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8/5/15 2:28 P

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Barb I love your expression: "low-key success"...fits me well too. Although I've gone from 450 to the low 200's I still struggle with my weight, my self-image and hardly feel as though I have "arrived" and am a model to follow.

I do think my day-to-day choices have some positive influences on others, but I'm in this primarily for my own health and wellness. If I help others too, that's super and adds to my motivation.

All the success stories seem to side-step and give too little credit to the support system (hooray SparkPeople!) that is SO necessary to so many people in order to succeed in losing and maintaining that weight loss.

No gimmicks can replace the necessity of connection with others!


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8/5/15 11:39 A

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At my heaviest, I was probably about 50 pounds overweight. A good amount, but not dramatic enough to ever make me famous. I've gotten super-skinny (back in the 80s I actually bought some 29-inch waist pants and they fit) but was never able to stay slim. If I had learned what I know now about maintenance, things may have been different (or not, who knows?) - but I always learned something about myself in the process of losing the weight.

This time feels different. The support system here gives me the feeling that I will actually be able to keep the weight off. Social media and the Internet provide oodles of information and encouragement. I still love food, but my relationship with it has changed. I guess you could say I'm not "in love" with food any more.

I so admire those people who have 100 or more pounds to lose and do it. My friend Bryan has already lost 160 pounds (that's almost me!) and I am incredibly inspired by him. I'm also glad that I wasn't labeled a success story just for losing weight. It's not what I want to be famous for.

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8/5/15 10:13 A

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Hi All, I love all the success stories every single one. I love the hero conquering the evil in there lives. I love watching the biggest loser or Chris Powell with an obese person struggling to lose weight. It is always an inspiration to me. I can relate to the struggle. I can push on and succeed. We can all do this with motivation and hard work. Linda from bean town emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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8/4/15 11:07 P

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I have kept my weight off for a long time, but have never been recognized for anything exceptional. The world expected me to move on and I did. Stories back then were about celebrities, the rest of us just went about our business. My maintenance was a private, and until Spark, lonely journey. Jared was just a fat guy who lost weight until Subway decided to cash in on his story. Weight loss and maintenance isn't a straight line proposition. I used to think everyone was looking at me and judging me, and I finally figured out that no one outside of my chosen circle even sees me, let alone has an opinion. I still weigh and measure and write it all down, mostly for the comfort of doing it. I am grateful every day for the relative anonymity of my life.

Jared didn't fail. Who knows what really happened? Oprah didn't fail, she weighs exactly what she wants to weigh at this point in time. I assume that the former Duchess of York and Kirstie Alley, and all the others who lost weight publicly are doing what they want to do. Who am I to judge? I have no opinion, and wish them all well.

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Original Goal: 114. Current old lady goal: 106.

 current weight: -0.2  under
8/4/15 8:57 P

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It seems to me we have a love/hate relationship with success stories. In earlier attempts, being touted as a success DID throw me off my game, and I regained. I waited quite some time before I let Spark use me in a "Success Story" post. Even longer before I let myself be featured at my workplace as a "wellness advocate" success story.

But now, I've got around to a point where being a "wellness advocate" is about far more than weight loss. People want to focus on that, but I focus on the change in lifestyle and FEELING better. Because as much as people want to make it about the numbers on the scale, that's not what it's about... and most of us who have succeeded long-term know that.

Some people love to see success stories brought low. Somehow it makes them feel better when Oprah regains weight. Why? I am sure I don't know. And when you're out there as a public "role model", it truly sets you up for not just fans rooting for your continued success, but some rooting for you to FAIL epic-fashion!

I hope to remain a low-key success... just living life one day at a time!

- Barb

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8/4/15 8:40 P

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So I've been watching the Jared Fogle investigation with interest. I used to tell the story often of nearing goal, freaking out by all the questions (practical and existential) and getting mocked finding solutions that addressed both at once. At a key emotional moment I saw a billboard of Mr. Fogle, smiling a blank smile, and showing off his fat pants for Subway, thinking "you're of no help whatsoever and if that's true, then I'm on my own."

A lot of time passed before I realized it wasn't just me.

Besides, all the "success story" hype tends to overshadow the strategies and stories of those fighting the unseen battle of keeping weight off. Or at worse, companies want you to be their PR monkey or their sales associate without actually supporting your needs now.

Even before the science, it all begins with a media image of blank smiles and fat pants. It's easy to dismiss as "marketing nonsense" until it realizes it affects your thinking even if you're smart enough to know better.

Especially here on SP, it's tricky -- many of us are considered motivators, been featured on television and other media, etc. -- and have been called "inspiring" in one capacity of another.

So I'm curious: do you feel like a "success story," was it useful for you in losing weight and beyond? Even if you know better, do you find the "success story" image thrown/threw you off your maintaining game?

Russ Lane

-- Lost 200 pounds while food writing, and maintained it 10 years
-- Went from pizza-guzzling wallflower in rock clubs to (very) aspiring boxer and artist in his spare time
-- Hit goal and felt a little thrown to the wolves. Dedicated his life to increasing support for those at or nearing goal and eeking every possible amazing thing out of it.

Limits? Pah.

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