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2/27/17 7:35 A

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Girl, I can so relate! I'd lost 40lbs and then my best friend up and lied to me, and stood me up 3 times, and then acted like nothing happened. Not only did I cry for four months, but I put back on all the weight that I lost.
I can only imagine about the separation, though I can say that I do know relationship troubles. I have 3 fixing to graduate, and the fourth one married and living on the other side of the world. I didn't think I'd suffer from empty nest syndrome, but let me tell you it has hit me in waves, and what makes it worse is Dear Hubby must have it too because he keeps asking if we can adopt or at least foster a child. Yeah....Nope. I'll foster dogs, birds, or cats but that's it. I want a grandchild.

Anyway, all the advice I can offer is hang in there, turn to God and He'll see you through this. I was spiraling down into a major depression, BIG time. Suicide was constantly on my mind. (So much was hitting me all at once) I went to my doctor and he put me on three different medications, all with awful side effects. I am medication sensitive, apparently. I didn't know what to do, but lay down and give up. Then my youngest son, 15, came to me and told me that he had been called to serve in the ministry. Well, I can't tell you exactly how that made me feel. My walk had once been close to God but I fell away so far. I spent all my Sundays with my best friend thinking I'd bring her closer, which I didn't, it wasn't until I walked out of her life that she started going to church. I went and I have to say it's changed my life so much, and my family's. I don't take medications anymore and thoughts of suicide are far from me now. I'm beginning to exercise again, though with a bad knee it's not easy.
Hang in there, kiddo. We're also here to help. I don't post often, but I'll be watching and if you need to talk to someone, message me. I usually check everyday. Your title caught my eye. I'm frustrated too. I haven't checked to see if my health insurance works on obesity, but if everything is tied to it, that just sucks! I hope things change for the better for you soon. I really do. I'll be praying for you.
Don't give up. Whatever you do, don't do that. Remember, you're strong, intelligent, and you're worth it. Excuse my vulgarism...as my hubby says, "Like a turd, this too shall pass."

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Edited by: LUNATIC_13 at: 2/27/2017 (07:43)
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2/22/17 3:41 P

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Sounds like you've got some great goals set up for yourself. You are going to make it through this. emoticon

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2/22/17 10:18 A

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Thank you. my grandmother used to say misery not only loves company but it demands it. not that I want anyone to be miserable it is good to know someone else has gone through similar things as I am going through and survived. that means so much to me. i am trying to focus on water and smaller portion sizes and cutting out the soda. those are my 3 the plan is as i cut off the soda i should drink more water so those two go together and then i figure with more water i will not want to eat as much so i will shrink portion sizes..... fingers crossed.

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2/22/17 9:49 A

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I think we've all been in some sort of a funk at one point or another. And they suck! Please know that I am praying for you. emoticon
I have college age children, too. I was a hot mess when it came time for college stuff. But we figured things out and I'm sure you will too.
Going through a separation is beyond hard. It's horrible and heartbreaking. I spent the first week of my separation drunk (not a proud moment). But I made it through and now I'm stronger (mentally) and I'm better off. You will make it through this.
Not sure what to say about your friend. If my best friend did that, I'd smack her!
Losing weight with all that you have on your plate is nearly impossible. Why not focus on making healthier choices, instead of losing actual pounds? For example, make it a goal to exercise for 10 minutes a day and/or to eat 3+ servings of fruit and vegetables.
I know things are rough, but you are not alone!

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good morning.

I am so much in a funk. I have been trying to lose and every path I have taken has turned up empty.

I have a lot going on i am in the midst of negotiation a separation and my best friend just decided that the best way to be friends right now is to not talk to one another (i haven't figured it out), my son is in his senior year so we are college prepping.

my health insurance doesn't cover obesity so stupid. so anytime i go to the dr i ask that they use thyroid check or something else so that it is covered. i mean i have like 14 things wrong with my in my chart but because obesity covers it all they put it down. then i have to fight with insurance and fight with the billing people. sighs. yesterday i told the billing office if we cant get this figured out i am not going to be able to see the dr until i am in the hospital. sighs.

i know suck it up buttercup. i just feel so very alone right now. i seriously have 2 friends and one just walked away. my other one is out of state. i have spent more hours crying that anyone should.

and does anyone know why when you are in these moods the only music on the radio is about relationships?



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