My Motivation Has a Name...Almost

On March 28, (give or take) I’m going to become a dad for the first time. This thought is inconceivable to me, yet seems perfectly natural.

Friends and family promise me that I’m in for the biggest and best adventure of my life. In the next breath, they also warn me that I’m in for thousands of the craziest, most maddening days I’ll ever hope to see.

And I’m cool with that. Because there’s a thought that calms me down and pushes me forward every day – he (for sake of discussion) only wants one thing right now. And I know that I can give it to him.

Sure, he’ll need a house and a room and a place to sleep. He’ll need Halloween costumes, birthday candles and hidden Easter eggs. When he’s 16, he’ll need me to get out of the car so he can pick up his Homecoming date alone. When he’s 30, he’ll probably need me to babysit his kids.

But for now, he really only needs one thing from me – to be at the top of my game. He needs a Dad who’s fit enough, healthy enough and happy enough to do what needs done and have fun doing it. He needs a Dad with enough energy reserves to light up Sioux City, Iowa. He needs a Dad who’ll be playing on the floor more than lying on the couch. He needs a quick, clear thinker, a heavy lifter, and an all-around fixer of things mechanical and personal.

I know that as long as I’m fit and healthy, I can give him anything else he needs. This is my main motivation for my fitness goals.

What’s yours?

Have you ever stopped to think about why you really feel the need to lose weight, get in shape or pursue any other goal? Where in your life do you need to be a "heavy lifter"? Is there something big you’d like to achieve? Is someone (your boss, kids, spouse, community) counting on you? Are you counting on yourself?

Your future depends on what you do today. Choices you make now can affect you (and others) for years down the road. Even the smallest decisions – when added up over time – will determine whether you wind up at the top of your game or struggle along with the status quo.

Skipping a workout may not seem like a big deal. But think of what is really motivating you to lose weight. Is it worth risking that for the sake of watching another "Frazier" rerun? Throwing in the towel after eating a few too many cream puffs isn’t hurting anyone – unless you count yourself and your loved ones.

For your weight loss goals to succeed, your main motivation should grip your attention like a new love. Your main motivation is the best reason you can think of for getting up, getting active and getting healthy.

Do you know what yours is?

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Member Comments

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@MIKE KRAMER - I feel you've anticipated and captured the potential joy of being a Dad, and you've hit squarely on this issue of discovering the real basis of motivation. Weighing less, running further, and fitting comfortably into last year's clothes are all intermediate goals in the service of something more important. But knowing what that more important goal is is crucial and something I'm afraid I don't know for myself. It makes my health and fitness efforts feel shallow and unimportant However, it's up to me to discover my own fundamental goal. I'm glad you've discovered yours. Report
there are ups and down but its one of yhe best things in life just enjoy being a DAD Report
I never thought about naming my motivation. I guess it would be my health Report
You are headed towards being a great Dad! Keep up the good work! Your gonna love it! Report
good article. Thanks. Report
Awesome...thanks! Report
Inspiring blog - very motivating. Thank you! Report
thank you Report
Being the only parent left for my two girls, being the only grandparent left for 3 of my 4 grandchildren, needing to be strong enough to take care of myself - my reasons. Report
Great article, great responses. Report
At my age, and after many years of postponing the healthy decisions, my motivation right now is to avoid the nursing home. Report
It's been 14 years since you wrote this. Hope you loved all those crazy parent moments. Thanks for the reminder of why health is so important. Keeping up with the kids and the grandkids is so important. Report
It's all by choice, SparkFriends and I choose to motivate myself. If I can watch TV for an hour, shop or be on a computer, I can use some of that time at the gym and still, make time for the things I prefer to do. No regrets in not getting it done. Report


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Mike Kramer
Mike Kramer
As a writer and artist, Mike has witnessed countless motivational stories and techniques. See all of Mike's articles.