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Does this spark joy?

Thatís the Marie Kondo question that has gone viral. Thanks to Netflix, thousands of us are downsizing, clearing out and simplifying. And, Iím glad.

Years ago, I read her book, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up. I began decluttering and watching her YouTube videos so I too could fold my panties in a little square. It was so freeing and hard to describe the satisfaction I felt when I opened a drawer to rainbow rolls of shirts in perfect rows.

Right now, the KonMari method is sweeping through the collective. And it is magic! Until we make the space, we donít realize the toll of how ďtoo much stuffĒ clutters our life, our mind, and our energy. I sense the craving for all of us to clear out space. This movement has given us the inspiration to do the real work of facing the unanswered questions, avoided issues, and delayed decisions we havenít yet made which has manifested in our physical piles of stuff. Think about thatÖthe stuff you have piled up is actually a pile of avoided decisions and unanswered questions.

Marie Kondoís method isnít just about joy, itís about courage.

To me, this whole tidying up craze feels like the preamble, the ramping up, the dress rehearsal and the preparation for the bigger life alchemy work that is showing up. We are practicing with our belongings. But, this is the practice for doing this same work with our souls.

This is the call to courage.

Itís the courage to clear out our lives, bodies, and minds and to reclaim more of our essence so we can be in more communion with what is really aligned and authentic. To not only ask the question but to take action on if there really is a place, purpose, or desire for this in our lives.

For those who are sensitives, lightworkers, ripple makers, and meaning-seekers, this is already happening. It may be causing some turbulence in your life. It has in mine. Maybe things are already breaking down or breaking away or rapidly shifting. I understand the feeling of worry and wondering about the uncertainty.

In my own experience, Iíve been asking myself to surrender to what is with the trust that this is an exercise in clearing out for my highest good. And itís hard because the tidying up means we no longer have as many things to distract us, hide behind, keep us quiet, busy, or safe. I believe if we are brave, this clearing out will eventually lead us to more alignment, peace, and connection to what matters.

Recently, my dear friend John and I joked that it seemed as if the universe was playing Jenga with things in my life that I had built. One day a piece got pulled out and everything crashed to the floor. After the shock of it all, I looked around at the mess. The gift was the new perspective of seeing everything spread out in front of me.

Every single piece.

Before me was the opportunity to pick up each piece and examine it. I was able to consciously choose whether or not I wanted to rebuild with that piece. I got to ask myself, does this still fit? And guess what? Not each piece did. But had they not crashed to the floor, I wouldnít have even asked myself the question.

If youíve ever done the KonMari method you know that first you have to gather up everything and put it all in one place and then item by item you sort through it asking, ďDoes this spark joy?Ē This part is messy. This part is hard. This can feel overwhelming.

This is the call to courage. The courage to face it and make a decision.

As you look at each piece and ask yourself the question, you are faced with the realization of all the reasons and ways you keep something in your life that isnít about joy. You see how obligation, fear, scarcity, safety, inadequacy, old habits, beliefs, and denial have kept you from letting go of something that no longer fits, resonates, supports, or brings you the joy you deserve.

And you do deserve joy.

When you finally make the decision to let something go, a huge surge of stagnant energy is renewed and returned. No more hesitating. No more tolerating. When you make the decision that something really does bring you joy, it can feel like uncovering a treasure that you forgot you had because it was hidden in the back of the closet for so long.

And sometimes, youíll decide you just arenít ready to part with something even though you know itís not joy that it brings you, itís something else. And thatís okay because just naming it, facing it, and deciding consciously is much more empowering than avoiding it.

The more we clear away, the more we can feel and experience stillness. That stillness brings us to more clarity, guidance, creativity, and connection.

After we KonMari our sock drawer, letís tidy up our beliefs, our relationships, and our lives so we can create more space to commune with our souls.

Questions to ask yourself:

What places in my life am I feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or frustrated?
What is the cause or source?
Is it a belief, responsibility, relationship, pattern?
What sparks joy and what doesnít?
Why is it really in my life?
What decision or action am I being called to make/take?

The best cure for stressing is to count your blessings...and a long walk won't hurt either!

Never give up what you want the MOST for what you want at the MOMENT!


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4/8/18 8:07 P

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From PROVERBS31JULIA

Ohhhhh wonderful chapter!! I will look for this book to buy, likely used book store online...

The "Skinny Clothes" segment is what's bogging me - they are clothes I loved the colors or the look or Greek of the fabric and many are clothes I bought that were maybe 10 pounds away from fitting and then I promptly re-gained weight after buying, so I have NEVER really gotten to wear it and see if it was actually a good style or color. So then I think, I should still hang on to them, the famous "just in case I do lose the weight or inches needed to fit" (excuse), or the "what will I have available to wear when U do lose the weight?" (another excuse...).

Sooo, I need to get some rest tonight and read this again in the morning!!

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Never give up what you want the MOST for what you want at the MOMENT!


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4/8/18 8:06 P

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From 3_VEGGIES
I love this. Iím just 3.5 years out from retirement and about to do a job change. So I hold the old clothing just in case. Started a pile of too big winter clothes that will be consigned in 4-5 months as I plan to continue my losses.

Sounds like a great book. Thanks!
Janet

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4/8/18 6:50 P

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OK-Here is how it really should have started. Please forgive me for how disorganized this book will be. I have it on my Kindle but am not really clear on how to copy and then post or send it to my e-mail so I can post it to spark mail and the team. I'm just so NOT technically proficient. Plus I have boogers for brains this week (and last) so will take me some time to get it together.

I am going to post it in the last forum on our Team Page under "Books on Hoarding Discussed" and will also send it out as a team e-mail. You can unsubscribe to those team e-mails if you don't want them! I am also going to copy some of the comments that team members have sent me to my spark mail and will post them under this same thread so we can all share what we think.

Like I said (I think?), I wasn't nearly as excited after I started reading it. I am just 'cherry-picking ' out the parts that spoke to me about decluttering and also about not engaging in 'retail therapy' for a whole year. The book has lots of other things relating to her work life, her family life, her sobriety and her finances that really were just sort of in the way for me.

I looked at her web page. I am going to give you the link that is on Kindle because it says you can download it for free-the book, not the website. She also offers classes and webinars that are free. There is one coming up on April 27th.


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ďIíve been thinking about doing an experiment where I donít shop for a while,Ē I replied. ďLike, maybe six months or even a year.Ē My friends were no longer surprised when I made announcements like this. In the previous three years, I had made many big changes in my life, including committing to getting (and staying) out of debt, taking control of my health, and quitting drinking. I had also publicly documented these changes on my blog (caitflanders.com, formerly known as ďBlonde on a BudgetĒ), which I started writing in 2010. After the words ďCool!Ē and ďThatíll be interesting!Ē came out of their mouths, they rushed me with a list of follow-up questions. Now that I had said the words out loud, I felt the intention take hold and the plan begin to form.

We talked about what the experiment might look like, including what I would and wouldnít be allowed to shop for. I didnít have all the answers yet. I never had all the answers, when I started one of my experiments. The same way I didnít know I would be capable of paying off $ 30,000 of debt in two years or losing 30 pounds in one year, I had no idea that during the next 12 months I would end up living on 51 percent of my income, saving 31 percent, and traveling with the rest. I also didnít know I would document so much of it on my blog, or that the stories and lessons I didnít share online would eventually become this book. All I knew was I still wasnít happy with my financial situation, and I wanted to start spending less and saving more money. Thatís where this story begins. Thatís where most of my stories begin. "
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Here is the basic rundown of what she can and cannot buy:
" Rules for the Yearlong Shopping Ban What Iím allowed to shop for: Groceries and basic kitchen supplies, Cosmetics and toiletries (only when I run out), Cleaning products, Gifts"

"What Iím NOT allowed to shop for: Take-out coffee Clothes, shoes, accessories, Books, magazines, notebooks, Household items (candles, dťcor, furniture, etc.), Electronics

Approved shopping list: One outfit for multiple weddings (one dress and a pair of shoes) Sweatshirt (I only owned one and it had a few too many holes) Workout pants (I was down to my last pair) Boots (I had nothing appropriate for fall/winter) Bed (mine was 13 years old and desperately needed to be replaced) I can also purchase anything that must be replaced, but the original item has to be tossed or donated And I must stay accountable on my blog."

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Woot! Wonderful!

If the mind mends, the body will follow.

Gluten free is working for me!

"If we did all the things we are capable of, we would literally astound ourselves." Thomas Edison


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I didn't like the book nearly as much as I had hoped. It had a lot of other things in it besides the decluttering that didn't really interest me. But I did like this section on the clothes. How true it is that most of us wear the same things over and over. I did find it easier on this last 40 Bags in 40 Days to let go of things that didn't fit...whether too big or too small or just didn't 'feel good' I put them in the bag so they could find a new home. I have a ton more to go through!!

I also liked the part about the idea of clothes too small motivating you to lose actually making you feel like a failure. That's the way they make me feel...and I got rid of several things that were brand new with tags that I won't be able to wear until they are out of style. I know it must work for some people...but just not me!

The best cure for stressing is to count your blessings...and a long walk won't hurt either!

Never give up what you want the MOST for what you want at the MOMENT!


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emoticon maybe I can gear up to do this soon.

If the mind mends, the body will follow.

Gluten free is working for me!

"If we did all the things we are capable of, we would literally astound ourselves." Thomas Edison


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4/7/18 7:48 P

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Hi Ė I'm reading "The Year of Less: How I Stopped Shopping, Gave Away My Belongings, and Discovered Life Is Worth More Than Anything You Can Buy in a Store" by Cait Flanders and wanted to share this quote with you.



"While the look changed many times over the years, one thing did not: the fact that, at any given moment, I was probably wearing one of maybe three outfits I actually liked. By the time I emptied my closet onto the floor, these outfits consisted of jeans or khakis and a loose-fitting top or sweater. I even wore the same T-shirts and capris to the gym every other day. Altogether, I cycled through no more than 20 items of clothing (not including socks and undergarments). And I knew it. I knew I wore the same thing over and over, day in and day out. But I didnít see it until I emptied my closet and drawers and stared at the piles of fabric on the floor. There were tank tops that matched with only a few specific sweaters. Sweaters that didnít fit right or that didnít cover up enough. Dresses I still didnít fit into, even after losing 30 pounds, but that I loved because of the way theyíd hugged my curves in all the right places once upon a time. The ďfat girlĒ clothes I thought I should keep, just in case I gained the weight back. Numerous items Iíd bought because they were on sale. And then there were the government clothes, as I called them: the dark slacks and dark sweaters, and the peacoat I had always felt like I was swimming in. It was all mine, but I didnít recognize it because I didnít wear most of it. I got rid of almost everything. I didnít hem or haw or question a single item. If I hadnít worn it in the last few months, it had to go. If it didnít fit right, it had to go. The skinnier clothes definitely had to go, because holding on to them didnít motivate me to lose more weight; it deflated me and stopped me from simply enjoying my new body and appreciating how far I had come. If I lost more weight one day, I promised myself Iíd buy new dresses that would hug my new curves in all the right places. So the skinnier clothes had to go. And I knew I would never go back to the corporate world, so the government clothes could go too. I filled four black garbage bags with clothes and jackets and shoes and purses and scarves to be donated. The few items that were in rough shape went into the trash. All that was left was a closet with a dozen or so hangers in it and a three-drawer dresser that was half-full. It wasnít much, but it was what the real me would wear. It was at this point that I decided to start keeping track of how much stuff I was getting rid of. I had kept track of my debt repayment and my workouts and my weight loss and even my months of sobriety. Now I would also keep track of this. It didnít really serve a purpose, at first, other than that it scratched my curiosity itch. After seeing 55 percent of my wardrobe go out the door, I could tell this was going to be big,..."

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emoticon goals! emoticon

If the mind mends, the body will follow.

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Let's have a CLEAN SWEEP this week!
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Clean = eat with dignity
S = 7-8 hours of sleep
W = 8 glasses water
E = eat healthy
E = exercise 6 times this week
P = persistence
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I want to follow along with you as you go through this book again. I looked it up on Amazon and was surprised that I purchased it on March 13, 2015. I now have a goal. I will go through my piles of books and search for 'The Hoarder In You" so that I may join in reading it again.

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I hope you will comment on what you are reading in this book! I'm looking forward to re-reading it as I post these messages. I got involved with other things and really need to get back in gear about decluttering and cleaning!

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