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Day 87 - Allow a grace period



A grace period doesn’t mean you throw away healthy eating and give up on exercise. You still need to pay attention to those things. But it’s also a time to minimize the damage or take walks that last only ten minutes.

Today

• Identify a recent or even long-ago time when you needed a grace period.
• Write about what it would have been like to forgive yourself and allow grace during this time.
• Consider how you can apply this to any current or recent situation. Record this.

When I think about this, my grace period/setback has been going on for “too” long and I need to fix it soon!

I’ve been struggling with staying on my nutrition/fitness plan since Day 66, Kicking kettles. It’s been a rough 3-4 weeks for me as I’ve been dealing with stressful and time consuming life issues. So, yes, I need a grace period right now.

On Day 71, Setback or failure, I wrote about I did not need to pretend I have had a set back...I was right in the middle of one! It had been a rough week or so of just not sticking with my plan and program. Not exercising...not tracking food and fitness...5 extra pounds showed up on the scale...not logging into Spark everyday...feeling very tired and not sleeping enough hours or not sleeping well...falling behind on my 100 Days work. At that time I was 4-5 days behind in my 100 Days daily writing.

Now, on Day 87 (3 weeks later on the calendar) I’m still off track. I need to get out of and finish this period of setback & end my “long” grace period soon. Tomorrow a new 5% challenge starts with the Rowdy Rebels team and I am getting myself mentally ready to refocus and restart my efforts. Also, my At Goal & Maintaining team is starting a new “Skyscraper Challenge” this coming week. Expect I will be out of range when I start the new maintenance challenge since I’ve gained 5-10 pounds. Will see what tomorrow and the coming days bring.

Using Linda’s words and making it personal to me, the following describes how I am looking at what I have been experiencing...

The drain on my spirit during this time has been awful and I keep slipping up on my weight-loss plan. During this difficult time, I’ve realized that I need to allow myself a grace period. This has meant giving myself a break and not expecting perfection in all my efforts. I need to think more about nurturing and caring for myself during these difficult times. I will allow this grace period to continue until I feel it’s the right time to start losing weight again. My main focus is to try and stick with healthy eating and exercise and try to minimize the damage to my progress. When I label this tough time as a grace period, it allows me to not be perfect. However, I know the clock is ticking and I am beginning to recognize it’s time to move out of this grace period. Very soon (tomorrow?) I will be ready to return to a healthy path and start moving forward again.







Edited by: YOUNG-AT-HEART at: 7/5/2019 (16:24)
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Day 87 Allow a grace period

A grace period doesn’t mean you throw away healthy eating and give up on exercise. You still need to pay attention to those things. But it’s also a time to minimize the damage or take walks that last only ten minutes.

Today

• Identify a recent or even long-ago time when you needed a grace period.
• Write about what it would have been like to forgive yourself and allow grace during this time.
• Consider how you can apply this to any current or recent situation. Record this.


Identify a recent or even long-ago time when you needed a grace period.

I participate in 5% challenges which run for 8 weeks, 4 times a year. I try to go all out during the 8 weeks and go easier on the 5 weeks until the next challenge. Make fitness and weight management gains for 8 weeks - maintain that level until the next challenge. I don't participate in the in-between challenges.

I also take one day, only one day, during the Christmas holiday season when I eat whatever I want. That is a little above relaxing and not staying present.

I need grace during holidays and days when I am invited to friends for home-cooked meals, but there I do stay present and do not go too far off my vigilant days when I am strictly staying under daily calorie cap.


• Write about what it would have been like to forgive yourself and allow grace during this time.

It is easier to forgive myself and allow grace periods than get into roller coasters of bingeing, guilt and shame like I used to. And I find I hardly binge anymore, because I have a margin of grace.

• Consider how you can apply this to any current or recent situation. Record this.

Recently I went to dinner at my nephew's place and there was a magnificent and delicious and abundant meal. It was a healthy meal, lots of veggies and plenty of protein, all home cooked, but I did go over calorie cap, oh well. Not vastly over and I immensely enjoyed the meal.

Edited by: JUNEPA at: 7/2/2019 (13:57)
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This works for me. I do my best to stay on plan, but when I tell myself I 'can't' have this or that I'm in trouble. Found that out quite sometime ago. By allowing myself a taste, small slice, whatever (grace period) it works for me. Yes, grace periods can be just a temporary fix - for a meal, a gather, a celebration, a holiday. On the other hand, it can be when traveling which is quite often difficult to stay on track.

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DAY #87 ALLOW A GRACE PEROID - ROUND 2

When I read this lesson today two points really stuck out to me: 1. There are times when you need a bit of a break; a time when thoughts of perfection need to be put aside. 2. A grace period does not mean you throw away healthy eating and give up on exercise.

During our last review I was on vacation and had allowed myself to go completely off the rails! This has been my history. I have made improvements in this area. This winter when we were in Florida for a bit of a break I ate healthy most days AND I made sure that I got at least a 10 minute walk in every day. However, when we were just on a mini-vacation with a group of people I, once again, failed to embrace this lesson and threw all caution to the wind. I let other people influence me. Note To Self - follow your own heart, not someone else's.

Of course, this lesson applies to everyday life, not just vacation time. As I have mentioned in my posts, I have been struggling since late April (2 months - YIKES! ! !). My Grace Period is over. It is a new month and I feel the time is right to begin again.

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100 More DWL - Day 87 Allow a grace period

Thanks Linda this a very important day's teaching! I do allow myself grace periods when needed.

Phyllis you are right life does hand us challenges sometimes and writing a food diary is a low priority!

Yesterday I was not so 'on plan' after my 2 days out at the Rock Concerts, I was very very thirsty yesterday so had lots of water and a little bit of picking sweet food, couldn't do while I was out! However I try to minimise any grace period but enjoy! emoticon

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Such an encouraging post today.

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Day #87 Allow a grace period (round 2)
I do believe that to continue on a weight loss or weight maintenance plan for the rest of my life, which is my plan, I will need to allow for times of “grace”.
Life has a way of handing us challenges without notice and although I do need to continue healthy eating, sometimes other things become more important than meal planning and set exercise.
Taking a break, even for a day, may be the best option.


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I think a 'grace period' is so important, and as we know, life can be unpredictable. Now, instead of taking time out, I prefer to say I am going to briefly 'pause' ... to allow myself to rest or recuperate, whichever is needed at the time. Allowing this can also be a time to get rested and come back blazing and ready to go again! ..

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Day #87 Allow a grace period
There have been times when it was important to allow for a grace period in my life. When I went through an operation and recently with syncope episodes of passing out.
At the moment I am in between challenges and have decided to take a pause in blogging and tracking daily.
I do however still weigh daily as I have since reading Make Friends with the Scale because I never want to go back and start over.


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9/12/18 4:43 P

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Great posts everyone! When I took to heart, Linda's previous lessons (100 Days of Weight Loss), "Minimize the damage and I had a pause" it made a huge difference in my weight loss/maintenance.

This grace period lesson adds yet another layer to be as kind and forgiving to ourselves as we would be to others when facing life's many challenges~ some good, some extremely difficult. She's right on when she says during these times we need to continue to make as many good choices as we can and to never throw in the towel completely.

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" I don't run to them for 'comfort' all the time either. I feel so good about that. It's a huge step for me."

I know exactly what you mean - and yes, it IS a huge step - great progress.

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I think we all need a grace period at times. I agree with the previous posts too.

Yes, this does follow yesterday's lesson beautifully. The grace period also makes me think of how I approach my eating plan. I no longer 'eliminate' certain foods completely. There are trigger foods for me and I do not have them in the house all the time. I don't allow myself to eat them all the time if I'm eating out. But in the past I tried to 'never eat that again' - Snickers, nuts, chips. Didn't work. I craved those foods. Now I rarely 'crave' them, but I still 'enjoy' them. Hope that makes sense. I don't run to them for 'comfort' all the time either. I feel so good about that. It's a huge step for me.



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emoticon Gloria emoticon emoticon Everyone! messages of hope emoticon .
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My grace period is past 87 days with 2 weeks left...
Few times overeating - overthinking responces problems
eating instead of solving

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Oh Gill.....I hope you can get back on track with sleep......sending positive thoughts your way
Hope you will take a picture of your curtains!

Yes, grace periods help me regroup. Life happens and we need to adjust to cope, and sometimes sit back and change what isn’t working. What I need to remember when I adjust is that I can never give up.......each day is an opportunity to do my best to be healthy.

Thanks to all of you for your inspiring messages........what a great way to start my day! emoticon

One day at a time!


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Day #87 Allow A Grace Period

We have talked about Grace Periods before. I am having a huge one right now while I'm on vacation.

A key point that Linda mentions and which I have not done is that you don't throw in the towel completely. That you still need to pay attention to healthy eating and exercise. I have not been paying attention. Even last night I indulged at dinner with larger portion sizes. Then I followed that with a rich chocolate desert. I actually told myself "Go ahead. Vacation will be over in just 2 days."!

I am not going to beat myself up over this. We will be home by tomorrow night and the first thing on my list for Friday is an exercise class at the Y. After that it will be menu planning and grocery shopping.

Even though I have been terribly non-compliant I can honestly say I am soooo ready to get back to my usual eating pattern and fitness schedule! My Grace Period is coming to an end!

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For me, this one leads on perfectly from yesterday's lesson - talking to the teddy!

I have been experiencing this 'grace period' whilst I deal with the disruption caused by an anti-social neighbour who has been causing me to get sleep-deprived over the past two months. It's very stressful, and very tiring, and I kind of lost my spark - just wanting to flop, stay home, rest all the time.

I realised, reading today's lesson, that I've been allowing myself a grace period. I haven't been over-eating, but I have been allowing myself to do whatever I need to do to nurture and care for myself.

This has meant, more often than not, deciding not to go for a run, or do my strength training - and instead favouring a yoga session or a guided breathing meditation, going for a walk, or just sitting down with a book and cup of tea.

I'm doing what I need to do to get me through this. I cannot expect my usual routines of going to bed and sleeping all night to support me when they are disrupted by outside influences. So I must find other ways to rest and restore myself - and to deal with my stress.

Thank you, Linda, for helping me see that I'm not losing the plot - I'm just having a grace period!



What I have found in the past couple of day (no work this week) is that I've wanted to do more home-based tasks and been quite creative. I started work on making my curtains yesterday - a job I've been putting off for some time. Now that I want to do quiet things, this is a perfect activity!

Edited by: SWEETENUFGILL at: 9/12/2018 (05:31)
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Day 87 Allow a grace period

A grace period doesn’t mean you throw away healthy eating and give up on exercise. You still need to pay attention to those things. But it’s also a time to minimize the damage or take walks that last only ten minutes.

Today

• Identify a recent or even long-ago time when you needed a grace period.
• Write about what it would have been like to forgive yourself and allow grace during this time.
• Consider how you can apply this to any current or recent situation. Record this.

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