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5/12/08 11:46 A

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You have provided us with a bunch of helpful hints, thank you :) I know that I could use a lot right now.

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8/1/07 1:14 A

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Oh, Amanda. I wish you the best and pray that your DH and mom will be well....


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7/31/07 11:18 A

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Oh Amanda emoticon I hope there's a light at the end of the tunnel for you!
You've given some great advice! I wish I would've known how to knit all those years I was in and out of hospitals dealing with my mom!
Here are a couple other things:
Don't overdo it on the healthy high fiber things... you will have a tummy ache! I ate a pound of baby carrots in one sitting was a very, very bad idea and it felt like the entire bag of carrots was in the stomach for two days afterwards.
While the nurse is doing the vitals thing, take those five minutes to go out in the hall and take a walk or shimmy! That's another thing I wish I would've known years ago.
And...since it sounds like it's going to be a long recovery for your husband (and you), let me emphasize what you already said...when he gets home MAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF. That's when it'll be even more essential. Also, don't coddle him too much... he needs to get out and get moving so he can get back to his regular activities. Don't be too much of a drill sergeant, but make sure he's doing what the doc says.
Good thoughts and best wishes for a speedy recovery;)


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7/31/07 11:07 A

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Wow, girl. Way to stay strong and make it through a tough time! Thanks for sharing!

Elisha, 33
DD - Reagan, 5 yrs
DD - Ryan, 3 yrs

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7/31/07 10:50 A

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Hi all! I'm SOOO sorry I haven't been here -- my husband and moster were both in the hospital at the same time, and my hubby is STILL in, for about another 2 weeks.

Needless to say, it was a little crazy around here!

But I learned quite a bit during these past two weeks and although it's not a success story in the NORMAL sense, I wanted to share it with you.


This two-week ordeal was extremely stressful on me, and I found it very hard to remember to eat. When I was eating, I ended up eating at the hospital cafeteria (NOT healthy) or thinking, "Oh Chik-Fil-A is SO easy to pick up!"

During times of stress it's very important to make yourself remember to eat, even if it's only a little something -- a banana or a glass of orange juice, or even a side salad with low-fat dressing.

Whenever I remembered to eat something, I felt less nervous and anxious about my stressful situation.

When I got home from the hospital, I was so depressed and lonely that I felt like I had a big hole in me. I wanted to fill that hole with something -- anything! And so I filled it with food and alcohol. I ate more than I knew I needed, but I wanted to feel stuffed.

Using food to fill a hole in you is NOT the best thing to do. But now that I KNOW that I tend to feel this way in stressful and depressing situations, I can learn to plan around it. I suppose I could figure out what foods are really high in fiber (which fills you up) and snack on those. Or even better, I could have turned to friends and loved ones to give me emotional support to fill that hole. Food didn't fill it, but a hug sure did!


Being in transit from one hospital to another meant I couldn't really sit down and cook a nice meal for myself every night. Instead, I opted for fast food.

Fast food doesn't HAVE to be unhealthy. I ate yogurt for breakfast, with a slice of toast, and found several low-fat and low-cal options for lunch and dinner.

Wendy's chili and side salad (I don't eat dressing) is an amazingly nutritious and filling lunch, and won't cost you too much in calories. McDonald's Asian Chicken Salad with grilled chicken (and no dressing -- the sauce from the chicken is dressing enough) is only around 300 calories and you get a couple of servings of veggies!

If you can make a quick trip to the deli, stock up on turkey, baby spinach leaves, low-fat cheese and those delicious herb tortillas! You can make a turkey wrap in under 3 minutes! Use mustard instead of mayo and you've cut the calories substantially.

If you're stuck eating at a cafeteria, use good sense in deciding what to order. Baked fish is usually a better choice than breaded and fried chicken strips. Even hospitals can't ruin steamed broccoli THAT much -- just don't drown it in cheese. Avoid the pies and cakes and opt instead for cottage cheese and fruit plates. Learn to use artificial sweeteners in your coffee or tea, to avoid soft drinks. Or just drink water.


Oh, this is what I missed! I'm one of those people who actually enjoys exercise, but during stressful situations, it's EXTREMELY important to remember to make time to exercise.

Just 20 minutes of cardio can make you feel like a new person. Put on the headphones and zone out for a little while on the treadmill. You don't need to think CONSTANTLY about your stress. Let your mind relax, and your body work. Exercise will envigorate you, AND it will help you sleep better. If you're like me, and you can't sleep when you're stressed, working out will help exhaust your body and mind and let you get that decent night's sleep you really need.

Little things count too, like parking farther away from the door, or taking the stairs instead of the elevator.

Break up your cardio into 2-3 sessions of 10 minutes each, if you can't get away for a long period of time.

Physically stressing your body WILL HELP YOU relieve your own mental and emotional stress. REALLY!! I had forgotten that, and spent too many sleepless nights tossing and turning. Plus, sitting in uncomfortable hospital chairs all day made my legs cramp. One session of Tae Bo fixed them up neatly!


I keep a stress ball with me at all times now. It's making a huge difference. It keeps me from screaming when I feel helpless.

Trust your faith to help you through your difficult situations, but also be prepared to be helpless. There was nothing I could do to help my hubby when he was in surgery. It was out of my hands. Knowing that is a relief in itself.

Keep your hands and brain busy when you're waiting. I took my knitting with me all through the hospital. Knowing I had a specific project I wanted to finish gave me a goal: something to focus on when all I could do was sit around and wait. And now I have a nice new pair of socks to show for my efforts, and most of a cardigan sweater!

Keeping your hands busy will help you avoid the hand-to-mouth craving, or either snacking or smoking. If you're in a stressful situation like this, and you find yourself with lots of unoccupied time, take advantage of it and teach yourself to knit, crochet, embroider, cross-stich, whatever. You MIGHT even make a new friend while you do it! I had several people comment on my knitting, and one lady sat with me and knit her own project while I knit mine. We sat in silence, but we were together. It was relaxing.


Don't forget to take care of you! It won't take 5 minutes to put on a new coat of nail polish. Grab 10 minutes and give yourself a pedicure. Let a friend take care of the kids and you go out and get a massage! You REALLY need to take care of yourself during stressful times.

And above all:


Friends will see you through your suffering. Friends will help you make difficult decisions and help you feel better about those decisions. Friends will give you a shoulder to cry on, or a casserole to much on. Friends can babysit or watch your dog.

Keep your friends in the loop. And keep them close. Let them BE the good friends that they are!

That's about it -- I hope my experience can help others who find themselves in difficult and stressful situations.

Enjoying every single moment I can with my husband and little boy!
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