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11 Nice Ways to Say 'No' to Food Pushers
Politely Turn Down Food at Parties and Gatherings
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I recently had this happen that someone brought me a piece of dessert they wanted me to try. In turn, I shared with other people, so I was honestly able to say I had tried it and what I thought of it and the person was non the wiser that I had shared it and saved myself a lot of calories.
If someone doesn't just accept my "no thank you" and continues to persist, I go to plan B. I just offer them some of what I've been eating without labeling it as a healthy choice.
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True food pushers don't want anything pushed on them, especially anything they view as healthy.
I usually tell them I'm I'm allergic, they say really. I say yes, it makes me fat!! And that is no lie
I read this article and I have to be honest there aren't many things in here I would use. One of the biggest things that come to mind when someone offers me something and I don't want any is No thanks!. If I haven't tried a food I'll generally say "I know it looked delicious but I'm full. I try to make healthy choices with the first go around and if something really looks appealing I will get just one single bite if I know its going to be a lot of calories. But, I would never put myself in the situation to lie.For other things if people really want to think I'm obsessive that's their own business I know the truth that logging and tracking my food keeps me accountable. Maybe there will be one day where it isn't as necessary but, for now it is! If someone says that to me I would say "No, I'm trying to make better food choices and I already enjoyed my meal this time. I'm also not going to say no to leftovers, I can either eat them sparingly, mix them in with other foods so that I add nutrition to the dish, or just share them with my family. I hope that sparkpeople decides to add some other helpful information to this article in the future.
I was just shocked when I read this article and I was surprised that the editor let this article go to press. I won't use lies to keep a food pusher away. I won't say I've already tried a food and it was delicious if I haven't. I won't say that I'm driving unless I am. I won't say that I don't like a food or can't eat a food, unless that is the truth, and I won't say I've overloaded on a food if the truth is that I would absolutely love to eat it but know that I shouldn't. I would focus on the health issue. You can use that for every single food pusher scenario AND it's the truth. "I don't want to eat that right now because I am trying to improve my health so that I will live longer to spend time with my friends and family." If they say, "But it's only this once." You can say, "If everyone tells me that every time I turn down a food, then it wouldn't be only once." Better yet, you probably already know in advance that you are going to go to wherever it is that these food pushers exist, so why not make room in your diet plan for 1 to 2 bites of something you might otherwise turn down. My son made bread pudding and I had 2 bites, entered it into my log and made sure that the rest of my day was balanced. It worked perfectly. As far as the alcoholic beverage offer is concerned, I can honestly say, "It's not worth the calories." I get as much pleasure out of a refreshing glass of iced tea as I get out of a cocktail or glass of wine and I've saved those calories for something else!
Just don't tell people to lie. It's wrong and it should NEVER be suggested. If you think that "a white lie" never hurt anybody, then you haven't taken into consideration the ramifications that can occur if you are caught. Also, once you start telling lies that are "OK", lying can become a habit; then before you realize it, you're telling them more and more often. Soon, you will be caught and you won't be deemed trustworthy anymore. No, lying is definitely not worth it. I refuse to do it.
I agree with alilduckling, I wouldn't encourage someone to lie. A couple of helps in situations like these: One is to put the food on a plate and walk around with it. Then you just eat what you have decided to eat and leave the rest. Hopefully no one would pay so much attention to you when they see the stuff on your plate. The second suggestion is to let your hostess know ahead of time that although you will be enjoying her food/party a lot, you won't be eating everything, and why. Most people do understand, and she might even become your ally when you need one. And...You can always run into the kitchen and wash some dishes or something! About leftovers, just smile and take it, and then give it to a friend, maybe even someone leaving the gathering who would appreciate it more than you do. The "saboteurs" probably mean well, they don't understand how difficult the process is...
Thank you. I needed this today!
The article doesn't mention it, but when you take those leftovers home and have more control over them, the garbage can is also an option! Sad, but waste or to waist!!!
A true food pusher won't stop. We have one at work and a neighbor of mine is one as well. They just keep at it until you either get short with them or you give in. Be strong and be firm.
I agree with the majority of comments here - a clear 'no thank you!' with a smile, is fine - or even 'not at the moment, thanks'/'not right now, thanks'.
For me, the comments about 'you don't need to lose weight' etc are the most button-pushing ones !!! I'm likely to say nothing and just smile!
Good suggestions, but I rather like taking home leftovers! There's so much you can do, so many different meals you can make the next day or the next that don't have to be unhealthy. That's just me, though
My favorite come-back when someone tries to push food on me is:
"I'm sorry but I'm allergic!"
If they ask what happens when I do eat that item I say:
"I break our in fat!"
Then I walk away quickly as they react to the last sentence.
Somehow I think that the "I've already tried some, it was delicious" is going to get you a foil-covered plate of leftovers to take home with you and then repeats every holiday. Stick with the other options.
Interesting suggestions. However, the food pushers I've run into have not accepted my first or second, "No, thank you," or " No, thanks; I don't care for that." Saying I'll try something later didn't faze one woman, either. She kept pushing me to try her specialty NOW, no matter what. I wanted to take the bowl and dump it on her. When I walked towards another section of the table, she freaking followed me. I didn't want to leave the event venue to escape, for heaven's sake! The article may refer to kind, reasonable folks offering food, but true PUSHERS seem to have an agenda, and it can be horrible trying to withstand them! I will NOT eat what I do not want any more, but I have problems being assertive, and I end up miserable, trying to politely refuse, to escape, something.
On the other hand, yes, I have had respectful acceptance from folks I've met in recent years. It was incredibly refreshing. But they were politely offering -- they did not qualify as true food pushers. I wonder if these suggestions work mostly with reasonable, respectful people. I like the idea of pushing the food around on my plate, but I think it's a shame it has to come to that.
A simple "No, thank you" is sufficient.
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