw Hill

Emmons, R.A., and McCullough, M.E. (2003). Counting blessings versus burdens: An experimental investigation of gratitude and subjective well-being in daily life. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 84: 377-89.

Fredrickson, Barbara L. 2009 Positivity. New York: Crown Publishers

Lyubomirsky, Sonja. 2007. The How of Happiness. New York: Penguin Books

Seligman, Martin. 2002. Authentic Happiness. New York: Free Press

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  • I feel grateful today.
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  • I did a series of blogs on gratitude. It's a must and you do get rewarded for being grateful!
  • I practice gratitude daily, even on my worst days I can find something I am grateful and thankful for in my life.
  • Easter Sunday - a perfect day to reflect on and celebrate gratitude for all the wonderful things in your life!
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  • I get up and think of three good things. My life is far from perfect. But today: I COULD get up.For that alone I always say thanks. The sun is shining and my hubby made a healthy breakfast. Life is good.
  • Love this article!
  • I think one thing we often overlook is expressing gratitude to the people who provides various services in our lives. Yes, they are getting paid to do so, but it is also nice to be appreciated. My family and I rely on city buses, and I taught my kids to always thank the driver. Now we've taught the grandchildren. We always greet the drivers, too. In a large city, many folks just board and disembark silently. Regardless of what others do, I want to express gratitude!
  • Thank you for reminding us how important it is to be thankful.
  • I' m so grateful I can enjoy the simple things in life and their are many.
  • I am thankful for many things and feel grateful every time I go to an exercise class and know that I can do this!
  • And to think, while psychologists are just now 'discovering' the value of this, God knew it before He even created our world 6,000 or so years ago. I think that is probably why He said, "In everything give thanks for this is the will of God for you in Christ Jesus"...Do you think maybe because He loved us so, and knew our makeup (since he formed us in our mother's womb) that He would try to help us out by warning us against what would cause us harm? I for one am so grateful for the person who helped me get to know this wonderful, loving, caring, comforting God by teaching me to read the Bible starting with the book of John, so I could know Him who is the Author of Hope. I wish I could say I was always grateful. Though growing up in the most free country in the world, being given an incredible education which allowed me to become a medical Doctor, eating and breathing the air God so graciously gives to us each and every day along with sunrise and sunsets to boot, I still accused Him of being responsible for all the evils that are in the world today. Now that I know the truth, I am grateful beyond words for the goodness and faithfulness of the One who opened my blind eyes and ungrateful heart. It is so true that the 'heavens declare the glory of God, the earth His handiwork'. We simply need to look up to see something to be thankful for each and every day. His Name shall be called Wonderful Counselor, the Mighty God, the Prince of Peace, the everlasting Father.
  • Gratitude IS the BEST attitude!

About The Author

Ellen Goldman Ellen Goldman
Ellen founded EllenG Coaching, LLC to help individuals struggling with health issues that can be impacted by positive lifestyle change, such as weight loss, stress management, exercise, and life/work balance. As a certified professional wellness coach and certified personal trainer, Ellen holds a BS and Masters in Physical Education and is certified by ACSM, AFAA, and Wellcoaches Corporation. Visit her at http://www.ellengcoaching.com/. Get her complimentary report, 52 Tips, Tools & Tricks to Permanent Weight Loss Without Going on a Diet, at www.endtheweightlossbattle.com.

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