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A Little Imagination Can Boost Your Motivation

Building a Better Body Image

“I really want to lose weight. I hate the way I look and feel, and I know things will be much better when I get the weight off. But I just can’t stay motivated to do it. I think there must be something wrong with me.”

If this sounds like something you say to yourself, I’ve got good news for you. There probably isn't anything seriously wrong with you. You have a very common problem that affects many people who want to lose weight—expecting your negative feelings about your body to do something they can’t do.

The motivation you need to successfully lose weight is like a fire. It will burn hot and long when you provide it with the fuel it needs, but it will die out quickly if you don’t. Disliking how you look and feel might provide decent kindling to get the weight-loss fire started, but it's not the proper fuel source to keep it going.

When you’re driven by negative thoughts about yourself, you just don’t have the raw materials that are necessary to achieve the results you want. This problem lies in how our minds work. If I were to tell you, for example, that I'll give you $1,000 if you can manage to not let the thought of "chocolate" enter your mind during the next 60 seconds, do you think my bank balance would be in big trouble? I don’t. It’s certain that some of your next few thoughts would have something to do with chocolate. Most likely, you’ll wonder how you can stop yourself from thinking about chocolate for 60 seconds—oops, too late! You lose, and my $1000 stays safely in my bank account. It’s virtually impossible to not think about something for a minute, when that’s what you set out to do. Try it for yourself.

The same thing happens when you set out to lose weight because you don’t like your body. The first thing you’re likely to do every morning is notice how fat you still are, think about the food you can’t eat, or lie in bed, wishing you didn’t have to get up early to exercise. You might as well throw a big bucket of ice water on that motivational fire of yours, because sooner or later, you’re going to get very weary of this constant struggle and give up.

So, what’s the alternative? What do you do if the reason you want to lose weight is because you don’t like the way you look or feel? Where do you find the right fuel for your motivational fire?

Use your imagination.

Imagination: More Important than Will Power
One thing that it’s crucial to understand is that being overweight isn’t the cause of your unhappiness, and simply weighing less won't make you feel better about yourself and your life. It’s all the things you think about your body that make you unhappy, and it’s changing those thoughts that will make you feel better and help you lose weight.

Think about it. Imagine you live in a society where people find thinness repulsive and being fat is the marker of beauty, desirability, and good character. Everywhere you look, there are images of happy fat people wearing the best clothes, driving the best cars, getting the hot dates, and landing the best jobs. Would you still feel bad about yourself? Would you still feel like you have to lose weight in order to get what you want and need in life? Probably not. Even if you still felt bad about yourself, you wouldn't be focused on your weight, but rather on something else that your culture didn’t like—the size of your feet, or the slope of your nose, for example.

But we do live in a society that confronts us with very negative messages about being fat. Most of us start absorbing these messages as we are just learning to talk, and they soon become a big part of how we view and evaluate ourselves, explain the things that happen to us, and decide what needs to change if we want to feel and do better.

And sadly, it usually isn’t enough to simply recognize that "fat-loathing" is just a cultural prejudice you can choose to reject. You have to replace it with something equally as powerful, and that’s hard to come by after years of being conditioned to hate your own body. For many, the idea of accepting yourself and loving yourself sounds good, but it just doesn’t have the same emotional force that your negative self-image does. So you find yourself being pulled back to that negative image over and over again, and remaining stuck in the motivational problems it causes.

But you can use your imagination to break the power of your negative self-image and replace it with something equally powerful. Here are some suggestions:

Imagine that your negative body image isn’t really yours. Imagine someone else planted it in your head to keep you trapped in an endless quest for a better body. Imagine who this "someone else" is and why they’ve done this. You could imagine, for example, that a secret group of very rich and powerful people use the media, fashion and advertising industries to convince people that they need to be thin, hard-bodied, and youthful to be happy, so they’ll keep buying diet books, magazines and gimmicks. Whatever story you come up with, create one that makes you feel angry that someone else could take advantage of you this way.

Imagine that the negative body image implanted in your brain has suddenly been removed. You wake up one morning, look in the mirror, and don’t have any reactions at all. You know how you used to react and why, but realize that all those old feelings and thoughts weren’t yours. Imagine that you’re very determined not to let them back in again. What are your real feelings and thoughts about your body? Take some time to look yourself over thoroughly, touch your skin, move around, notice all the sensations you’re experiencing, and so on. Spend a few days going through your regular routines—getting dressed, eating, working, exercising, and all the other things you do—paying close attention to what your body is doing at each moment and how it feels. Take notes, if you want to.

After a few days, sit down and try to express in words how you feel about your body. What can it do, or not do? Which of those things make you feel good and give you pleasure, and which don’t? Are there any things you’d like to be doing more or less of, based on how they make you feel?

By completing an exercise like this, you will discover the feelings, thoughts and beliefs that will provide the best fuel to keep your motivational fire burning. You will get out of your head (and away from its “programmed” image of your body), and into your actual body with an open mind. You will learn what your body needs and wants, what it is capable of doing, and what it can tell you about how to make choices and take actions that are satisfying and rewarding.

You may be surprised to find out how easy it becomes to exercise regularly, eat well, and reach a healthy weight when you stop treating your amazing body as the problem, and start using it as the solution.

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Member Comments

  • So very true. I now look in the mirror and think I look good. If my attitude starts to slip, which it rarely does anymore, my mantra is 'I am strong. I am healthy. I a, loved by the Lord.' I always feel better and stronger. I often repeat this when I'm on the treadmill, rower or the elliptical. Reprogram your mind and you WILL reprogram your body.
    This is my first day, and have a long way to go,,,,,,my problem will be motivation...I feel better because some of you have the same problem.....part of my motivation problem is because I dont move around as well as I used to,,,A lot of that is because of age.... I must get my health back that I had.....I have to learn to look at every day,,, instead of how long it will take............
    For me the key to keeping on track is persistence, not motivation. While I do have bursts of imagination and motivation, it is the fact that I am in this for the long haul, no matter how I feel, how good or bad. I just do what needs to be done, day after day.
    Coach Dean-- Thank you for sharing your wisdom and your knowledge !
    I am your fan -- always appreciate your articles!
  • I think I've found mine. It does start with "I don't like how Iook" but it progressed to "I don't like how I feel." That includes "I don't like my knees aching all the time" and "I'm too young to feel this old" and "I'd like to have the endurance to do the kind of walking I'd like to do with my hubby when we sight-see."
  • It's all good and well to not have a negative self-image, but wanting to lose weight shouldn't be just about looks, it should be about getting healthier. I am not going to pretend that my extra 50lb are ok, because being overweight puts me at bigger risk for all kinds of nasty diseases and limits my mobility. Why yes, there is a group of rich people who promote youth, health and fitness - they are called DOCTORS. So, yes, love your body, but realize that it's your job to keep it healthy and active. It's not about being attractive, folks. Its about YOUR HEALTH.
  • I am in tears. I never, in all my 60 years considered this viewpoint. Thank you!
  • Thank you for this article. This is exactly what I needed. I'm printing it out and placing it around my apartment. I wish there was I could bookmark, so I could come back to it when I need to.

    Again, thank you. :-)
    thanks for this article. It made my day!!!!
  • Great article! I really needed this today
    Thank you so much
  • My body is the solution?! What a mind-blowing thought...
  • NEWGAL78
    Great advice...........
    .for me the negative thinking always keep me in the disgust mode. Especially, when I constantly compare myself to what society expects. At the end of the day, I know it's a mind thing and I need to be happy within myself first.
  • I think it's funny that so many folks here say yeah I hate my body (which I do too!! - I'm right there with ya!!) but what's funny is I look at some of you all and go I would KILL to have a body like yours!! and there are probably some people who would KILL to have mine!! I have had people compliment my "success" cause I use to weight about 50lbs more than I do now, and I still see myself as a failure because I have 150 more to go.
    I really enjoyed this article and know that I don't really hate my body but have been freaked out about my loss of mobility and inability to buy clothes, not to mention other people's reactions to me and what I am trying to do in my day to day life. I have always enjoyed how strong my body is and I like the way it feels when I work physically. I like the fact that I rarely get sick though the bummer is that I'm developing arthritis - something I notice everytime I decrease the fats I injest. This article has really given me something to think about - a good direction to head.
    Oh and BTW, I agree with JSAMERO that your statement:
    "You could imagine, for example, that a secret group of very rich and powerful people use the media, fashion and advertising industries to convince people that they need to be thin, hard-bodied, and youthful to be happy, so they’ll keep buying diet books, magazines and gimmicks." is the actually the truth.
  • Thank you for this article!! I suffer from exactly what this article says I should NOT be thinking and feeling. It makes perfect sense as to why I am where I am!! What an awesome beginning step for me to accomplish--lovin
    g me!!!!

About The Author

Dean Anderson Dean Anderson
Dean Anderson has master's degrees in human services (behavioral psychology/stress management) and liberal studies. His interest in healthy living began at the age of 50 when he confronted his own morbid obesity and health issues. He joined SparkPeople and lost 150 pounds and regained his health. Dean has earned a personal training certification from ACE and received training as a lifestyle and weight management consultant. See all of Dean's articles.

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