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11/8/19 11:32 P

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Hi Susee,

I've been menopausal for 10+ years and am presently sitting at 95+ lbs. below the high experienced. The weight has been lost slowly with the bulk of it (85 lbs.) being lost in 18 months and the remaining 10+ lbs. coming off since the sideways trend emerged in December 2014.

Despite the slow weight loss, I have loose skin all over my body. All of us have our own feelings about the excess skin. And, some of us have more of it to contend with than others. It seems that there are many factors that impact how ones skin responds to the weight loss.

You may also find this thread of interest - Living with loose skin:
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11/8/19 11:07 P

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Hi Susee,
I experienced some almost overnight shifts in body parts during my menopause process. The jiggly dimply stuff is indeed disconcerting, but I work to be grateful for function over form. Every time I bend over from the waist or squat without a problem, I give thanks. It's not always easy, but I try to keep my mind in what's more important. After all, we can also be thankful for Spanx!

Edited by: POINDEXTRA at: 11/8/2019 (23:08)
Maintenance is as much work as losing, but it has the advantage of allowing us to do it in cuter clothes - BESSHAILE

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11/8/19 3:45 P

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I am so grateful for this group of people who have "been there". I am within a few pounds of my goal weight. I've lost 60 pounds and have recently struggled with the appearance of facial wrinkles, saggy/dimpling skin on my thighs. I don't ever want to be obese again but I am wondering how to deal with these "negative" consequences of weight loss. It took me four years to lose the weight and it is hard to look in the mirror and like what I see even though I know I am healthier and better off. I try to focus on the positives but I'm still bothered by what I see.
Any advice?

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7/17/17 10:20 P

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I had less weight to lose than many Sparkers. I'm now maintaining to a target 33 pounds below my initial Spark weight, and 57 pounds below my all time peak weight. It took me about a year to become accustomed to a smaller body image, with a few lingering surprises over the second year.

It also took people who met me when I was overweight about a year to get used to the new me. For that first year, there was a lot of concern expressed about my health, and that I had taken off too much weight. Some people were afraid to compliment me on weight loss for fear that it was an indication of a health problem rather than an intended self-improvement.


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7/17/17 9:46 P

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You are such an inspiring and wise bunch! I love your attitude and am encouraged by the dedication and enthusiasm for maintenance and healthy living.Thanks!

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7/16/17 8:20 A

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I'm 3 (?) years into maintenance, and I still have days when I feel "big" and days when I feel "small", days when I see differently in the mirror hour by hour, and all those times the scale is about the same and the clothes fit the same. I spent years not feeling my body so I so think that has something to do with it. Congrats!

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7/14/17 5:31 P

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I like it so much that I just kind of embraced it and quit worrying about it!

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7/13/17 10:41 P

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I'm still getting used to being smaller 14 years into maintenance! Just the other day at work my office mate remarked that I might be too thin to donate at the upcoming blood drive, so he apparently sees me as tiny. When I told him I weigh 115, he looked it up and I apparently do weigh enough.

Maintenance is as much work as losing, but it has the advantage of allowing us to do it in cuter clothes - BESSHAILE

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7/13/17 9:09 P

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I'm 5'4", too, and never felt tiny until I started riding motorcycles. I am "inseam challenged", not tall enough to ride those glorious adventure touring bikes. Or sport bikes. I envy tall, long legged women, they can ride ANYTHING!!

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7/13/17 8:47 P

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You're right, PHEBESS that people are getting used to the new me as much as I am. I've also had a couple of salespeople/cashiers who don't know me call me the T word.. One was shorter than me AND two sizes smaller (she volunteered her size as we discussed the challenges of finding smaller sized clothing). If I am tiny, she is teeny LOL. So I think there is also the issue of people not understanding what "normal" weight is anymore.

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7/13/17 8:35 P

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Thanks SUSIEMT. I find the folks in this forum to be so inspiring and encouraging. I seem to have a talent for losing/gaining weight. Maintaining is the skill I am determined to hone for the rest of my life. I can't think of a better bunch of people to "hang around" to make that happen!

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I would guess that other people are seeing you and remembering how you looked before you lost weight - so that in comparison to that memory, you look tiny or gaunt.

I lost weight at one point in my 20s, and got down to a size 10/12 - which was fairly average for someone 5'6" with a rather large frame. My aunt, who was not quite 5 ft tall and a bit chubby, said I looked positively willowy. Yeah, hardly. I just thanked her.

So, yes, it takes a while to see ourselves differently. It also takes a while for other people to see us differently as well.

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7/13/17 8:08 P

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I just want to congratulate you on your success. Woo Hoo you and to answer your question. It took me about 3 years and that was after excess skin removal before I got accustomed to seeing this new person in the mirror or the store window. :)
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7/13/17 5:23 P

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I agree!

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*To seek happiness, identifying the Self with the body, is like trying to cross a river on the back of a crocodile." Ramana Maharshi
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Well I think tiny implies way shorter than 5' 4" LOL. After so many years of being so heavy I am actually thrilled to be a much smaller size. I just don't think I fully see how small I am. I do think I have some distortion in how I perceive my appearance. It is weird. I know what sizes I wear and know they are smaller than what I used to see as not achievable before. Yet it doesn't fully translate as I look at most of my clothes or my appearance in the mirror/pix.

To answer your question, If I did see myself as tiny, it wouldn't change my actions. I already understand that given my weight, height, gender, activity level and age I need to monitor/manage my calories carefully. I don't need that much food to maintain my weight. The important thing to me is doing my best to stay healthy and enjoy life. I think my current weight will assist in those goals :)

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7/13/17 4:09 P

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Most people don't see their bodies accurately, and IMHO, it's so driven by arbitrary cultural values that can vary by the individual so much that it's not a very important measure of anything anyway. Whether you perceive yourself as tiny or not, unless you equate it with worth, and that's easy to do in just about any culture, it's a small issue.

On the issue of how long it takes, I can't say because my impression about my body can be influenced by so many things, so it's fluid.

BTW, out of curiosity, would it change any of your habits if you did see yourself as tiny? It's fine if you'd rather not say.



Six years of maintaining a 20% weightloss and counting.
*To seek happiness, identifying the Self with the body, is like trying to cross a river on the back of a crocodile." Ramana Maharshi
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8 years and counting! nosdiet.com/
*Get to the next meal hungry!
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7/13/17 3:11 P

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Thanks. I also agree about skinny bashing even as some of the same people gleefully fat shame.

At work, I have noticed people spontaneously explaining or justifying their food choice to me, often as we are passing in the hall as they carry lunch or a snack. I am incredibly not observant about such things and so am always startled by their unsolicited explanations. I try to smile vaguely but what I want to say is "I'm not the food police." Like the unsolicited comments about my size, I think it is more about them than me. I certainly don't care about what they eat. Jeez. :)

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7/13/17 2:23 P

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Good to know And congrats on your amazing success.

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Brooklyn_Born, sorry, I did not mean to imply I thought I was too thin. I don't and neither does my doctor. I agree our society seems to have lost all perspective on what is a healthy weight. My question was about our own perceptions of our size because mine hasn't fully caught up to the new me. I am not gaunt and tiny would only be in comparison to some, but I guess I am thinner than I realized. I think I have the "slow eyes" NellJones mentioned and like KATIE3908 am learning what size I now wear and look best in. :)



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7/13/17 1:44 P

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I too had a hard time with my new size. I kept buying clothes that were too big because I was afraid of buying clothes that were too tight and uncomfortable. You'll figure it out and get used to the fact that you're smaller.

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7/13/17 1:35 P

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I have slow eyes. It took awhile for my perception of my weight loss to match what was real. It also takes me awhile to accept new home design styles or car styles or hair styles or anything else. When it's new and different it just looks so wrong, but with time my eyes adapt. I figure it's the same as other people's perception of my appearance.

That's some people, mind you. I remember when my brother shaved off the mustache he'd worn for years, and no one noticed. It goes both ways.

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7/13/17 1:23 P

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If your BMI is within recommended ranges, chances are that you are not "tiny" let alone "gaunt." Keep in mind that as society has gotten ever larger our perception of normal weight has become skewed.

Also, as my tag line documents, clothing manufacturers have added to the problem by adding inches to each size over the last 50 years so that a size 0 now has the measurements of a size 6 or 8 back in the 1960s.

If YOU decide you want some extra pounds, that's a lot easier done than taking them off. Just keep in mind that "skinny bashing" has become a real thing." Make up your own mind.

Edited by: BROOKLYN_BORN at: 7/13/2017 (13:24)
Size 10 Measurement charts
1960 - 32.5, 25, 34.5
Today - 38, 30, 40.5

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Just wondering if it took some time for people to view their new or current size accurately after losing weight. I ended up losing about 25 lbs more than I had decided on, for a total loss of over 200 lbs. This puts me at the lowest weight since I was in high school (maybe college -- it's been a while LOL). I am very happy with how I look and feel. But there seems to be at least some disconnect between my perception of my size and what others describe. A number of people have used the word "tiny" which I don't see at all. I figured they were saying that since I am not especially tall (5' 4"). My brother described me as gaunt, which I dismiss as familial hyperbole.

At any rate, a friend who is naturally thin (food has never been important to her and she is very active) and one of the people referring to me as tiny, mentioned what size clothing she had ordered from Land's End where I had just bought similar/same items. I was shocked she ordered 3 sizes larger than I had. She is maybe two inches taller and even with differences in preferring how clothes fit, I never would have guessed at the disparity. So I looked at a few recent pix of me and after looking hard I guess I can see that I am fairly slight. I just don't feel that small. Does body image eventually catch up to reality after a while? I have spent a lot of time not paying attention to often painful reality, so it might be a skill I need to work on. :)

Thanks.

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