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12/14/14 4:59 P

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I think along the same lines as you do!

It is a matter of self-respect, isn't it? And respecting those around you. I'm sure I've mentioned this further down this thread, but I feel bad for those around when I see someone with incredibly plunging necklines or slits "up to there". People have no idea where to look when offering the sign of peace! Obviously, we should look in someone's eyes, but I'm sure it is difficult when there are breasts at a young person's eye level!
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I know this is an older thread but I was thinking of this topic specifically. I would think as long as one is dressed modestly and respectfully at service then there should be no quarrel. I think in certain areas of the country where it gets so hot and humid sometimes decent shorts, knee length skirts, short sleeved tops etc...As long as you aren't looking as if you are not respecting yourself.

It's been a while since I've looked up this subject in the bible but I would think Jesus would care more that you showed up to service and had a loving heart. I'm sure he would mention something along the lines of respecting yourself by not having your body parts hanging out though :)~

I'm a modest type so long skirts or pants, a decent blouse with no plunging necklines etc. is what I would be wearing! I would wear short sleeves but not bare shoulders or a strapless top no!

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1/27/14 12:40 A

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I used to be a teacher, but now I'm retired. So I wear my former work clothes to mass. They are professional looking, so I'm usually dressed respectfully at mass. The only time that changes is if I go to the evening mass on Sunday. That is the mass mainly for teenagers and college-age, so I feel comfortable wearing my nicer jeans.

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1/25/14 3:28 P

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I am proud of my children when they dress appropriately for Mass. They sometimes wear jeans, but their clothing is not tight or revealing, and never with any plunging necklines or anything. I always think it looks respectful.

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1/20/14 11:07 A

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I live in a resort community and in the summer, visitors often show up wearing beach coverups, flip flops, men wear bathing suit shorts. The locals usually dress much better.

I also am a Lector and a Cantor and we were given dress guidelines for when we are on the Altar. Men, suits. Women, pants or long, flowing skirts, nothing tight or revealing, arms must be covered. Not everyone follows the guidelines however.

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That will be such a nice feeling, I bet!

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9/16/13 10:15 P

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unfortunately I am extremely overweight and I have bad feet so the only shoes I own are sneakers. I only own one dress which I just purchased for my nephew's wedding and I am dreading having to wear shoes but because I am in sneakers 99.9% of my life I am either in jeans or Capri's (I live in Fort Lauderdale FL). Whenever I am at mass I wear my best tops and I take extra care with my hair and makeup
I too was raised to dress with respect and care whenever I attend mass but I also feel that as long as you are respectful so I do not understand anyone thinking low cut or short hems are appropriate. One Sunday I saw a girl with a light weight shawl and I thought that was a terrific idea.
It is funny to see this subject come up because one of the things on "Healthy List" which is a list of all my goals as I lose weight is to finally go back to wearing nice clothes again my "Sunday Best."


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9/15/13 3:06 P

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I think everyone has good points. When I Lector, I usually wear a nice skirt and blouse, with appropriate shoes. At Mass during the week, I wear what I wear to work. Which is sometimes nice jeans, a pretty top... perhaps nice slacks with coordinating shirt. Often I wear a sleeveless top with an overshirt. I do not own a dress I can fit into right now. I cannot afford to go out and buy new clothes, so I make sure I wear things that are clean, modest. As I am in pain most days, I have to wear things that are comfortable, too.
At my age(almost 58) I am not into "trendy". I admit it bothers me that some of our parishes young people dress very revealing, and as if they are ready for the beach. It is more important for me to attend Mass right now than to worry about how I look, but I make sure I am "presentable" because I do not want to offend the Lord, either.
I ask the Spirit to guide me, and if I am comfortable with my dclothing choices when I am ready to head to Mass, I am ok.
Good question... it has made me more aware of my "dress-code", and that is a good thing!
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We usually go to 5PM Sat. night mass, and I am the lector captain for this mass, meaning if someone doesn't show up....they are scheduled, but things happen, and sometimes they don't get a sub....anyway, I usually end up lectoring. When I am not lectoring,though, I still tend to dress up....either dressy slacks, skirt, top,blazer, but never sleeveless and never jeans or tshirts......not for Sat. night or any weekend mass, as I don't think it is appropriate attire. I think it's nice if you take the time to get out of the "yardwork" attire and take a few minutes to put on something nice....as you are going to God's house, so in other words, dress appropriately. Unfortunately, I do see many people in shorts, jeans, plunging necklines, and even sweat pants!! I am not judging, so don't get me wrong, but I think it shows our respect to God when we take the time to put out a little effort to try to look nice! No one would wear sweat pants to a wedding, would they?

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9/15/13 11:14 A

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When I go to Saturday evening Mass, I often wear jeans (clean and intact) with a nice top; if I go on Sunday, I wear nice pants with a good top. I also find some of the attire at Mass to be disrespectful.

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9/15/13 11:08 A

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TIMOTHY - I like your humour! emoticon
And dress kilt? Very nice.

AMAS92568 - I forgot that some people wear their sports uniforms sometimes. I'm with you - some would skip Mass altogether instead of making the effort to go to church before the game/practise. It's great that the effort is made!

I forgot to mention that most of the time, my girls do not wear jeans - they have many dress pants/skirts/dresses to wear. It is my son who mostly wears jeans. The priest likes one of his new t-shirts though, it has the "Superman" symbol and the caption is - "Christ - the original Superman".

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This is a very interesting topic for me. It gets extremely hot here (I'm just north of Houston) and we dress a lot more casually in Texas than in some parts of the country. Also, we like to go to Saturday evening mass which tends to be more casual than the Sunday morning masses.

We have a new priest who has openly criticized a friend of ours for wearing shorts -- this friend is extremely overweight and cannot wear dress clothes. He's actually stopped attending mass because of this priest.

Sometimes at Saturday evening mass, you see kids in softball uniforms, etc. I don't have a problem with it because I like that their parents are making Mass such an integral part of their week. Perhaps they could make it more central, but it's better than letting the kid skip altogether so they can make a game or practice.

I like cjbaggins' suggestion that she would ask the person to specifically identify what they saw as a problem with her attire. I think sometimes people take their perceived authority too far.

I also agree that we should take very seriously that we are feasting with Jesus. But I don't think He'd have a problem with what someone is wearing as long as their heart is true.

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9/15/13 2:55 A

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Jacket and tie. No pants or shirt .... JUST KIDDING.

I remember going to Saturday Mass when I was a kid dating She(WMBO). we would be going out to the movies after Mass. I was wearing nice jeans and a polo shirt. Dad stopped me and asked for an explanation.

"Two things. First how would you dress for dinner with the president? You should dress as well for dinner with Jesus Christ.

"Second, wouldn't your girlfriend's parent be really impressed if you showed up at her house with a tie and jacket?"

I never forgot the first lesson. And as for the second, Jane was impressed but Ed? Not so much. He never like me.

For Midnight Mass at Christmas and for Good Friday I read and for those occasions, I dress formal: Tuxedo jacket, bow tie, dress kilt.

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I am of the opinion that if I am invited to a dinner by my friends or family, I dress for the occasion. Therefore, when I am invited to dinner with Jesus, I dress the part as well. I don't wear beach clothes to a wedding banquet or dinner party, therefore I watch what I wear at Mass as well.

For me, that means comfortable, yet appropriate, clothing. No plunging necklines, no shorts (unless they are knee length), no mini skirts, no tank tops/spaghetti straps, and no revealing, skimpy or see through clothes. I wouldn't wear any of that anyway, so it's all good.

My children wear jeans with clean t-shirts or dress shirts, but I do not allow them to wear mini skirts, ratty clothing, or revealing clothing. They are very good at dressing respectfully for Mass, and I find they are modest in their dress (my teenaged daughter and young adult daughter both wear pretty camisoles/tank tops under lower cut blouses, at Mass and otherwise, and watch their skirt length.

Our priest has actually mentioned sometimes that he is uncomfortable with some people's attire, especially woman who are wearing plunging necklines. He holds up the Host as he distributes Communion, and poor Jesus is right in front of a generous, yet barely contained, bosom! He feels (and I agree) that it is not very respectful of the occasion.

What do others think?

cj

edited to add - I forgot to say that if someone had approached me, I would probably have questioned them, asking what it was EXACTLY about my attire that they felt was not "up to par". I would then ask if this was their personal opinion, or church policy. It doesn't sound as if this person was very specific, and that is not helpful to anyone!

Edited by: CJBAGGINS at: 9/15/2013 (11:04)
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What do you wear to mass? I lectored and one of the people who trains the greeters and eucharistic ministers said that he needed to make sure he told everyone that it was imprortant to dress nicely for mass. I generally wear khakis and a dress/collared shirt so I was confused what he meant by it. Iíll admit I look at people when they walked in and how they dress . Others wear flimsy spagetti strap tops or havr visible bra straps. Lots of flip flops and people in tshirts, atheltic shorts. And most people wear tennis shoes. I was was upset that I was ďtalked toĒ about what I wear. I donít wear skirts or dresses. I am not sure if I have any that currently fit. Our church AC broke a few months ago so it has been really hot during mass, so dress shorts to me are appropriate when it is really hot. A few minutes I heard him talking to one of the choir members about dressing better. The other man had on khaki shorts and a short sleaved button shirt. I did not think it was dressy, but I thought it was appropriate for the weather. The trainer basically said if he was in charge of the choir he would kick people out for not dressing better. The other guy said he would quit if there was a dress code. He wanted to worship in comfortable clothes. I agreed with him on this.
But then my debate personality kicked in and started to think that when I lector or greet I am more visible and should perhaps dress the part. I have dress shoes but hate wearing them and they are not all that appropriate with the cold months coming. I can wear tennis shoes for work so that is what I tend to wear for most things. I am struggling because in the past the people that dressed up were generally pretending to be faithful and were not devote as soon as they got out of their church clothes. Anyone have thoughts on this?


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