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5/21/16 10:29 A

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Hi,

I am so sorry for the loss of your Grandfather. My most sincere condolences to you and your family. Grief is such a slippery slope. I lost my Dad just two years ago and my Mom 20 years ago and I still cry whenever I think of them. It is hard to get through the grief. I'm glad that you have a "psych" with whom you can discuss your grief and who will help you through it. I wish that I had some magic words to help you with your grief. The I'm Having A Bad Day thread is a very compassionate place to post if you need extra support. Sending you positive energy and hugs. We are really excited that you have decided to join us on this journey! Take care and God bless, Deb emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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5/20/16 1:29 P

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I'm sorry for your loss and I wish you comfort and peace for today and for each day ahead.
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5/20/16 11:38 A

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Hi Angie. I am sorry about your Grandpa. I left you a comment on your blog then went to go to your page and it disappeared. They changed them on Tuesday and everyone, well, a lot of people are upset. If you look ar your post here, you have no SP page. You have about 3 different user names over the years.

Get the junk out of the house, then you can't eat it. After my knee replacement, I wanted the evening ice cream and snacks that we got in rehab. I knew I would put on weight, the Dr told me I would. I put on about 20 pounds from the meds, fluids and such. I didn't have to add to it though. For about a week I had the ice cream and M&M's at home, then I said no more. I am back in maintaining range but not to where I want to be. I know you have 2 teenagers and it is easier said than done, I live alone. Have your husband hide the stuff.

I know there is a big difference between losing someone you really love and having surgery. You know I lost my Dad and I still miss him every single day. Be good to yourself, don't beat yourself up. My body went through a trauma, your soul has gone through a trauma. I am not saying give into it, but understand it. Do you like fresh fruit? When you feel like eating, go for a walk or distract yourself by doing something else.

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5/20/16 10:25 A

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I offer my deepest and most profound sympathy to you and your family on the lost of you grandchild. I know how you feel and understand what you're going through. Grief and the depression that is associated with it is a difficult time and all of us suffer in different ways. As hard as it may seem, we have to go through the process. I have no suggestions, only prayers.

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I went to send you a SparkGoodie, but your SparkPage isn't set up. You will find you get a lot more support if you have yours opened for other members to access.

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As the previous poster said, "Grief is normal,"

You know what? My husband died December 2012. Last night I had quite a blub in bed. I still grieve. There are no rules re time-frame or how you grieve. This is normal.
When he died very suddenly,I felt like I had been given a right kick in the guts. It didn't affect my eating but it did affect me in other ways. I decided that throwing away all my good work on my weight-loss was NOT going to happen because it wouldn't bring him back, and I would like get physically ill because of it. He wouldn't have wanted that.

When my father died 36 years ago, it affected me with my nutrition .... I DIDN'T eat much for nearly a week.

Everyone is affected in different ways. That doesn't mean that you are doing anything wrong. You are trying to cope the best way that you can.

If possible, however, try to ensure that you get at least one healthy, nutritious meal a day because this will actually help to provide you with the good fuel to help your grieving. Also, keep on hand healthy munchies - things that you would be likely to grab rather than pass over for other stuff.

I am glad that you have qualified help at this time. I had a Therapist for a few months after hubby died. Sometimes we didn't even talk about my situation - sometimes we just talked about the house she and her hubby had just built, or other issues, but it was still very good for me.

Take care, and keep in touch.
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Normal? Grief is normal, of course. What I wonder but have no way at all of knowing is whether this emotional eating and wanting to sleep all the time and heavy unhappiness and sense of falling apart is an appropriate grief response for you, or if it's an overreaction compounded by depression.

Is this something new since your grandfather died, or is it pretty much what's been going on all along?

Is this "psyc" a psychologist or a psychiatrist?

I don't have a clue what to do to put the brakes on the munchies.

But I do hope this psych will have more to offer you and can give you some real help.

And my condolences on the loss of your grandfather...

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Hi all. I was doing pretty good eating well until my grandfather passed away on Sunday. Since then, I've said *f it and ate whatever I wanted. I think it'll make me feel better but it makes me feel worse. Problem is, I don't want to do anything but sleep. Nothing makes me happy. I went to see my psych on Tuesday and she told me all this was normal but I feel like I'm falling apart. What can I do to curb the munchies?

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