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10/16/12 6:40 P

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Thank you all for the wonderful advice and warm welcome. I can relate to so much of what you said - especially the emotional baggage, self-sabotage and fear of losing weight. I'm in a gathering phase right now, preparing my food strategy and exercise and plan to start fresh this coming weekend (but also incorporating healthy habits this week). Going to take it a day at a time and just keep putting one foot in front of the other (if the cliche works, use it :)) Looking forward to getting to know you all better.

Deborah
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If ever there is tomorrow when we're not together... there is something you must always remember. you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. But the most important thing is, even if we're apart... I'll always be with you.
� Winnie the Pooh


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10/15/12 4:17 P

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Welcome to the Done Girl Team!! This is by far the best team on SP!! SO much support here!

I've been a member since 2006 and have lost 30 lbs. I've yo-yoed all over the place! More importantly than the weight, I've come to realize that I had SO MUCH emotional baggage dragging around with me, that I had to shed that first to get to weight loss. It was hard and I had many setbacks along the way, but i didn't quit quiting. Old cliche, I know, but it's gotten me this far. Another facet I struggle with is that I'm afraid to lose all of the weight. Silly, huh? but it's true. It's something I deal with all the time. I self sabotage, which certain days feels like an out of body experience, i eat the wrong things, I still fall into the old habits, but there are so many new habits I've learned along the way.

The best thing i can suggest for you is surrounding yourself with positive, encouraging people. There are a LOT of us on facebook (and other social media i'm sure) and there are so many encouraging, supportive pages out there!
We're all here to help each other and give support, so reach out to us anytime! :)

If it's amazing, it won't be easy. If it's easy it won't be amazing. If it's worth it you won't give up. If you give up you're not worth it.

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there was no one there" ~ Jordan Wirzs


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10/15/12 9:17 A

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I'm right there with you ... I've been a member of Spark since 2009 and I've managed to GAIN 15 lbs., I'm at my highest weight since being pregnant with my son 11 years ago. I am so disappointed in myself, have used every excuse including medication and age (I'm 51). I know I can do this, I've successfully lost weight and maintained my goal weight before. I refuse to give up and I am determined to overcome my self destructive behavior. Like others have said, take it one day at a time, make small changes that you can live with and they will become habit, I've been able to completely give up soda and alcohol and I quit smoking many years ago. You will have good days and bad days, on the bad days just pick yourself up and keep going forward. The Done Girls is the best team for support and motivation, stay active on the site and there is always someone online to give encouragement whenever you need it.


Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans.
~ John Lennon

When you dance, your purpose is not to get to a certain place on the floor. It's to enjoy each step along the way.
~ Wayne Dyer

You don't drown by falling in the water. You drown by staying there.
~ Unknown


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10/15/12 4:27 A

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Welcome to the team and thanks for opening up to us.

And yes Ma'am.. I've been there, done that and can relate sooooo much!! I joined SP sometime in 2007 and hit my highest weight ever LAST WEEK. In the meantime I lost 30 lbs and regained... some due to new medication, but the most due to taking this as an excuse to gain again.

I had a nutrition coach once who told me "Barbara you will have to look for your healthy diet for the rest of your life".. I didn't believe her, because I didn't want to believe her.. for the rest of my life? If God wants that is quite a long time. But I think I finally got it: my weight loss journey will be one for the rest of my life. No vacation, no side steps. WE have to learn to deal with it. There will be great, good and not-so-good days. But the only advice I can give you: take one day at a time and keep pushing.

If you feel you are slipping, come here for help. The DONE girls are set up according to the "following the sun" principle.. there is at least one of us awake across this world.. we are in every timezone. And concentrate on the little things: water intake, freggie servings, take the stairs (I HATE that even today and I guess til the day I die!!.. lol), take a walk a lunch break.. etc. It helped me a lot at the time when I was successful.. and then I thought "well, this works, I can take a day off.. don't have to track, I'll do mentally"... yeah right!!

My niece is the same: I am the funny once.. but when she is asked how she wants to be as a grown up she looks from her other aunt (my sister) to me and says "like Eva".. which is not me.

You joined the right team for support, we are here for you. But we can only open the door.. you have make the steps on your own .. (this is what my DAD always says.. and the older I get the more I think he is quite a wise man ;))

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10/14/12 11:17 P

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I know exactly what you are talking about. I've been a member of SparkPeople since 2006. I hit my highest weight in May of this year. I would lose a few pounds and after three weeks, I would lose motivation. This has happened off and on for over six years.

I'm new to this team too and I can already tell you you have come to the right place for inspiration. This team is amazing and very friendly.



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10/14/12 8:36 P

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Hello Everyone, I'm new to the Done girl team, but have been on Sparkpeople for ages. Every year or so, I reflect and determine that this will be the year that I will lose the weight, get healthy and stop sabotaging myself. I feel motivated and focused for two or three months, see results and then somehow/someway I get sidetracked and fall into the unhealthy abyss (eventually regaining a big portion or all of what I've lost). This cycle is so exhausting and demoralizing! The scary part is that I know I'm doing it, but am also very good at rationalizing, making excuses and deceiving myself that it's not as bad as I think.

This week my niece is visiting from London. She is so much fun & we always have a blast together. As you know, the mouths of babes sometimes surprise you with unexpected, brutally honest comments. She looked over at me and said - Auntie, you have a very fat belly - do you have a very big baby in there? Why are you so fat? Of course, I brushed it off with a comment that I was squishy so I could give her good hugs, but then later in the day at a family gathering the honesty arose again. She was saying who was the funniest, strongest and then looked at me and said, Auntie, you are the fattest one.

I know she loves me very much, but at the same time it makes me feel very sad that this is how she sees me. I want to be a good example and have her remember me as vibrant and strong, rather than out of shape/unhealthy. It's so important to really want it for ourselves, but I know that I need to take my inspiration where I can find it.

Right now, I'm feeling the shame and disappointment in myself for letting myself get to this place yet again. Somehow, I need to let go of the emotion and focus on making strides for a healthy life.

I suppose I'm wondering if anyone can relate to the big weight loss/regain cycle and give advice about how you were able to find the strength to try once more and make it stick. I've lost and regained up to sixty pounds 4 or 5 times. So tired of sabotaging my own progress - but constantly feeling like pulling the covers over my head to hide from the truth

Thanks for listening to my rants.

Deborah
Massachusetts (EST)

If ever there is tomorrow when we're not together... there is something you must always remember. you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. But the most important thing is, even if we're apart... I'll always be with you.
� Winnie the Pooh


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