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5/27/13 7:24 A

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Hi Val,

I read your blog yesterday and while sad - it is so authentic that it is compelling. Maybe you are doing what you need to do right now.

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5/26/13 11:31 P

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I havent been positive lately, at all!!!
In fact, everytime I try, it seems the effort just makes me more depressed because I fail so quickly.
I think its been weeks and weeks since I really felt like I was actually making strides, at both diet and exercise and positivity.
I want to get these dark feelings and thoughts out and get back into the light.
I just wish I knew what to do.

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5/24/13 6:19 P

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SNIC23: We have always taken Fish Oil but randomly (whenver we could remember). Now we are trying to be better about taking it. As for the additives, coloring, etc - I hate it. We don't eat anything other than the freshest stuff we can get - and I try to make homemade. One of the kids is actually allergic to one of the red-dyes so we don't even go there.

Thanks so much for the suggestions - it is always useful!

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AMBERZADE67: Yes, it can be hard. And - while I've had things added to my plate - I am also not really jumping in with two feet yet - I am taking it slow and relaxing (not the way someone else does, I'm sure - but doing less - not being as rushed - smelling the roses).

Dh has been trying to help - but it is hard because he often has to work late and when he gets home he also needs some down time. We work as a team, though - and we somehow manage.

By the way you are saying my name properly.

I am going to slowing get into the swing of things next week - but going slower this week has really paid off. I do not feel like a brand-new person or anything but I feel much less stressed.

I also have started skating again. I tried rollerblades quite a few years ago and was quite disappointed as I just wasn't very good at it (it killed my already crummy ankles). So - last year (unfortunately about 1 week or so before fall should have been here - but it decided to snow) - I bought the kids and I all rollerskates. They are the four-wheeled kind and I love them. When growing up in the Jersey mountains - the only thing kids had to do for entertainment was go to the local roller rink. I had lots of practice then - but I still do pretty good for a 40+ year old!

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Hi Sumay,

I really love your name although I may be pronouncing it wrong in my head. I am saying 'Sue ... May'.

Anyway, I can't imagine having more than one child so I really admire people who do. I knew I wasn't strong enough to have more than one - I don't have the patience, or the ability to give real live people the attention that they need - especially little ones.

It's a shame that our society doesn't have a nurturing attitude towards mothers. We often don't have a nurturing attitude towards children either. However, it would be awesome if we had that attitude towards Mothers because then the world would certainly thrive. Being at home alone with children can be full of joy but I am 100% certain that it is also full of frustration at times.

So now that school is over it sounds like you've stepped right back into full responsibility for the home, children, and everything. That can be overwhelming.

When what you need is some downtime to think and evaluate where you are, and what you want, additional responsibilities can make it hard to do that.

I am sure you feel like something who is constantly in thinkus interruptus. lol

You may need to ask for a little time for yourself. I'm not in a long term relationship and obviously haven't ever had a successful one but ..... maybe your husband can help out with that.

I hope you had a good time at the park. Skating sounds like it would be fun ....... do you ever skate? Is it the rollerblading kind of the 4 wheel kind?



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I agree with needing time for yourself. Maybe the DH can take the kids to the park for you for an hour or something just for you to have some much needed quiet time! Homeschooling is too much work. The daughter asks every morning if I can't just homeschool her, and I think OMG Why would I want to spend all day planning that!
good luck with your quiet time!

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5/22/13 10:11 P

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Home schooling is not easy and you have a lot runs to follow

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5/22/13 1:35 P

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Home schooling easy! Heck no it's not easy!!! You definitely have your hands full.

Omega-3 fats have been shown to help people with ADHD in clinical studies. Here's an article that highlights some of the findings:
articles.mercola.com/sites/ar
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Here's an article that suggests that food additives and chemicals we are exposed to in our diets has caused the increase in ADHD cases. The CDC noted a 22% increase in ADHD since 2003.
www.naturalnews.com/032275_ADHD_natu
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I know the last thing you need is one more thing to do (or read) right now. I'll cross my fingers that you find the time for yourself that you need to get things sorted out so you can take care of you.

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5/22/13 1:34 P

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My best advice would be: live your life in seasons. Enjoy your kids every day and don't blink because they will be grown and flown from the nest before you know it (sniffles and wipes a tear...)

Taking care of myself was hard when I had little ones.

I homeschooled also when they were young and two years ago I shipped them off to school at the ripe old ages of 12, 13 and 16! My husband had been in the military until then and when we moved back near family, and away from schools in the south that I felt were not adequate, they went to public school and have thrived academically and socially. Oldest DD got into all the private colleges she applied to and received fabulous merit scholarships. Middle and youngest DD's are still in high school and soon, my child rearing "season" will be done. I'm trying treasure every moment...even the sassy, angst filled teen moments!

If I could go back and talk that younger self of mine that was never able to get her weight loss goals in order, I would have told her it amounts to: fitness, food and water intake. Make the number of fitness minutes go up, track your food religiously...the good, the bad, the ugly and look it square in the eye every night, and drink, drink, drink water.

I spent years perpetually dehydrated and made up for it by eating too much.

Then I would tell her to throw out her scale because if your food, fitness and water are decent and consistent, you will lose weight, or at least you will maintain until you are ready and able to commit to making the bigger changes needed to lose.....and you will not yo-yo for years!!

Also, post here, but also blog on your page regularly. You will want to go back and see your journey and what works over time!

Good luck dear!

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Right now I just need time to think . . .

I'm in between school (we just finished) and the summer (where we still have some things we need to accomplish). I really need time to think about what I want to accomplish - and how I'm going to do that. In the mean-time, I feel a bit in limbo - and I don't really like that feeling.

Every time I try to sit down and quietly think things through - there is always stuff I need to do - the dishes, the house cleaning - cooking - the kids. DH - as beautiful as he may be - expects more during the summer. The house may be a mess during school - but once school gets out - it's SUMMERTIME. I just don't think that's what Will Smith meant by that song - cleaning, cooking, re-arranging, trying to get so many things done that got put off during the school year.

My beautiful, adorable little ones love to make noise. It seems like the more you ask for quiet - the louder it gets. They stomp around - banging on things - making noises with their tongues, mouths, and anything else they can get their hands on. You know the commercial for "how many licks does it take to finish the lolipop?" I think my kids should have a commercial "how many noises can we make until we get her committed!" I know - I seem bothered - and I know they dont' mean it. Part of it is their ADHD - and seeing as I'm the one that decided to share that with them - I should not complain! I am grateful to have them here - with me all the time - but sometimes even I need a little down time.

I think I will feel better after I take the kids to the park and roller skate. I can't skate today - perhaps next time - but I will be walking and pushing the baby in his stroller. Exercise - fitness minutes - and steps counted. I'm hoping to get it out of the way early today (I hope it works!) I know that exercise always makes me feel good - energetic - happy.

I really need to dedicate myself to getting this plan together. Part of me doesn't want to - part of me wants to still rest a little. The smart part of me knows that I need to get started now - that I tend to put things off - that I NEED THIS to accomplish my goals. I don't have to schedule every hour - but it helps to know what I NEED to do. Right now - I know what I need to do - it is swimming in my head somewhere - but if I don't write it down - I will lose it or forget most of it - and then regret it at the end of summer.

I think this might be why I am even dragging in my exercise - in my water intake. I just feel like it is ANOTHER thing to do. I know it's not - and it is a real mood booster - so I'm going to have to change my attitude. I don't always have days like these - thank goodness - but every once in a while you just feel OVERWHELMED by all there is to do.

Jeez - and to think that most people think that homeschooling is easy! What the heck were they thinkin?


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