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I had just turned 21, 2 weeks prior to getting married. I was ready and it suited me. My hubby's sister was 31 when she got married. My niece (brother's daughter) was mid 40's when she got married. It is dependent on the person's level of maturity and being ready to share their life with someone, rather than age.

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I agree that the age doesn't matter - it's the level of maturity and ability to make a commitment.

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1/7/20 4:56 P

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Interesting question! I recently saw a saying, "Any woman looking for a husband has never had one". Made me chuckle, but therein lies a nugget of truth - I remember girls/women whose goal in life was to get married and have children. No other goals. I think marriage is right when one knows oneself and the other person well enough that there aren't any deal breakers that you are overlooking because you so want to get married. It also helps to have the maturity to deal with the reality of everyday marriage when you get past the moon and June phase. So, no set age in my opinion.



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I think it depends on the person and their goals in life. I got married the first time at 18, which was way, way too young for me. We divorced when I was 26 after 3 children. It was heartbreaking for them, and selfish of me. I put my wants ahead of their needs in getting a divorce.

Married at 29 again. This was a better age for me, but my selection in men was warped after being married to someone who rarely told me they loved me or that I was attractive. I felt such a need for passion, affection, and validation. So I married a gorgeous abusive alcoholic who said all the right things. That lasted 5 years and the only good thing that came out of it was my youngest daughter. Had he been a good man, or even tolerable, we'd still be married today, as I was much better at being married by that point.

Married my now-husband at the age of 36. It will be 17 years this May. He is a good man who loves me and adopted above mentioned daughter, because her Dad exited stage left (honestly, the nicest thing he ever did for her- It spared her his abuse). But 36 was too young for me to marry for the first time. I was emotionally ready in my late 20's.

Then again, my grandma married my grandpa when she was 18 and they spent 65+ years together. She was more mature than me and ready to be a wife. I was not.

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My answer would be: really no right age to get married - Just what works for you and your maturity & Wanting to be married.

I married one week before turning 22 yrs old. We did however live together for at least 6 months. Valentine's day will be 44th Anniversary for us & still going strong! emoticon

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Ok, so I have a little experience here lol, after four weddings!

First wedding, aged 25, too young ( for me)

Second wedding, aged 30, better

Third wedding, aged 37, ready to be a mum, but not for a husband

Fourth wedding, aged 52, happy in my own skin, definitely the right time for me!

I suspect that the choice of husband at different ages probably had a lot to do with my decision, as well as my own confidence at the time.

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1/7/20 12:45 P

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What’s the right age to get married?



I really don't know the answer to this question! On the one hand, my brother and his wife got married young and they were still young enough to enjoy themselves after their children grew up and had their own families. On the other hand, if you get married later, you might be more financially secure and have more maturity to raise children (should you choose to have them). My own daughter is 28 and says she will never get married, so I'm conflicted about my answer. Also, I have a niece who married late and had a LOT of trouble having children because of her age. There are so many pros and cons. Maybe my answer is the right age to get married is when two people are truly in love and have the independence to make their own way in the world.
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