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My Motivation Has a Name...Almost

Who's Counting on You to Be at Your Best?

-- By Mike Kramer, Staff Writer
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On March 28, (give or take) I’m going to become a dad for the first time. This thought is inconceivable to me, yet seems perfectly natural.

Friends and family promise me that I’m in for the biggest and best adventure of my life. In the next breath, they also warn me that I’m in for thousands of the craziest, most maddening days I’ll ever hope to see.

And I’m cool with that. Because there’s a thought that calms me down and pushes me forward every day – he (for sake of discussion) only wants one thing right now. And I know that I can give it to him.

Sure, he’ll need a house and a room and a place to sleep. He’ll need Halloween costumes, birthday candles and hidden Easter eggs. When he’s 16, he’ll need me to get out of the car so he can pick up his Homecoming date alone. When he’s 30, he’ll probably need me to babysit his kids.

But for now, he really only needs one thing from me – to be at the top of my game. He needs a Dad who’s fit enough, healthy enough and happy enough to do what needs done and have fun doing it. He needs a Dad with enough energy reserves to light up Sioux City, Iowa. He needs a Dad who’ll be playing on the floor more than lying on the couch. He needs a quick, clear thinker, a heavy lifter, and an all-around fixer of things mechanical and personal.

I know that as long as I’m fit and healthy, I can give him anything else he needs. This is my main motivation for my fitness goals.

What’s yours?

Have you ever stopped to think about why you really feel the need to lose weight, get in shape or pursue any other goal? Where in your life do you need to be a "heavy lifter"? Is there something big you’d like to achieve? Is someone (your boss, kids, spouse, community) counting on you? Are you counting on yourself?

Your future depends on what you do today. Choices you make now can affect you (and others) for years down the road. Even the smallest decisions – when added up over time – will determine whether you wind up at the top of your game or struggle along with the status quo.



Skipping a workout may not seem like a big deal. But think of what is really motivating you to lose weight. Is it worth risking that for the sake of watching another "Frazier" rerun? Throwing in the towel after eating a few too many cream puffs isn’t hurting anyone – unless you count yourself and your loved ones.

For your weight loss goals to succeed, your main motivation should grip your attention like a new love. Your main motivation is the best reason you can think of for getting up, getting active and getting healthy.

Do you know what yours is?

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Member Comments

  • FATBASTICH
    Great article. My kids are a top motivation for me as well. Welcome to fatherhood - it's an amazing ride. - 8/12/2012 6:38:29 AM
  • My main motivation is to SURVIVE! I have had cancer two times in two years and now I have it again. Exercising and eating right through chemo will make me feel better physically and mentally and emotionally and SPRITUALLY! - 4/28/2012 4:50:36 PM
  • Congratulations, and thanks for the article! I'm in the same boat. As a woman who is planning on starting a family soon, it's on me to get in shape BEFORE the baby is even conceived. That's why I'm working to lose weight and get healthy. My future children need a strong, healthy body to protect them for 9 months, so that's what I'm giving them (and giving myself also - I've read too many scary things about the risks of pregnancy while obese and/or with high blood pressure). I realize this article is several years old now, so I'm sure you're a great dad to a wonderful kid. :) Thanks for the reminder to think about why I'm working so hard. - 12/10/2011 10:01:28 AM
  • SLIMRO
    And to the member who has no one to love, God loves you. He made you just the way you are for a reason. - 10/6/2011 8:09:18 PM
  • SLIMRO
    Great article Mike and well written !
    I share your sentiments.
    When I huff and puff or deny myself that tasty dessert around the corner to stay healthy, my focus is to be there when my now teenagers will themselves become parents and I want to be the kind of grandparent that will run around with my grand children and laugh with them and have fun without limping or on a wheel chair. If every thing fails, I can say my chest and say I really tried! The thought of declaring that I ran a good run always keeps me going even when I platue for months.... Let us know how your baby is doing. - 10/6/2011 8:06:50 PM
  • My ex-family believes that I'm possessed by a demon and any success I have in life comes from the devil. I'm sure if I told them I'm going to be a homeowner in just two weeks, they would say that the devil caused the housing market to collapse so that abominations like me could steal from god's kingdom. I'm not one gender or the other, so neither gender is interested in me, and since I'm legally male, even when love seems possible, I know I'll always need to hide it away. I'm just not allowed to talk about my feelings the way anyone else can go on about their wives or husbands. My two friends are an on-again off-again roommate and a guy I talk to on the internet. One time a guy was interested in using me for my money to help him raise his kids, but he didn't understand that if protective services learned that an abomination like me was involved with his children, they'd take them away. His religious ex-wife would have had a field day with the way I am.

    I'm not part of god's kingdom, I don't have any loved ones, and that's just the way things are for me.

    I don't see how this is motivational. - 10/2/2011 4:59:32 PM
  • What a great article. It sure put things in perspective and was written so well. Two impressions I got from this article: 1. it's going to make a lot of people reflect about what's important and what's not and what their motivation is ; 2. Mike's 's going to be a GREAT dad. His sense of humor and common sense is going to carry him a long ways. Congratulations Mike and thanks! - 10/2/2011 11:40:57 AM
  • Congratulations, Mike! - 10/2/2011 9:55:47 AM
  • Great article! :) - 10/2/2011 9:14:16 AM
  • Congratulations, Mike! You're going to be a great dad. Kids have a way of amping up the motivation level. - 10/2/2011 9:07:25 AM
  • Mike, great article! My oldest son is 32 and has a 2 year-old and a 4 month old. My entire family motivates me to be healthy. I do enjoy babysitting my grandchildren and strive to be healthy to be at my best to keep up with them! Thanks for this wonderful reminder! Best wishes to you! - 10/2/2011 8:59:17 AM
  • My motivation has many names. Mine, my husband's, my children's and my grandchildren. - 9/12/2011 12:01:50 PM
  • I'm doing this for me. I am tired of being tired. I want to feel good, be proud of how I look and have the energy to do the things I want to do. I'm coming up on 85 pounds lost and I'm so much happier! - 8/10/2011 1:19:09 PM
  • ACERENO
    I want to lose weight for myself, so I can do all those physical activities I used to enjoy doing and so I don't develop any health problems down the road. But my secondary motivation has been because I want to have a child. I want to have a healthy body so I can have a healthy child. The body I have now, the food I had until about a month ago been putting into it, and my current level of physical activity are not conducive to a healthy pregnancy.

    I was a bit down on myself this morning so this article is just what I needed; the reminder that losing weight and getting my body into shape is not just for the me of now but the me I wish to become.

    Thanks for the article and I hope fatherhood is working out for you :) - 10/3/2010 2:15:19 PM
  • Right now this moment I am getting back to my "ideal" "normal" weight - to what I was, actually, about 10 years ago) But that is how I know myself. I mean, it feels like "why on Earth these jeans don't fit, I've been wearing them so recently?" Recently being in college))))
    So first is a very practical goal -I have tons of clothes that are great, but too small (WERE until this summer!!!!)
    But there is also a second reason, and it is very similar to yours: eventually, maybe this year or next, I am going to "think about kids" as my mother says)))
    And I want to be fit by then. I know I will gain weight, but if by then I biuld a healthy way of living I will be able to manage it. And I will be healthy and beautiful for my child.
    That is my ultimate reason for getting fit NOW. - 10/2/2010 10:56:43 PM