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I'm so sorry for your loss. My miscarriage happened at almost 13 weeks. The baby stopped growing at around 11 weeks. I ended up going to the ER with mine because that is what my nurse suggested. It is there that we found out that the baby didn't have a heartbeat anymore. We went to the doctor the next day and he suggested that we have a D&C since I was so far along. I agreed because I didn't really want to have to relive it everyday for as long as a natural one would maybe take. It took us 5 years to get pregnant with that baby. Our doctor told us that as soon as I had a cycle, then we could try again. We ended up getting pregnant a few months later. Now we have a 6 year old son.
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7/27/15 10:33 A

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I am so sorry for your loss Jojo. I understand the pain as I was just there in April. I miscarried while I was on my honeymoon/anniversary trip in Bora Bora. I had an idea that it could happen as I started spotting earlier in the week and had had an emergency ultrasound which showed a baby and beating heart but with some bleeding. Needless to say is ended a few days later while boarding my flight. That night I had a few clots and my bleeding and clots continued for about a week. I had one day where I had really terrible cramps and back pain, passed two large clots and then only bleed lightly for another few days. It definitely is different for everyone. We in one way were lucky we were away because we were able to spend the time together and it was a pretty relaxing trip in it self. We often did our activities in the morning when I felt better and then relaxed in the afternoons when I started to get more cramping. I can't see why you can't work out as long as you feel up to it. I continued to do everything I normally would have. You will definitely have days where you feel good and you will have days where you just plainly feel sad and that is ok! Cry and mourn as you need to. It isn't easy, but with every passing day it will get better. My doctor said I should wait one cycle and we could start trying again if we felt ready... I wasn't sure it would be enough time, but by the time my cycle returned (about 33 days later) I was just ready to start trying again. I wish you the best and a peaceful time of healing. Don't let it discourage you from trying again, but don't start before you are ready.

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7/24/15 7:03 P

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Thank you ladies. Dealing with this at work has been tough. I thought I was doing pretty good, but today, not so good. Glad it's Friday and I can regroup. I think the physical part has took it's tole on me, and the stress at work has not been kind. I just want to crawl in bed and hide.

Dr actually wants to see me on Monday to make sure my body is dealing correctly.

Thanks for all your support. I really appreciate it!~




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7/23/15 8:48 A

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I am sorry for your loss, JoJo. I echo what all the other ladies suggested. Definitely listen to your body and yourself. If you want to go for a walk, you should be ok. If you need a day to lay around and be comforted, by all means do that! I wish you peace during this time!

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7/22/15 10:54 P

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Oh JOJO I am so sorry for your loss. I had two back to back that were very different. The first I was told by the doc to let it happen naturally and spotted for four weeks on and off (but mostly on). They did have me come in on my planned appointment date to check my HCG levels to see if they were going up or down. The second happened on the cycle immediately after the first. It was heavy and painful and intolerable. I didn't even know I was pregnant again as the spotting from the first never completely ended. The doc told me the same thing - let it happen naturally. Six weeks total of bleeding and spotting. Talk about dragging on the heartache!

Anyways, when I felt up to it, I found that exercise gave me an outlet and focus to move forward and be healthier for the next time around... and it worked! So, I would say, exercise is definitely not a bad thing - especially if you listen to your body and take it easy at first. Go for it - the endorphins may help you move forward.

We're here for you as you move through this - as others said, I found that talking about it helped tremendously. Thinking of you over here and sending hugs!

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7/22/15 5:37 P

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I am so, so sorry to hear you are going through that. I have had two miscarriages in the past and it can be so difficult, especially when your doctor's office just takes it in stride and you don't know what to expect. It is good that they aren't pushing you do have an unnecessary medical procedure when your body can handle the miscarriage at this early stage, but I know I always felt really alone and scared when they just told me to "let it happen."

Every woman is different of course, but for me, both times, the bleeding lasted two weeks or more, and was occasionally heavier with lots of cramping. Both times, I seemed to have one final really painful day, and then just a little spotting for a day or two after, and then it was over and I felt okay again. Definitely take it easy on yourself - if light exercise makes you feel better, go for it (walking helped me sometimes, other times I just wanted to curl up in a ball!), but don't overdo it. Your body is already under a lot of stress, so take time before you get back into heavy exercise. Also watch out for anything that is a blood thinner like alcohol (and some pain relievers), because that can make the bleeding worse. Don't be afraid to take a day off if you can afford it, nothing is worse than trying to sit at work and act like everything is okay when you're in pain! Give yourself time to grieve, too... One thing that always surprised me with both miscarriages is how much I felt the loss, even that early in pregnancy. I was incredibly sad, and even after a few months still had times when I would get rather upset. Find someone you can talk to - friend, counselor, partner, whoever. And let yourself take time to heal emotionally.

As for the doctor visit - mine never actually asked to see me after the miscarriage, just said to make an appointment if anything out of the ordinary happened. You may want to check with them to see if there is really a reason to go in. Although it seems kind of insensitive, I've found most doctors don't do much until you've had 3 miscarriages - that seems to be the cut-off point where they decide you might actually have a problem. Although, with mine, they were happy to arrange HCG + progesterone blood panels and an earlier ultrasound with subsequent pregnancies, because they knew I was concerned and wanted to find out if things were going as expected (plus they can put you on progesterone supplements if that is low). So, anyway, my point is just that when/if you are ready to try again, don't be afraid to ask questions and push your doctor's office to monitor you at a level you feel comfortable with - whether that is more or less than they initially offer you.

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7/22/15 4:13 P

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I'm so sorry for your loss...you sound like you're handling it well. I've had three miscarriages and I let all of them happen naturally. I don't know if everybody's experience is the same, but for me, there was one day when the actual miscarriage happened. A lot of cramping and a lot of bleeding. I unfortunately was at work, but hopefully you'll be at home and can just take ibuprofen and rest. I think exercising is a great idea once the bleeding subsides. For me, talking about the miscarriage helped and I was surprised how many of my friends and women that I spoke with had had miscarriages as well. Good luck and I know you'll have your happy baby soon!

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It started Monday and is official at 6 wk 5 days I suffered a miscarriage. I was wondering if any of you lovely ladies that have gone through it can give me some insight on the physical changes. My Dr is more of a naturalist and basically so when I called when the spotting started the nurse told me to let nature take it's course and he will see me at my scheduled appointment in 2 weeks. Is that normal?

While I know everybody is different, is there things I need out watch out for? Is it realistic to think I can start working out next week? I think moving might help me feel better both physically and mentally.

Any other advice would be greatly appreciated. Even with my advanced age, my Dr. didn't seem to do anything different with me than he would another patient.

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