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''I Thought I'd Always Be Fat''

One Member Shares What a Difference a Year Makes

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One year ago, I went to lunch with a co-worker. When the waitress came over to take our drink order, I ordered a Diet Coke. The woman looked me up and down, snorted, then asked, "Diet?" in a very snotty voice. I just sat very still and said, yes. My co-worker kept his gaze down and pretended it didn't happen. I made a face, but then thought that maybe the slight was in my head. Maybe I'm being overly sensitive. Maybe she wasn't making a comment on my weight. When she came back with my soda and my co-worker's iced tea, she also brought a glass of water. As she placed my soda down onto the table she said, "Now drink your water. There's 'no refills' on soda." Throughout the meal she came by and refilled my co-worker's iced tea and gave me dirty looks. It was completely and totally humiliating. I didn't finish my meal or the soda. I wanted to. I was hungry. I just couldn't let her win.

Of course, by acting differently than I normally would have, I had already let her win. She wanted to make me feel bad, and she succeeded. I should've said something. I should've drank my soda and told her I'd pay for another. I should've asked to speak with her supervisor. Something. But I didn't do any of that. I just let her walk all over me.

You might think that was the moment I turned my life around, but no. The next couple of days came and went. I felt miserable about myself and stuffed my face with cookies, which made me feel even more miserable. I knew I needed to get control of the situation, but I had no idea how. My whole family is obese and I have been for most of my life. I didn't grow up eating well-balanced meals at home. We ordered out all of the time, sometimes more than once a day. Nutrition labels meant nothing to me. The only ways I thought of trying to lose weight were drastic. I had briefly tried Medifast, but I was so calorically deprived that I felt weak all of the time and was extremely moody. I had tried restricting what I ate on my own, but experienced similar results. In both cases, my diet would last a couple of weeks and end by bingeing when I just couldn't take it anymore. I hated myself for it. I figured that losing weight was something I was just never going to be able to achieve. I was always going to be fat—someone to be made fun of at restaurants.
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  • Thank you for your story it was very motivating and I'm very happy for you that you have done so well. Maybe you should have gone back to the restaurant and sat in her section again and ordered a diet soda again and said remember me. What's so ridiculous about her comment is you could have been diabetic besides it was none of her business. I had a similar experience to you when I was heavier it wasn't a waitress but a sales rep in a clothing store. I was looking at a rack of tops and she said to me those won't fit you they are way too small. I was devastated today if someone said that to me I'd say how do you know it's for me and oh by the way I'd like to speak to your supervisor. People can be so prejudice and ignorant. You've done really well no matter what hold your head high you have every right to be proud of yourself. All the best to you. - 5/23/2016 10:39:32 PM
  • It's so funny that you spoke of the noticing challenge. I had my spark last Dec and am working hard at losing the 70 lbs I need to. But I had your same experience. I wanted people to notice but no one really did until around 30 lbs. Now everyone asks about it.. It's pressure.. like what happens when I hit a plateau or what if I fail... It will be public.. I can't help the negative thoughts. Congrats to you for your success and for stating what so many of us have experienced. - 4/4/2016 2:54:19 PM
    Thank you, I am still searching for my a-ha! moment. I really struggle between the hard of being overweight and the hard of losing weight. Congrats to you. I also hate when people notice when I lose weight. My twisted thought process always tells me that it only means that they noticed how much fatter I was before! Weight is indeed a struggle! Congrats again, and thank you for sharing. - 3/15/2016 1:20:27 PM
    I don't understand how a waiter/waitress could say something to you about your weight? I've been in that business for a long time and I would NEVER say anything to anyone about what they ordered to eat OR drink!

    Yes, I am overweight and I am probably more sensitive to the subject......I REALLY HOPE YOU DID NOT LEAVE A TIP FOR THIS SERVER! (that would send a message to the server about their "service")

    Congratulations on your weight loss! - 2/29/2016 1:15:45 PM
  • "Life isn't all or nothing." Thank you for that. - 2/3/2016 7:42:34 AM
    Wow! I might be sensitive today because I'm reading this at work and it made me tear up! Thanks for posting this. I'm at the beginning (again) of my weight loss journey and I'm frustrated. This was really insightful and encouraging. Small steps and lifestyle changes make a huge difference. I'm even going to email this to myself to read when I'm discouraged. Thank you again! - 1/28/2016 9:14:37 PM
  • Touching and inspiring. Thank you for sharing your story. - 1/25/2016 12:26:09 PM
    Thank you for sharing! It helped me today! - 11/9/2015 5:18:56 PM
  • Thank you - it is so nice to not feel alone in this process - 11/9/2015 9:35:58 AM
  • Thank you Alexa for sharing your story. So motivating, that was just what I needed. - 8/13/2015 1:55:55 PM
  • I read this early this morning, and it's just what I needed to motivate me today. So, thank you for sharing! - 8/6/2015 2:29:01 PM
  • Thank you and congrats. - 8/6/2015 9:00:14 AM
  • Thank you for sharing your story with us you hit the nail right on the head with this one. That's exactly how I feel like im always going to be fat but you have motivated me to stop being lazy & start getting busy no one is going to do this for me but me.

    Thank you so much : ) - 8/5/2015 7:54:49 AM
  • Thank you for sharing! This article gave me the motivation I was looking for today. - 7/21/2015 10:29:21 AM
  • Alexa, I had the same one year SparkPeople progress from 2X and 20 down to 10/12, with only 24 more pounds to reach my maintenance goal. It is all I can think about because even I am in disbelief, and I did the work! - 1/11/2015 12:01:17 AM

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