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DAY #80 TOO COMFORTABLE - ROUND 2

This is what I posted for our last review:

"Some days I just don't care about working on it. It's so much easier to just let it go." I'm like Linda's example, Darcy, I am comfortable with my daily life. I have not been feeling very desperate. I "only" have 20# I want to lose (today that is 15#). Staying the same, at the weight I am at, isn't so awfully bad and I frequently don't feel like pushing myself. I do whine occasionally about my weight, but the actions required to lose it are short-lived."

I find that I can still come up with that attitude some days. After all, who on earth wants to feel like they are struggling all of the time!

I no longer feel like fear is the driving force behind my stalls.

I like the definition of BOTTOM given - "the moment you decide you want to be happier, healthier, more creative, successful, or fulfilled than you already are". I have mentioned before that when I do come into a stall (for whatever reason) I really can't say what exactly pulls me out of it, but somehow I come to this "moment" as defined and then it is just a matter of taking that first step.

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Day 80 - Too comfortable




You don’t have to go through a health crisis or a dramatic event to hit bottom. Instead, you can create your own version of it right now. Make this the moment you decide to change your life and your future.

Today

• List the fears you have about dieting or losing weight.

My biggest fear is about maintaining my current weight since I have been in maintenance for a year. To get to this point, I’ve worked really hard at nutrition & fitness and incorporating ideas from “Living the Good Life” into my healthy lifestyle. My fear is that because I have lost so much weight I won’t be able to keep it off and will gain back all the lost pounds.




• Label today as the day you “hit bottom.” Write about what that feels like.

My worst day when I would feel like I have “hit bottom” would have me getting on the scale and seeing it show 240 pounds again. That would mean I regained all the weight I had lost. Also, my previous health problems of pre-diabetes, high cholesterol, and high blood pressure will return and put my life at risk for heart attack or stroke.

• Describe what actions you’ll take today to move yourself past being too comfortable.

Today I am at a point where I am feeling too comfortable. I’ve been in a slump lately and life keeps sending more stumbling blocks my way. I’ve slacked off on both nutrition & exercise and tracking while dealing with these issues. I just don’t have the energy to do everything I was doing before. The bad part is I am feeling a little too comfortable with where I am. But, since I’m dealing with a lot of stressful issues that take much of my time, I haven’t added more pressure to myself. I’m hoping that after this week passes, I can regroup and get back on track.

I liked this thought when I read it, “You can either grow or stay the same.  Which will you choose?”



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no doubt tedious detail and not wanting to bore anyone, but something I need to outline and detail for myself. I find that on Spark, lots of times I read what others write and get great ideas, and also one of the greatest Spark benefits to me is thinking through and writing down what I am going to do, which, I suspect, goes into TMI for most Spark readers. On the other hand, the Sparkers I admire, I enjoy reading in great detail what they do to be who they are

Day 80 Too comfortable

You don’t have to go through a health crisis or a dramatic event to hit bottom. Instead, you can create your own version of it right now. Make this the moment you decide to change your life and your future.

Today

• List the fears you have about dieting or losing weight.
• Label today as the day you “hit bottom.” Write about what that feels like.
• Describe what actions you’ll take today to move yourself past being too comfortable.



• List the fears you have about dieting or losing weight.

- I don't like to say I am going to do something and then fail to do it
- I know how to lose weight, that is a temporary interval, I don't know how to stay there, that would be an ongoing forever time span
- It just feels lame to fail when I know how to succeed and I don't
- I don't want to be an obsessive person, I want to have good habits carry me in moderate living - I want to be moderate, at the same time I want to be excellent, is that a conflict?
- moderate eater, that means I don't eat too much, at the same time I want to be an excellent eater, eat nutritious food, prepared healthy, meals on time and don't eat over calorie cap


• Label today as the day you “hit bottom.” Write about what that feels like.

- I will try this. I am already thinking this is excessive thinking, over pumping myself up for eventual failure, but I also think, I have been accumulating skills to help me get to and stay at goal. I was about 30 pounds overweight when I did Beck, I lost 15 pounds then I hit a plateau, then with the 5% challenges I lost 10 pounds, and got off another plateau. I gained back 5 pounds, so have about 10 pounds to lose. Spangling hopefully will be the 3rd time charm to get me there. Along with the skills I have picked up from other attempts, Beck 5% and Spark-shared boosts
- having done some emotional purging on this Spangle challenge and realizing I am not an emotional eater any more (yay, a step forward) and now getting to the part that is really my problem, self-sabotage, I feel the first 79 days were pre-conditioning to get me started on seriously trying to make another attempt to get to goal weight and fitness. In the Beck trek there is pre-conditioning, getting ready to diet, that trek is 42 days, 6 week, and the first 2 weeks are pre-conditioning information before the actual weight-loss initiative starts. Beck does gallop along and is full of very good information, they advise that if you want to get the most benefit to do exactly what they say when they say it, trust them, and sometimes I felt like it was brain washing because of the total acceptance without questioning approach. I did the trek several times, and I can see that to get finished in that time frame and because they know what works, that is one way to do ting. I like the 100 day pace better.
- it feels like I am lying to myself, as I am not really on rock bottom, but I do want to go up from where I am and take another step forward

• Describe what actions you’ll take today to move yourself past being too comfortable.


- way back on this challenge, we put up stickers to visually remind ourselves that we care, when an off-eating rebel mode hits me, my most dominant thought is that I don't care. I have the "I care" stickers on my stove, my fridge, my bathroom mirrors. They have been constantly reminding me that I do care. My this-time strategy is going to be to not do some of the things that make me weary of trying to manage my weight and make me snap into "I don't care" mode. The things I am not going to do is weigh myself (that puts me on an emotional roller coaster), track my calories ( that wears on me) or pre-plan every single night ( I get down on myself if I miss a night). I am gong to stick to my 11-7-11 intermittent fasting plan, which works very well for me, as I am not hungry in the morning and I get a lot done in the morning and I don't have to interrupt for morning breakfast, and I eat breakfast and half of what I usually eat for lunch between 11 and 1, and I feel full because I have eaten a lot. I used to get weary of being hungry all the time when eating below calorie cap 3 meals and 2 snacks a day, because I would have to eat puny amounts while eating so many times to stay under calorie cap, so I never felt full and often felt hungry. Now I eat twice a day and don't snack. Breakfast-lunch between 11 and 1 and a light supper at 6, finish eating by 7pm, don't eat again until 11 am. I am going to try to stay mindful of what I am eating while I am eating it and practice the portions related to my hand

Your palm determines your protein portions.
Your fist determines your veggie portions.
Your cupped hand determines your carb portions.
Your thumb determines your fat portions.

- focus on getting to goal weight, don't get overwhelmed trying to fix everything I need to fix, like getting enough sleep, catching up on projects I have been procrastinating on, doing more in the garden, doing more in the house ...
-not be too hard on myself if things aren't going well, or if I have a backslide, one day at a time and small regrets for yesterday (no regrets are unrealistic, but don't dwell to long on thinking what went wrong and how to fix it and on feeling lame that it happened)

- for me weight management is so much about what is going on in my head - "between the ears" OneKidsMom says

Edited by: JUNEPA at: 6/22/2019 (16:53)
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- Improved fitness and nutrition, energy and confidence are my rewards.
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6/21/19 4:40 P

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I don't know exactly how this fits with today's lesson, but today I had an interesting thing happen recently.

Yesterday I wore a dress to work. It wasn't tight-fitting, but it was kind of figure-hugging - being made of a jersey-type material. I was conscious of standing tall and holding my tummy in most of the day.

This morning, I chose to wear my jeans and a baggy jumper to work.

I think the 'effort' of wearing the dress and being more exposed, led to me 'needing' to cover up again today - definitely going back into my comfort zone!

I've started doing some short exercise workouts on an app called Skimble. I can only manage the first-level of them, but I would really like to see if I can tone up more, and be firmer, slimmer around my mid-region.

I look at women who are slimmer than me and wonder how they do it. I've never, every, managed to be that slim. I think it's probably true that my current weight is my comfortable place - and I prevent myself from leaving it by having regular 'treat-eat' days, and lazy days.

My current plan is to (a) include more strength training in my exercise programme and (b) drink more water

Gill

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6/20/19 9:08 A

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Day 80 Too comfortable

Linda writes “Occasionally you whine about your miserable situation, but you don't do anything different. When you think about starting a weight-loss plan and staying with it, you put off deciding for a while. Of course, by avoiding a decision, you've already made your choice-to stay the same.”

This is where I’ve been for way too long. I will join a challenge the first week of July and in the meantime I WILL make a decision about how to live healthy and happy each day.

Phyllis ~~
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Day #80 Too Comfortable

"Some days I just don't care about working on it. It's so much easier to just let it go." I'm like Linda's example, Darcy,I am comfortable with my daily life. I have not been feeling very desperate. I "only" have 20# I want to lose. Staying the same, at the weight I am at, isn't so awfully bad and I frequently don't feel like pushing myself. I do whine occasionally about my weight, but the actions required to lose it are short-lived.

So am I afraid of something as Linda suggests? I am afraid of failing. Failing does not feel good. I am afraid I am not strong enough to stick with it so that I don't re-gain. I have seen it happen more times than I can count to others I know and I am no different than them.

I also don't like the thought of what will happen if I don't change. The disappointment I will have with myself. I'm having trouble envisioning "hitting bottom" mentally as Linda recommends. Vacation time is a difficult time to make changes.

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I am at a good weight now due to a combination of reasons -- not the least of which is being a member of this team and reading and thinking about these lessons. I've actually lost about 7 pounds from early June when I went for my annual checkup. I had occasion to see my Dr. again today and he commented on it. I'm happy about the loss, and he is too -- because even though my good cholesterol is high, my bad cholesterol was creeping up. So today was a good feeling but also leads to my fear that I can't maintain the loss and that I'll have to face the dr's disappointment at my next June physical. I was 21 BMI in June, and 20 BMI now, so both of those are good so I shouldn't feel so much pressure on myself. But it is a fear of mine that even though this is pretty easy for me now that something will change -- and my appetite will rage out of control -- and I'll be back where I started. I will say, though, that I weigh about 40 pounds less than I did at my highest about 20 years ago. I've had ups and downs since then but the ups are less and less over time. I'm getting better at maintenance.

Hitting bottom feels horrible...hopeless...shameful. I remember hitting bottom during the holidays trying to get dressed for an obligatory occasion and not being able to find ANYTHING out of the closet I felt presentable in. Looking at myself by holding a mirror to reflect from the vanity mirror so I could see my backside -- and then being horrified at my back view. Having to go to the party I was supposed to be co-hosting with my MIL and act like I was having fun. Having to let her comments roll off.

The actions I took today to keep from being too comfortable were to track my food, and to make myself get on the spin bike and do an hour ride even though I kind of really didn't want to. emoticon Feels so good to be done!


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Once again, I have to make the proviso that I am not overweight - so the topic of actually losing weight doesn't really work for me. But maintaining my healthy weight IS the big deal for me!

Fears? Well, I have a fear of being fat. And I'm sure that has deep roots for me; I grew up with the notion that being overweight was a fearful and shameful thing - so putting on weight is associated with shame for me. My family teased and make jokes about me when I was just 25-30lbs heavier than I am now. At a fundamental level I want to avoid any chance of being teased or joked about because of my body size. The fear of being overweight motivates me more than a desire to be slim - if that makes sense.

Hitting bottom? that is when my weight goes up over my self-set firewall weight, or when my clothes start feeling tight. If I imagine that happening today (and it's not hard to imagine it!) then I feel ashamed, miserable, heavy - I want to hide myself away. I also feel powerless to reverse it - it feels so inevitable that this is the way things will go and I'll have to put up with it.

Today, to move myself past feeling too comfortable, I am blogging about my food for the day and abstaining 100% from eating between meals.



Edited by: SWEETENUFGILL at: 9/5/2018 (09:31)
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Day #80 Too comfortable
My fear is that thinking about food, talking about food, and worrying about food will be all that is left between my friends and I. It reminds me of visiting nursing homes where the only subjects being talked about are food and bingo.

Today, my granddaughter’s birthday, is the day I hit the bottom. Although to keep living the life I am now enjoying will take paying attention to my daily choices, I really don’t need to keep chasing any new and improved ways of living.
I just need to stop thinking about the future so much and live healthy today!

Phyllis ~~
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I really don’t have any fears about losing weight, I have fears that my choices don’t help a healthy lifestyle.

Yes.....today is a great day to make a commitment to a healthy lifestyle. I have done it in the past and lost 20 pounds.......I know that inner warrior Gill talks about is always there to push me in the right direction!

Last evening I had dinner with a friend......I ordered a small grilled chicken salad, and after dinner we talked about ice cream emoticon . We decided to get a cone (we call them baby cones) at McDonald’s which costs 50 cents, so you know it’s small. I did have something that wasn’t on my healthy list, but I chose a small portion. Today.........no sweets!

No sweets, no snacks, no seconds...........I can do this! What is your commitment today?

Edited by: GLORIAZ at: 9/5/2018 (06:22)
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Courage to Learn Metabolic Flexibility and ancestral lifestyle. Change-up food and exercise to stimulate fat burning mode
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Day 80 Too comfortable

You don’t have to go through a health crisis or a dramatic event to hit bottom. Instead, you can create your own version of it right now. Make this the moment you decide to change your life and your future.

Today

• List the fears you have about dieting or losing weight.
• Label today as the day you “hit bottom.” Write about what that feels like.
• Describe what actions you’ll take today to move yourself past being too comfortable.

Days 71-80 completed!

You’ve come this far in your 100 days… Don’t stop now. If you’re struggling to stick with it, push yourself to finish one more day. You’ll immediately be another day closer to achieving your weight-loss goals. Just do one more day!

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