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1 Step Back, 2 Steps Forward

Don't Let a Setback Stop You from Pushing Ahead

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My Spark Friend, PINKHOPE, really brought this home to me when she said, " If you break a traffic rule one day, you just don't continue to break all the rest of the traffic rules that day".
So now if I eat something wrong, it is done and over with, I don't keep eating incorrectly the whole day!!! this has been a big help to me! Report
BLPAGAIN
This article came JUST IN TIME for me. I have had two really screwed up days and I've been so frustrated. Thanks for making me just take a look and "regroup" which is one of my failings. I usually just throw in the towel so to speak. Great article! Report
MAY21IWILLDOIT
Thank you for this article. I am doing things right - oh,, Ok, not exercising as I should but time and physicaly problems are cursing me. Two more days and time will no longer be an issue.
Perservance, Perservance, Perservance, Perservance and determination. Report
This was a nice article! I saved it! This article really describes me right now. I'm glad I read it! Report
DAWN0237
i really needed this today!
i feel like there was a camera viewing my step back yesterday.
i'm ready for my forward steps today. Report
this was an helpful article :) Report
Great article! Report
EVACLAIRE
I already read this article but it means more for me now than other days. I severely sprained my ankle the other night at a soccer game, to the point of fracture. I'll need to think some very loud fitness thoughts for the next 2 to 3 weeks... Report
Yes! This article really resonates for me. I joined Sparks on Jan 5th, and have been so delighted with the site, and with my progress. I found tracking the food to be enormously helpful, and got a treadmill to overcome my sedentary ways.

I loved the treadmill, and although I have lost 1 pound a week since I joined (out of the 25 pounds I needed to lose), I wasn't satisfied, and wanted to speed up the process. So instead of setting the treadmill at 2.2 mph, I cranked it up to 2.5-2.7 mph. Well, I have a titanium hip that screamed bloody terror the following day! I could not get back on the treadmill for several days, and really felt like the sky had fallen. I actually started overeating (went up to 1600-1700 calories for several days, instead of my usual 1200-1400 calories.)

I had to sit myself down and give myself a good talking to! I have read so much on this site about goal-directed behavior, about forgiving ourselves, and moving forward. Those setbacks only increase our resolve, and make up more motivated to reach our goals.

So, now I am back to the proper daily calorie consumption, and have been able to resume the treadmill for the past 2 days, albeit at 2 mph!

I have read so many blogs here from people who "gave up" and then realized how wrong they were, and got back on track to realize their goals. Thankfully, my "downfall" only lasted a day or two!

Sparks is such a great place for inspiration! If not for all of your inspiring stores, I might have given up! Thank you Sparks Friends! Report
A wonderful article! I am living proof of this. I originally started with Spark People two years ago last December weighing 245 pounds, and got down to 180 within ten months. Then I slipped and went back up to 200. Determined not to give up, I hovered there for another ten months before dragging myself back on the wagon and moving forward.

On a recent vacation, I gained five pounds, but quickly lost them again once I was home and back in my routine. Now I'm moving forward more determined than ever. Slips-ups happen, people, but they don't have to mean the end! Like Mike said, try to figure out a better strategy for the future and keep walking forward. It's a win/win situation!

Thanks again, Mike! I love reading your articles.

Jan Report
Thanks for the inspriation & motivation. I really needed that! I got back on track 2 days ago after having one bad day. I thought I was going to start over, instead I started with where I was suppose to be. Thanks for reminding me that I'm human! Report
Thanks for this. I used to just eat yuck for days or months or years after a choice I regretted, feeling hopeless. Now I just get up, dust myself off, get into the truth of what reality is- read my Bible & remember what has been accomplished. Now I pray and move on, much much quicker by focusing on the truth. Life is so much more enjoyable when you LIVE it rather than watch from sidelines feeling guilty & thinking you cannot accomplish anything. This year, I want to really live my life, enjoying & savoring moments that will not come again. Each minute, each day, is a new moment to enjoy. Jesus died to set us free, I am free indeed! Report
Thanks for the motivation to keep me on track. I always like the thought that in baseball if you get a hit 3 times out of 10, you are considered a great hitter. 4 times out of 10 is such a rarity no one has done it in ~70 years.

K, time for some celery with low-fat cream cheese! Report
I agree with your principle. I want to move away from "steps back" and "steps forward" thinking, though.

"Steps back" still sounds like I did something wrong. I may, in fact, have made a conscious decision to step to the side for a meal or a day or a vacation. If it's to be a true lifestyle change, it can't be a linear journey. It's more like a ballroom dance, maybe a tango. It's a coming together and moving away, over and over again. Overall, though, if done with care and planning, it's a thing of beauty.

I went on a fabulous vacation last week. I absolutely knew that I was going to eat whatever great food I wanted, even dessert sometimes. I knew that I would drink whatever I wanted. I would also drink my water and eat lightly when I could. And I would exercise more than I used to on vacation. I gained a few pounds in that week. And, when I got back to drinking all my water, staying to the bottom of my calorie range, and exercising, I lost the 6.5 pounds I gained almost immediately.

Not a step back or a step forward, just a fabulous twirl! Report
This is a great article for those days that didn't go the way you plan them, I love the quotes at the beginning. Report

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