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9/15/14 12:38 P

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So right, that is were I am right now.

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9/14/14 11:24 P

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Good suggestions!

I especially liked the suggestion to just "be" with our emotions when we feel them sometimes. So often in the past, I would numb my feelings with sugar. Now, I have to deal with my emotions, and they are stronger than they used to be when I was numb! But I would much rather feel them than not.

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9/8/14 2:48 P

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Good one!

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Lord help me remember that nothing is going to happen today that you and I can't handle together.

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LIKINMENOW's Photo LIKINMENOW Posts: 51,476
9/8/14 1:42 P

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1. Remind yourself to notice your mood as you go through your day. Be vigilant when negative thoughts hijack your mind and send you into a downward spiral. Before you know it, you'll be gathering kindling -- evidence that the other person is wrong ("Who does he think he is?!"). Enough kindling, and you can't avoid a firestorm. Instead, keep yourself on a positive track. Don't fret the small stuff...Two steps forward, one step back still takes you in the right direction." Most of the time, there's no reason you can't be in a good mood. If you're not, check in with yourself to figure out what's happening.

2. Stop Stressing. Stress is behind 80% of our outbursts. Even when something else is going on, stress is what causes the explosion. And yet, stress is mostly a choice. If you really want to reduce the stress in your life, you can. Don't over-schedule. Don't try to do computer work or phone calls with kids present. Leave early for every appointment. Don't take kids on errands they can't handle. Is that extra errand really worth a family melt-down?

3. Nurture Yourself. Are you feeling sad or scared about something? Don't ignore your own upset. Schedule a time later to write in your journal or talk to a trusted friend. Simply breathing and accepting sadness or hurt is the best way to let those feelings go. If we can't do that, we fend them off by acting out in anger. Resist the urge to take action when you're upset. Instead, love yourself through your upset: "Breathe. It's just sadness. Go ahead and cry. You'll feel better soon." 

You deserve a parent like that...So be your own!

4. If you're feeling angry, deal with the source. Canít fire your boss or leave your four year old in the mall? Ok, but you can make a plan to prevent a replay of whatever set you off. You canít change the other person, but you can often change the conditions. Better yet, you can consciously feel your own old emotions so they dissipate and you don't get triggered as often. When you change what you bring to the interaction, the other person always changes too.

5. If your upset has more to do with you, make healing a priority. ďVentĒ with someone you trust, who wonít feel a need to solve your problem but can simply listen with compassion so you feel heard and can sort things out for yourself. Or make an appointment with a counselor. If someone in your past made you miserable, shame on them. But now it's time to heal that.

Edited by: LIKINMENOW at: 9/8/2014 (13:44)
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