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Is Weight Loss Hurting Your Relationship?

The Real Issues and How to Address Them

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Not to mention the extra time and stress associated with meal planning/prep and exercise Report
Thankfully my partner is very supportive and has loved me at every weight. My mother on the other hand will go out of her way to sabotage my efforts. Report
TOMORROW-C
Actually it has improved mine. My DH has been very supportive. Report
Just ignore them like you would any other person in your life exhibiting these behaviors. They are grown adults and can make their own choices - if they make the wrong choices, they will bear the consequences Report
the article was quite interesting. Some of the comments though....! Report
ELRIDDICK
Thanks for sharing Report
With my ex, whether I lost or gained weight, I was in the wrong. So I left him and the weight started to fall off... Now with my lovely very husband of 6 years, he wants us both to be happy and healthy, so we’re both losing weight! Report
Definitely interesting. It really does change relationships (If you let it.) Report
I thought this was a very, very good article, full of helpful information and insight. I didn't appreciate the negative viewpoints about it, since it covered many scenarios, and covered them well. Thank you! Report
Some good info. If you think it’s not going to change your relationship, think again. It could be for the best. My hubby wasn’t on board at first but he’s supportive now. He fluctuates. Report
This article is like all the others as far as "take what you need, discard the rest". Not all situations fit each of us and the dynamics of our relationships. Doesn't negate the writer's intent, doesn't mean she is wrong. SparkPeople delivers info to a huge audience of members. Try to appreciate what they do for us instead of nitpicking. Overall, great article. Thank you. Report
thanks Report
ANGELHOUSE1
It would have been better if this had been written by a psychologist, not a trainer. Most of these "why's" are just plain wrong. The first one where her family is worried about her is all about their fear for her. If they have never seen her at that weight, or she has lost weight rapidly, then a lot of people will jump to "eating disorder" fears in their mind. To them, she already looks healthy. So they worry (needlessly).

So many of these are wrong. The spouse usually isn't eating in front of you to deliberately sabotage you most of the time. They are just doing what they always have done. You are the one who has changed, not him.

Some spouses do deliberately sabotage, but to start from the assumption that it is deliberate is a good way to have a terrible relationship. Report
TOMATOCAFEGAL
wow, yes, need family and friends willing to work with your plans Report
My husband was in the habit of ordering deep fried appetizers to share. I would take 1 and refuse more. Eventually, he would look at me and ask if I'd share an order. I'd say no but he could order and box leftovers. He doesn't order as often anymore. For Christmas he even got me a fitbit. How supportive is that. Report

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