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Dieters Find Success With A Spouse

Marriage: Medicine for Weight Loss

-- By Mike Kramer, Staff Writer
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The secret to weight loss may be closer than you think. In fact, it may be sleeping in bed with you.

In a recent poll of SparkPeople.com members, we found out that a number of couples are dieting together. In fact, 14% are going through their weight loss programs with a spouse.

Many couples suggest that they're finding a kind of accountability and support that they couldn't get anywhere else. Perfect examples of how this can work in action are Matt Tausig and his wife Denise. They see their joint weight loss program as a way to accomplish something as a couple. Each has lost more than 25 pounds since January.

"It's one of the best things we've ever done together," says Matt. "If I slack off, I'd feel even worse for letting her down than for letting myself down."

Holly Little, SparkPeople personal fitness coach, hopes more couples follow this trend because "losing weight with a spouse works." She cites a recent Indiana University study in which couples going through a fitness program together were 5 times more likely to stick with it than if they tried it alone. Researchers believed that the results held for unmarried couples as well.

The Tausigs had tried dieting alone before and it never worked. "One person in the household dieting doesn’t last long," says Matt. Since starting SparkPeople, they go grocery shopping together, enter their food in the nutrition tracker at the same time and talk about things they’ve learned on the site. This is quite a change for Denise, who was never confident enough before to even tell Matt what she weighed.

"This wouldn’t have had the same effect for me if I was doing it by myself," says Matt. "We push each other and cheer each other on. It’s really collaborative and we won’t let each other off the hook."

"Most people cringe at the idea of dieting along with a spouse. A lot of self-esteem and vulnerability are in play," says Holly. "But online dieting is a different dynamic. Weight loss can be a positive experience and bring people closer together. With objective people online waiting to help out, there's not as much pressure to bear the brunt of frustration along with being the sole source of motivation."

Vicki and Chris Michaelson agree. Chris volunteered to help and support Vicki when she signed on with SparkPeople. He does most of the cooking and is very careful to make sure of serving sizes and measurements.
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Member Comments

  • My husband I are walking together and he's supportive of my SparkPeople progress... It's great! I had to ditch my plans for being able to walk Bay to Breakers this year due to a convention we need to attend and he wasn't ready to ramp up the walking too much, but after the initial disappointment I realized we're in it for the long haul and that's a good thing! - 2/16/2013 1:57:31 PM
  • Everything's easier when the people around us support us! That's a rare situation. We have to do things for ourselves and let others do their thing--otherwise, it'll drive us crazy--in my case crazier :)

    I know so few people with supportive loved ones (including myself). I know what's best for me. And that's all I can do. - 12/26/2012 11:15:36 AM
  • Wish this was an option for me! Long before this article I asked my hubby to help me out by joining me. For the longest time he wouldn't, because he did not need to. In the past 2 years he has put on a lot of weight! Part of me thought, "Yay! Now he will know how it feels and now I will have a partner for my (our) weight loss journey." Awful I know, but I couldn't stop the thought it just happened. Unfortunately he still won't join me! Boo for me! He just lost 10lbs for no reason and I have gained 5lbs. Bah! Every time some one ask me to be their workout/diet buddy the leave me hanging and not long after the quite I slowly fall off too. I think I need to focus on doing this by myself for myself. Still wishing hubby would join me though! - 12/26/2012 10:52:55 AM
  • Gosh, I wish my husband would share my walk to a new life. One thing I can say is that he eats the meals that I prepare at home. My doctor told me that since I control the groceries that come into the house, I can control what is served in our home. This works for us. - 11/2/2012 12:11:47 PM
  • @CINDYB3511 It's actually not. I want to lose 30lbs, he wants to gain and add muscle. Lol I think it's how we spend our lives, we eat a little and gain weight. Men eat the same meal and are unaffected. - 10/3/2012 11:45:17 AM
  • My husband too has diabetis. When he found out, they put him on meds. I have had mine for 30 +yrs. He was eating what ever he wanted. I kept telling him that the meds. only done so much he had to eat better.For awhile he did,he fell of the wagon,this has happened allot. The only meal he eats healthy is dinner, but some times he want eat what I cooked. I even told him if he didn't take care of it now, he would end up on insulin, so he asked his doctor and she told him ,he was nowhere near that. If she had told him,that could happen, I could keep him on track. He is a meat and potatoes man. I told him I was tring to lose weight.He sais maybe he should. That is the end of that. If I drop enough weight that he notices it , he may cheer me on , right now if I didn't get support from sp and from some of my family I would have none. He is the type that would go out and buy me a cake for a reward for losing it. Any suggestions? - 10/3/2012 8:32:46 AM
  • SANDIBETTS1
    Interesting comments--positiv
    e reinforcement is alwasy a plus. - 6/9/2012 7:25:01 AM
  • CINDYB3511
    i need to lose weight. he needs to gain weight. ironic i think. - 6/1/2012 2:34:31 PM
  • Hello. My husband isn’t dieting with me, but he does encourage me. When I have a weigh-in and lose a little or a lot he is always there to congratulate me. If I don’t lose any he gives me support and encouragement. If I suggest we go on a bike ride at night he will go with me too. He will also play the “Just Dance” games on the Wii with me, and helps me with other exercises I want to try/do.

    I wanted one of the single serve blenders but wouldn’t pay for one myself. For Mother’s Day that is what I received. I’ve been using it every day now to make a fruit smoothie. The frozen fruit and yogurt I use is an added expense, but when we go to the store he will ask if I need to get more. - 6/1/2012 1:04:42 PM
  • MANDREE
    I wish I could get my husband to join me. I am going to need some suggestions and ideas of how to get him to join. - 6/1/2012 11:31:09 AM
  • The biggest problem I see with this is if the other partner drops out or "cheats," you might also be tempted to do the same. - 5/27/2012 2:42:26 PM
  • My wife is the reason I found SP! She started in Aug 2010. I noticed change and, in Oct 2010, I joined her in support. Since then, we lost a combined 170 pounds! We are now living a healthy lifestyle and on a life's journey in Paradise here in Florida! It just gets better every day! - 5/25/2012 8:05:09 AM
  • I wish this worked for us. I prefer to control my portions, eat healthy, drink lots of water, etc. and engage in daily, moderate activity for about an hour and a half (walking, physical housework, etc.). My husband likes to eat whatever he likes and spend his lunch hour running 5 miles and/or doing spin class, TRX, etc. My husband resents my attempts to eat better ("You know if you worked out harder/more, you could eat this.") and I resent his pushing at me to be a gym rat. Since his activity always occurs when he is away from home, our time spent together is the eating part which is so hard on me. When I cave in and start eating what he does and gain, he blames it all on my fast walking. I get all resentment and no support because he can't see doing things any way but his. If only my partner were as supportive as those in this article, I would have reached my goal years ago! - 5/21/2012 4:01:15 AM
  • I have been on this journey a few times. I really started back up in January and have lost 17 lbs. My husband on the other hand started three weeks ago and has already lost 10 lbs. He is working out due to his work making everyone who has insurance pass biometrics (bmi, waist measurment, cholestorol, blood pressure, smoking) tests. For him he will work out and it will be a temporary fix because he can lose weight quickly and he'll probably gain it back because he wont stick with dieting/excercisi
    ng once he passes his tests. It's frustrating though. We do keep eachother responsible if we go out to dinner, he asks me what he should be eating. But we are both so competitive and I find myself getting frustrated when he says he's down another three pounds and I've only lost one in the past two weeks. I'd almost rather do it alone so I don't get jealous :) - 5/11/2012 9:25:09 AM
  • I don't have a spouse, or a man in my life at all, but I have my DAUGHTER - who has joined me in Spark to get fit and lose weight she put on due to a dislocated knee in July.. We are cheering eachother on, pulling eachother together to ensure we work it out together. Since starting again in January 2012 I have lost over 14lbs and she has lost 11lbs. I have a lot more to lose than her, but we are both striving for the same goal - to get fit, stay fit, change the pattern of our life and get ready for my sons wedding in August! - 1/31/2012 7:52:56 AM