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How to Get the Support You Need to Succeed

Get Your Friends, Family and Fellow SparkPeople on Board

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You wake up to your husband preparing a platter of fruit and a slice of whole wheat toast for breakfast. Your wife always has a healthy dinner—lean protein and fresh veggies—ready at 6 o’clock. Your co-workers have teamed up to start a healthy lunch club. You have countless friends ready to work out at a moment’s notice. A personal trainer is programmed into the speed dial on your cell phone. Encouragement abounds. This is a healthy living utopia.

If you find support is a little bit harder to come by, you’re pretty normal. However, lacking spousal and friendly support can become quite detrimental to your weight-loss plans—if you let it. A good support system is a vital element to reaching your goals. So what can you do to ensure that you are surrounded by social support?

Start with your partner. Sit him down and explain the importance of your new goals; encourage her to join you on your healthy journey. If you are lucky, your favorite person will jump on board to support you, not to police your actions and make you feel bad if you slip up. Rather, your partner should share in the excitement of your progress and encourage you when the going gets tough.

If, however, your spouse and family complain about the new healthy meals you are eating and scoff at the idea of a walk after dinner, you might be on your own. In this case, you’ll have to lead by example. When your family sees how much progress you are making, they will be inspired. Don’t let an unsupportive spouse sabotage your dieting goals. Just because he or she wants double portions at dinner doesn’t mean that you have to give in… you just might have to look elsewhere for support.

Friends make a great support system. Consider discussing your goals, needs, and plans with a close friend. An encouraging buddy may set up a workout schedule with you and pass on that fatty dessert after dinner. If none of your friends are helping you strive towards your goals, try meeting them for a walk at a local park a few times each week. Encourage them to attend and show up yourself every time. Even if just one friend comes, you’ll have a workout buddy that will make things easier—even if just for one day. Hopefully, they’ll see your progress and want to be involved. Once the word gets out that you are staying consistent with your workouts, going to the park no matter what, they’ll come around. Another way to get support from friends is to start hosting healthy dinner parties, where everyone brings vegetables, fruits, or lean proteins, or simply share healthy recipes with one another.
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About The Author

Liz Noelcke Liz Noelcke
Liz is a journalist who often writes about health and fitness topics.

Member Comments

  • I joined with a Spark friend and we each have a calendar and stickers to reward ours selves each day for goal reached and i have so many great friends I going to meet my goals this year. - 1/8/2016 11:32:25 PM
  • I live alone and the friends I have could care less. SP community is where I need yo bget support, along with felklow water aerobics group - 1/7/2016 2:44:50 PM
  • I used SparkPeople 6 years ago and reached my goal weight.....now for various reasons I've gained it all back plus another 50. I can't do any exercise except my exercise bike due to many physical problems and I get discouraged very easily.

    Two months ago I relieved my old girls (dog....Misty)pai
    n by letting her go peacefully at the vets. She was 15 3/4 years old and the love of my life....a week later my other girl (Lady) went blind and found out from the vet she was severely diabetic and so I had to have her put down with no warning.....she was 8 and I only had her 2 years from our local OSPCA. I am still devastated and this Christmas was so hard....both my girls were rescues....I got my Misty at 2....she had been locked in a barn allowed out once a day and Lady came from a Mandarin family that was returning to their homeland....

    So now you all know my whole life even if you didn't want too...

    This time I really want to succeed so I need as much encouragement as I can get......

    Thank You - 12/27/2015 2:16:51 PM
  • I love my SP family! - 12/6/2015 11:25:51 AM
  • GMBRUCE
    Surprisingly this is a difficult one for me. If I tell my husband or mother it will be bad if I end up letting them down yet again. I started a new job and I'm just not close enough with my new co-workers to share something like this. Not sure who to tell. - 12/4/2015 3:43:21 PM
  • Good practical advice and ideas :) - 10/1/2015 12:10:35 PM
  • PISHI54
    LIKE: setting a reminder on the calendar! - 10/1/2015 8:00:14 AM
  • If your phone or computer has an alarm or reminder feature, use it to your benefit..... - 9/4/2015 12:43:48 PM
  • VILLIE50
    Today, I will make a healthy meal replacement shake and eat a piece of fruit for lunch. - 9/3/2015 1:14:10 PM
  • My bother has the habit of buying sugar filled cereal for his kids and for himself most times he does not eat breakfast.
    I have tried to express my concern but he is 11 years older than me and they are his kids..... - 8/1/2015 11:49:27 AM
  • LOLAWESTCOAST66
    Hello,
    I just joined Spark this evening...so cool! My goal for Day1 is I will create a menu for the next 3 days. - 7/30/2015 3:58:55 AM
  • VICTORIA122814
    Today, I will walk Two Miles. - 6/24/2015 3:14:05 PM
  • Today I will use my fitbit for something other than a watch! I will walk 3,000 steps and continue learning how to navigate around on my spark page(s)...Day ONE starts for me June 11, in the mean time...making much better food choices. I love whole foods and always have plenty in the house..unfortunat
    ely all those "junk food" critters found their way back in..time to kick'em out for good !! - 6/7/2015 1:33:24 PM
  • GR8BASS
    Day 1 of the challenge - write down every bite I eat - 5/17/2015 10:59:10 AM
  • I am a widow living alone and my children are totally involved in their jobs etc. I finally persuaded my friend to join me in workouts at the local rec. centre and I'm really grateful for that. We started this week; 3 days a week; with a personal trainer.
    We both have diabetes, arthritis and chronic pain; so need similar routines. :-). - 3/27/2015 7:46:50 PM

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