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I'd never eat meat to spare somebody's feelings. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings for sure, but it is what it is, you know?

"I eat everything that nature voluntarily gives: fruits, vegetables, and the products of plants. But I ask you to spare me what animals are forced to surrender: meat, milk, and cheese." ~Unknown


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My mom said cottage cheese with those pineapple rings on top was "salad".

A typical entree was cube steak (the gristle-filled kind that was beaten to death with some kind of mallet), dipped in flour and fried.

Granny Rose actually served less crap, since she couldn't afford it. Lots of pinto beans, cornbread, vegetables from the garden, oatmeal, baked sweet potatoes, wild berries. cornmeal mush.

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Ooh, yuck. I distinctly remember my first introduction to cottage cheese. I'd grown up in India, had read about cottage cheese, and how yummy it was. And I believe the first time I tried it was with yucky, slimy canned pineapple mixed in. Yuck, yuck, yuck. :)

Now, I actually DO like (well, okay, I tolerate) cottage cheese, but I think if I ever had that canned pineapple with it again, I'd probably turn an interesting shade of jello-yellow. :)

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emoticon Y'all are making me laugh. My parents used to just dump cottage cheese out in a bowl and put those pineapple rings on top. Not exactly the same thing but I bet I know where they got that idea!

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My MIL glowed in the dark, too.

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It's one of my MIL's "specialties of the house," so to speak.

I've always wondered if it glowed in the dark. She does.

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I think I've actually EATEN lime jello marshmallow cottage cheese surprise. I think it had pineapple in it, too. Now that's a dish that's got "1970's pot-luck" written ALL over it!

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Haha! That was fun! Now I want to watch the original!

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Tee hee... there is a song about the 50/60's casseroles that made me mention that... anybody heard the Lime Jello Marshmellow Cottage Cheese Surpise song?
I couldn't find my favorite version the Youtube, but here's a fun link...
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An old Bolcom & Morris classic.

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"Cottage cheese surprise octopus" -

Feeling just a tad queasy here...

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I'd hate for us to get a sudden craving for cottage cheese surprise octopus, now that no one will offer it to us.
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Hmmm ... licorice - I'll agree with the Yuck votes on that. But squid? No way. :D

Good thing no one's offering me the cottage cheese surprise octopus ...

Hey, Boo, I'm finding that being honest means a lot less having to say "No, thanks" - they don't ASK as much! :D

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If MARE'S (Royaletbone's) Grandmother were to come to me with cottage cheese surprise octopus, I think it would be a difficult decision. I'm sure she'd want me to be truthful, though.
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Squid and licorice were very popular in Nargothrond, much like lutefisk in Minnesota. Lucky I'm the Queen and get to eat what I royally please.
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Dearest Queen Legarathien of Nargothrond...

I hear you on licorice and squid. I'm afraid I'd turn down both of those, too - yeccch!

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In reviewing this discussion in my head... I think the only time this issue comes up is when we've changed our own behaviors, and are in a situation full of prior pressures- like, 'you always loved my cottage cheese surprise octopus!' deals. Family heirloom kinds of deals... cause there is so much diversity in diets and needs, that I sure don't run into it in public situations... But if my Grandmother were to come to me with cottage cheese surprise octopus (no, not a real dish), it would be a real hard one for me. Lucky me, all my ancient relatives have passed on, and all my younguns have their own stuff they are working on... Daughter was briefly a vegan, currently going on a sugar clearance. Que serra. She doesn't seem to be in a body battle, just interested in optimum health--- at least, I think so. She has not had any visible weight issues since she was 8... oh, heck, now my Mom mind is wondering if she battles this crap at all.
Sigh. When she was 8, some lunatic Dr said she was overweight in front of her, and I chewed them out. Se was about 3# 'over', and every female in my family went briefly chubby before the adolecsent growth spurt, with no lasting damage in our teen years other than morons who said something about it.

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I agree that mutual repect and good manners all around would allow EVERYONE the freedom to choose their own food. To each his or her own. I wouldn't feel right pushing food on others, if they didn't want it.

I know there are SOME foods, I wouldn't want to eat, even to be polite. I have no trouble saying "no, thank you" to squid or licorice. If it was something like cake, I might think twice.
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I respect anyone's - and everyone's - right to eat what they wish. That only seems like decent manners to me...

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I've been vegetarian for, gosh, 17 years now, and I've never been told that I've hurt anyone's feelings by not eating meat with them. Never lost any friends over it, either. In fact, it's been so easy and straightforward that I can't even imagine a world in which someone acted offended if I politely declined meat! I guess I've been fortunate.

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Linda, maybe you're right. I have always been pretty adamant about what I'll eat or not eat and people probably have taken note... But also as you all say, so many people with their different diets have made the general population more tolerant.

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Heh. I discovered while just a little girl that *some* things you can assert, even if you're just very little.


"I don't drink coffee, thank you." and "I don't drink tea, thank you" and "I don't drink milk, thank you"

Those three earned me some major negative feedback from my parents and from family friends. But even as a little girl, I knew I wanted nothing to do with those three beverages, and I WOULD NOT BUDGE from that stance, no matter what. :) It was considered majorly rude in India to turn down coffee and tea (still is, for all I know) - but everyone I know has LONG since accepted that Maya doesn't drink those things. They never even ask any more, or they start to ask, then grin and shrug.

As I've grown older, I've found the exact same sentence, paraphrased, works for everything else I dislike or choose not to eat. Whipped cream, a treat for most people I know, makes me want to gag. So I always refuse.

Interestingly, even when I turn down things they know I *do* like, people are more willing to accept it, probably simply because I've already turned down so many things *they* like. :)

And last night, I turned down the whole party which was held in my brother's home, where I currently live. I got home from work at almost 6, they and the guests were ready to head to the movies to watch Avatar - I told 'em I'd probably be asleep by the time they got back at almost ten, so please party on without me. And, amazingly, I seem to have slept through the whole thing. I *love* being physically tired enough to blank on a party. :)

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I think you're right about this, LINDA: "I think as people adopt various diets, and there is much news about food allergies, people in general have become more tolerant."

I'm noticing that there really IS less of the food pushing. And I've also noticed that people don't mind when someone says, "I never eat (whatever it is); I've never liked it." I, myself, never drink beer because I don't like it. Wine is another matter.
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12/31/09 5:43 P

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I choose not to eat meat, but seafood is OK. I would not knowingly eat meat, even if anyone is rude enough to force the point. Salee100 (Susan) said "(for some reason) it's pretty rare to have someone force something on me." Do you think that's because you have been steadfast in your refusals and they've finally given up, or because it's a lot more common for people to be vocal about their dietary choices/needs? I have a friend who refuses to eat anything creamy - ranch dressing, casseroles, cream sauces, etc. - and no cheese either. That comes from a childhood dislike, and he is adamant about *never* eating those things. We have learned to work around it when we have potluck dinners. We think it's silly, but there are people who think not eating meat is silly, too (Ted Nugent carries that to the extreme...) So we try not to make judgments about anyone's dietary choices. Live and let live. I think as people adopt various diets, and there is much news about food allergies, people in general have become more tolerant.

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boy, do I understand that! My sister lost alot of weight and she eats everything still, just very small portions. She will buy a huge cinnamon roll for instance and cut it in tiny pieces and freeze them. I need to learn portion control, I have a hard time with that.

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It's worse with family, but with my friends, we all have so many food oddities that we are all pretty comfortable with what everyone else does or doesn't eat.

My mom won't push me to eat if I bring up the diet, but my mom-in-law is generally of the opinion that "a little bit won't hurt." We are trying to convince her that there IS no "little bit" with us. Once we start we can't stop and if we take it home we will eat it until it's gone. There's no such thing as forgetting about it, saving it for later, or freezing the rest.

So, yeah, that's a thing we need to work on...

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Oh Great discussion.

My MIL is allergic to the most random things- she doesn't even know most of them exactly so if she wants to try anything she'll just take the tiniest piece and wait about half an hour to see if she'll have any reaction.

She ordered pancakes once at a restaurant thinking there is no way they could be trouble but sure enough an hour later she was passed out and swollen up! Turns out they used organic flour and it was probably however the flour was processed that caused her reaction.

I try to stay open minded because trying new things I've found lots I've liked but obviously if something is really just super sugary/fatty looking I will politely decline.

If I were vegetarian I don't think there is anything that would make me eat meat for someone- I wouldn't ask anyone to try something the really didn't want to "for me" and I would hope they wouldn't ask me too much either.

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Thanks Tami, I'm going to be making my pies on Friday (my parents are coming to dinner on Saturday). I'll let you know how it goes.

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LOL, it's ironic that in my house, organic butter is the healthiest option because no one is allergic to it! I'm going to make pies this evening so if I run into any changes, I'll post.

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Thanks Tami!

I'm having my folks over on Saturday and will be making several pies and I think I'm going to be using this recipe. I might substitute smart balance for butter though. My dad is a health freak like me;) I'm sure it won't taste as good because nothing beats butter for flavor but I'm thinking the recipe will still work... I'll let you know how it goes.

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It's really easy but the crust is a bit more delicate when rolling out so be aware of that.

Pie Crust

8 TBSP very cold butter (I keep it in the freezer)
1 1/2 cups oat meal (old fashioned rolled oats)
2 TBSP potato starch plus more for rolling
1 fat pinch salt
1 TBSP sugar (unless making a savory dough)
1 tsp cinnamon (optional)
1/4 cup ice water.

In the bowl of a food processor, grind the oatmeal until it's a fine powder that resembles flour. You could sift it but I usually don't bother. Put in the rest of the dry ingredients and pulse to mix. Cut the butter into small chunks. Turn the processor on low and add one or 2 chunks at a time and process until the mixture looks like coarse cracker crumbs. Drizzle in the ice water a little at a time just until the mixture forms a ball. Don't process too long! Remove to a piece of plastic wrap and use the wrap to help shape the dough into a flat disc. Chill at least 30 minutes. Then remove the dough from the fridge, cut it in half and place the unused half back in the fridge until ready to use.. Dust the rolling area with potato starch and roll out dough to about 1/4 inch thick. Place in pie pan.

For a pie with a prebaked crust preheat oven to 425F. Then put parchment paper in the bottom of the pie crust and fill with pie weights. Bake for 10 minutes with the weights, carefully remove and bake for another 10-15 until golden brown. Cool and fill.

For a baked pie such as apple or cherry just bake according to the recipe.

Do me a favor and if you use this recipe, let me know how it works for you. I've made it 2 or 3 times but I'm still always tweeking things. I'm thinking of starting up a blog for recipes for people with allergies and it's always nice to have someone besides me test a recipe. Thanks!

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Tami, can I have the recipe for the oat pie crust? I always struggle with making a healthy crust... I'm making a few pies for Thanksgiving... it would be greatly appreciated!

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Corn IS difficult. It gets worse though. My youngest son is mildly sensative to soy (also in everything) and my stepdad finally listened and did an elimination diet and found out he's allergic to soy, corn and wheat! Obviously I'm cooking EVERY bit of Thanksgiving from scratch!

I actually like the challenge though. I've already figured out how to make a slammin' pie crust out of oatmeal and a little potato starch. I like it and I don't even like pie crust. Also, I've been working on a recipe for Irish Soda Bread that's made with a combo of oat flour and potato starch.

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Corn IS in a lot more foods than I realized. Gluten is another one that is in more foods than we would expect, even salad dressings and some seasonings.

My daughter was diagnosed as a celiac last year and her health has improved greatly, after a year on a a gluten-free diet. She has finally convinced co-workers that it's a serious health issue for her and that she isn't just being difficult when she turns down certain foods.

Someone, I think it was Tami, talked about our food choices being a medical decision, when allergies are involved. Our weight is a medical condition, too. We're entitled to work toward our goal of losing weight, and once we convince people that we're not trying to make them feel bad, I think many people will support our efforts.

I know I wouldn't be disappointed if a person chose to not eat something I had prepared. Like someone else mentioned, I like to have choices for everyone when I have guests.



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wow, it must be EXTREMELY hard to be allergic to corn! It's in EVERYTHING!

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11/21/09 10:18 A

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I'm not a vegetarian, although I have been at different times. Right now, I don't eat things like nuts, seeds and raw vegetables because I have an ileostomy and those things could cause a blockage. I would never allow someone to pressure me into eating those things and I always ask specific questions for me and for my daughter who is allergic to corn and peanuts.

I've found that if you want people to take you seriously, tell them that you have a medical condition and be vague. Being a vegetarian because you want to eat healthy IS treating a medical condition, even if there's no specific diagnosis. It could be anything. I have a friend who is able to stay off depression and bipolar meds by following a nearly all raw diet. We often laugh about how our diets that we eat (I eat lots of lean protein and not much grains) would quite possibly kill the other person but for us they work just fine.

As a friend or family member I would never pressure someone to eat something they didn't want to and I hate it when people do that to me. Even if I was someplace where they already prepared the food, I'd eat around it.

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I'm a vegetarian, and I wouldn't eat meat to spare someone else's feelings. I expect (or at least hope) that others will have respect for my beliefs and not try to pressure me to eat something that I'm morally opposed to. I wouldn't try to get one of my Mormon friends to drink coffee.

I wouldn't eat something that goes against my doctor's orders to be polite. I have chosen to eat things that probably aren't the best for my diet, but only when I'm comfortable doing it. I'm also fine with going to a birthday party and not having the cake. If I don't really want it I'm not going to waste calories on it. There have been occasions when I've eaten small quantities of non-meat foods I don't like to be polite, but that's usually something like vegetables I would normally avoid.

When people come over to my home I always try to accommodate their dietary restrictions, except of course for the snarky ones who inform me they're on an all-meat diet.

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For sugary stuff, I use my standard joke these days- 'oh, I'm mildly allergic to that. I can only have a small bit of it, or I start to swell up- it's terrible1'- and then I pat my tummy. People laugh, but don't push me.
I grew up in casserole country, where one dish was often really the only thing served. I remember having difficulty with what to eat... sure seems like there are more things pulled apart these days, and I'm grateful for that!


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That tends to happen with alcohol more than anything. I'm always torn on not having a drink or what not but there are times I offend with glee. Mainly cause I know I can push a button with the offering party. That and people learn that I am social in drinking but cant even have one and drive home without it ruining my evening etc. They learn in time that if they offer me a beer and I ask for ice-tea to just give me the damn tea.


Food stuff is similar. Though when someone is pushing me to eat something "I dont like" or "cant recognize" I've found that I am sometimes happily surprised. Key thing being if someone forces it on me, I will take a portion. None of that "just a small serving" crap from me anymore. They know if I dont want it or it is too much the rest is headed for the garbage. And if they dont I make sure to let them know I tried it at least. One bite of pie to share in their good wishes is often enough to keep the peace without being an as*hat. No sense in alienating everyone right? :) One bite of pie, however rich, is not going to undo anything. Worse case I walk an extra 100 yards somewhere to make up for that. Big whoop.

Everything in moderation, including pissing other people off. There is enough strife without creating it unwantingly.



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I never was taught good manners, apparently. I have always been comfortable not eating stuff I didn't want. When I was much younger I managed to offend more than a few hosts... now I'm much better and (for some reason) it's pretty rare to have someone force something on me. I do a pretty good job of eating a lot of what I want at parties. Fortunately I don't go to a lot of parties!

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Wow! Gotta love that daughter of yours! emoticon

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No I wouldn't and am SO proud of myself when I say no thank you. My family knows how much my health has improved since changing my lifestyle and they are so pleased with my efforts. They don't try to sabotage me. In fact on Thanksgiving my daughter will point out which foods she made healthy changes in and point me in that direction :)

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Will vegetarians eat meat to spare another person's feelings? Since I'm not a vegetarian, I'm more a dessert-e-tarian, I could easily eat or not eat the meat. And over the years, I've learned to politely turn down food I didn't want to eat. When I WANT it, is when it gets tough. I really make an effort to watch PORTION size (after so many years of inhaling desserts). I don't want to go back to those days.

If someone pushes you to eat ANYTHING "for them", would you you do it? What about pie, cake, anything else that's against your doctor's orders? Would you eat MORE when you're no longer hungry, TO MAKE ANOTHER PERSON FEEL BETTER? If so, do you ever feel subserviant afterwards? Or sad?

Do we ever weaken and overeat to please another person, when it's secretly because WE want to overeat?

Is it OK with you, if a person with a health/weight issue turns down any of your food? How do you feel about it?

There are no right answers. This is just an opportunity to unload some of our worrisome thoughts as we prepare for holidays.
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Edited by: BARBARA_BOO at: 11/20/2009 (18:38)
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