Motivation Strategies

Get Others Involved in Your Goals

Don't be a Weight-Loss Loner

Coaches, mentors, trainers, teammates, partners, fans. Even the greatest athletes in the world can’t do it alone.

People naturally perform better when others are on their side and helping out. Even in everyday nutrition and fitness, we’ve found that people who involve others and ask for help get much better results and stick to their programs longer than people who try to go the distance on their own.

Why is that? For starters, positive peer pressure can be one of the most powerful motivators around. It’s tougher to quit when someone else is counting on you. In fact, with a team that’s pulling for you, it’s less likely that you’ll want to quit.

When you involve others, you have access to more knowledge, more ideas, more enthusiasm, and more resources. Bicyclists and race car drivers are finding out that they need teammates looking out for them if they have any chance at all of winning. You can take advantage of the same benefits.

Finally, having other people help out just makes weight loss a heckuva lot more fun. Especially for social exercisers, trying to lose weight and exercise alone can leave you bored out of your mind.

Your weight loss goals are every bit as important as those of a world-class athlete. This is why SparkPeople emphasizes meeting and getting to know other members. We’ve seen the Spark that happens on the Message Boards, when members rally behind someone who’s struggling, or congratulate the latest success.

Business people draw on a team of accountants, lawyers, financial advisers, headhunters, board members, etc. Together, they form a team of specialists that open up possibilities to that businessperson and his/her business goals. You can build a similar team around your weight loss goals. People that can help with your journey are all around you. You can do this without making a lot of demands on anyone’s time.
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Member Comments

  • I really appreciate this article and the comments of the "loners" who have worked on their weight loss journey. I thought I was a loner and my previous attempts to lose weight and be healthier has failed. Me and my two sisters are all obese and have all complained about our unhealthiness.

    Now that me and my younger sister live so close, we've been motivating each other to at least be more active. Saturday will be day 21 since we've been walking. Haven't missed a day and are clocking more miles than when we started. So although I was a loner, I'm a buddy person now! - 10/10/2013 7:35:43 PM
  • It was really hard for me, but this time I have asked my husband to help me with my weight loss. Once I broke the ice and asked for his help it has been easier to share my daily set backs and challenges with him. Of course I had to get past the truthful comment, "I have noticed you look big in those new jeans. Did you buy a bigger size?" LOL - 4/21/2012 1:04:07 PM
  • This step is one of the hardest for me because I hate being criticized. Oddly enough (duh) I have been accused of being critical of others. Another realization is that its not about losing weight or dieting - it's about changing your lifestyle permanently. In doing that, I'm finding I may change what kind of people I get along with and do things with. Even with family, I'm changing what we do together. Changing the relationships in your life is a LOT harder than just changing yourself. - 3/16/2012 12:39:17 PM
  • I too prefer to exercise on my own. I do have support from my sons and b/f along with sparkpeople and my dr. I suffer from high anxiety so having someone with me would make me unable to do anything thus not get the benefit of exercising thus not getting healthier. - 1/10/2012 4:49:24 AM
  • I also agree with many of the comments that I have just read. I like to workout on my own. I like to focus and I also like the time for doing something for myself. It is me-time. It is about the only time of day that I get that. - 10/3/2011 6:39:33 PM
  • ALEWIS0807
    I agree. I am a social butterly too, but I like to workout on my own. This way I can do what I want each, aerobics, Kettlebells, running, etc. However, I do agree that having a buddy keeps you motivated longer.
    - 8/1/2011 1:49:21 PM
  • Count me as a weight loss loner, it works for me. I am able to concentrate on the task at hand. Like others have said before, if I feel the need for support I can always rely on - 7/31/2011 3:26:18 PM
  • I am a very social person but surprisingly on this weight loss journey I am a loner. Which is probably why I like Spark people. I have the support of the community without the commitment. I have a couple of co-workers that want to work out together but they are early risers. I don't plan on getting up any ealier than I do already. Outside of work I don't live my life on a schedule. So planning time to workout with others is a little stressful for me. Finding Spark is a great balance for me. I get to do things my way and have a community to share my journey with on my own time. - 7/30/2011 6:48:59 PM
  • Count me in as a weight loss loner. I am a introvert by nature. Being socially engaged takes energy and effort. I have plenty of experience with sharing weight and exercise goals with others. I don't need anyone telling me what's best for me. WE SHOULD ALL STICK WITH WHAT WORKS BEST FOR US. That's the great thing about SparkPeople, no judgement abut plenty of support! - 7/30/2011 5:16:09 PM
  • I CHOOSE to be a weight loss loner. Sometimes (not often thank goodness) I receive UNASKED FOR advice or opinions. This way if I make a mistake IT IS MY MISTAKE without involvement by others. - 7/30/2011 1:37:54 PM
    I am amazed at all of the loners out here. I am a loner as well, and I prefer to exercise on my own. I am finding that this journey is easier for me if I take it by myself. I am not above helping someone out, but people (esp. IRL) tend to give up very easily. I don't want that attitude impressing upon me. I do appreciate the existence of sites such as sparkpeople. I am finding it is a valuable tool to help guide me in the right direction and keep me there. - 7/29/2011 9:02:26 PM
  • I am so glad to see the other loners here!! I don't want a Sparkpage and wouldn't have a clue as to what to put on one. I share what I wish on message board and comment areas, but I just do not feel comfortable putting everything out there. I exercise solo and have resisted a friend who wants me to show him how I do yoga with a damaged knee. I don't want a walking partner; my pace varies with my pain level and I don't want to walk with anybody else.

    I find just enough community in the blogs and message boards. No way am I letting anyone take a "before" or "after" photo. I do not respond well to peer pressure of any kind. I like MRJAY50's comment. Let us find what works for us and go for it. Different strokes for different folks. After 58 years as a loner, I am tired of people STILL trying to make me more social than I am willing to be. My adult son told me I need to push the envelope and leave my comfort zone. No, thanks, not unless it suits my goals and personality. - 7/29/2011 7:55:56 PM
  • I also like the loner way, so far 62 lbs gone so it seems to work for me. - 7/29/2011 4:48:57 PM
  • I am a loner worout person, too. It`s not that I wouldn`t like to have a workout buddy...there`s no one around that is interested or has time. I am so used to going it alone that I think now having someone join me would just change my whole workout pattern and I don`t want to have to adjust what and how I do things to accomodate someone. I set my own goals, go at my own pace, do what I want and I`m doing just fine...along with Sparkpeople! - 7/29/2011 3:41:06 PM
    Surprise, once again we are told not to be the way we are. I am a loner, and I like being that way. I don't like involving other people in my weight loss, it is a highly personal journey. My co-workers are doing this contest, for financial reward, and I didn't join because everyone has to weigh in in front of other people. Um, no thank you, I prefer to do things my way in other areas, and do not have any interest at all in conforming, and am so tired of people acting like that's not ok. Maybe that's why I gained weight in the first place-feeling like I'm pressured to be like those around me when I have no interest in doing so. Some of these articles are just not helpful-more conformism. - 7/29/2011 2:47:52 PM

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