Secrets of Success

Stop With The "I Can'T" - Hold Yourself Accountable



When you catch yourself saying I can't exercise, or I can't pass up a chocolate doughnut, change it up to "I Won't." By saying "I won't" do something instead of "I can't" forces you to hold yourself accountable! "I can't" gives you an excuse; "I won't" says I am responsible for my own actions.

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When you say I can't, that implies that you do not have the ability. If I say I can't exercise tonight, I have given myself an excuse. If I say I won't exercise tonight, that is my decision. I won't thereby turns into, I won't tonight, but I'll fit it in elsewhere-a walk at lunch perhaps.

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  • You are exactly right. Sometimes I tell myself "You can do this." Then I remember, it is not me that does anything--and I give Him the praise for carrying me through. emoticon - by PARKERCM
  • As a former bulimic, I often made myself powerless to the disorder- "I can't help myself, I'm powerless to control it."
    There is a certain freedom to realize that every action is a choice made. Even simply changing the way we think from "can't" to "won't" helps shed the illusion of powerlessness. - by LITTLEHOUSE333
  • For me, I'm reminded of one of my favorite verses in the Bible, taken from Philippians 4:13, I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me....When I face adversity or a tough situation I remember that I'm not alone and it is the Lord who stands with me and will take me by the hand and walk me through! Thank you for sharing, it is good to be reminded that we are all accountable for our own actions. emoticon emoticon - by JUDITH316
  • TEEKAY25
    Thank for a great tip, CNewmark!! - by TEEKAY25

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