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DAY #70 EATING INSTEAD OF THINKING - ROUND 2

Here is what stuck out for me in this lesson:

- When you bury your negative emotions, you can pretend you are over them or even deny they exist!

- Overeating also keeps us from facing the realities of our lives.

- I can avoid looking at what could actually be making me feel the way I do.

Linda tells us that "Once you allow yourself to think about the pain in your life, you will become more willing to feel it".

So I asked myself - Do I bury my feelings? My answer was NO I do not. I do a lot of journaling and thinking. Turning Catholic and learning the skill of Examination of Conscience that they embrace really taught me how to face a lot of things in my life. I am still learning, facing, accepting, but I do not eat instead of thinking.

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Day 70 Eating instead of thinking

Even though it can be very painful, it’s time to take the lid off the box and allow yourself to see what’s there. Once you allow yourself to think about the pain in your life, you will become more willing to feel it. With time, you’ll experience healing and peace instead of eating to push your feelings away.

Today

• Identify an issue or event you don’t want to think about that might be causing eating struggles.
• Plan a time to sit with your thoughts about this issue and allow yourself to feel the emotions that come up.
• Record your insights as well as your ideas on how to deal with this issue instead of eating.



• Identify an issue or event you don’t want to think about that might be causing eating struggles.

Right now my eating struggles are more about lack of discipline in pre-planning and following an eating plan and sometimes, just wanting to eat a lot (gluttony) because I enjoy the taste of the food. I am more or less staying the same weight right now, I would like to lose about 10 pounds. Today, on the gluttony issue, I had one of my favourite desserts, fresh strawberries with whipped cream. Whipped cream is one of my kryptonites, I really like the taste, and I ate more than a moderate portion.

• Plan a time to sit with your thoughts about this issue and allow yourself to feel the emotions that come up.

I have benefited from these last days of working through and feeling some past hurts and emotional situations that arise from close relationships. Just for the sake of trying to find some resolution. In the present, I am feeling mostly pretty good and not feeling the siren call of overeating to soothe my negative feelings.

• Record your insights as well as your ideas on how to deal with this issue instead of eating.

My current emotional issues that cause me distress are not connected to eating, I am not emotional eating at the moment.

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Day 70 - Eating instead of thinking




Even though it can be very painful, it’s time to take the lid off the box and allow yourself to see what’s there. Once you allow yourself to think about the pain in your life, you will become more willing to feel it. With time, you’ll experience healing and peace instead of eating to push your feelings away.

Today

• Identify an issue or event you don’t want to think about that might be causing eating struggles.

Giving up and sacrificing my personal choices when family members use “you should” do whatever and say they really need or want something from me.

Definition - “Acquiescing - Agreeing to do something when you don't really want to in order to please someone else. Example 1: Robert hated the idea of eating sushi but when his friend demanded he try it, he found himself acquiescing.”

It’s kind of funny to see that example about eating sushi because next week I’m expected to go eat sushi at a special birthday celebration. Although sushi has never appealed to me and I really do not want to go, I will go and give it a chance and try to enjoy myself since it is important to my Grandson.

• Plan a time to sit with your thoughts about this issue and allow yourself to feel the emotions that come up.
Self-sacrificing my wishes for those of others
Pushed & manipulated - but, it is meant well and for the good
Negative thoughts & Resistance - but, “Even this, too, shall pass”
Positive thoughts on the happiness of others and giving in to their wishes
Looking at the “big picture” of life, does it really matter if I go or not go
Enjoyment of family & making memories

• Record your insights as well as your ideas on how to deal with this issue
instead of eating.

If I say no and refuse requests, it bothers me.
If I say yes (and do what I really do not want to do), it bothers me.

I had a friend tell me once he could do the things he really did not want to do because he felt he could go anywhere, be with any people, and do anything for an hour and he could relax and handle it just fine and then, after an hour, leave. I had another friend tell me she does things she does not want to do ALL of the time.

My solution is middle of the road...I can go to those events I need to and only stay a short time and leave early.





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Day 70 eating instead of thinking.
My new mantra is think before I bite. Finding I am enjoying each bite more if I think before I put a morsal in my mouth. Each day is an opportunity to put this in practice.

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Phew! We are strong women (I don't think there are any men here at the moment!) - what we have been through - and how we've survived and thrived.

It's been a tiring week for me due to the kind of 'wake up, go to work, come home, go to bed' kind of routines. I've definitely been eating instead of thinking............

Last night (Friday) I finished at 10 pm and came home, and didn't eat or drink anything - even though I wanted to! On Wednesday and Thursday I came home at 10 pm and did eat something I didn't need to eat.

The scale is up and I have a twinge in my back - today i am thinking, and resting, and planning my next move!

In a sense, this does link right back to learned behaviours from childhood. I remember my Mum coming home from her work and cramming food into her mouth - carbs usually. (shift work as an an emergency department nurse - hmm - even similar work situation really - I'm a shift worker with adults with constant needs for support and health crises!)

I saw this on another Sparker's page recently - and it spoke to me!


Yes, when I have strong feelings - even if the strong feeling is 'not feeling anything' - then I do make a decision to eat. Argh!

I have, as Linda suggests, taking time to sit with my thoughts about this issue.

I feel trapped really - I am not willing to make the necessary effort to change my job - I have the belief that there is nothing else out there for me (I'm probably wrong) - and I'm choosing to hang onto my work until I retire (only another 18 months). I am good at what I do - it's the hours that are so very tiring - plus working in a system that is crumbling around us!

So - I need to really use my non-work time well. I need to plan my food menu meticulously. And I'm going to write out that meme and stick it on my kitchen wall!

I also need to use my water bottle - and when I get negative feelings at work I need to DRINK WATER and literally wash them through my system instead of dumping more rubbish in the land-fill of my belly!

You can tell "I've had a belly-full" this week!

I know what works - I need to do it!
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Day 70 Today

•Identify an issue or event you don’t want to think about that might be causing eating struggles.

Growing up with a mentally ill sibling who mistreated me. Self esteem and boundary issues from that which flare up occasionally. The negative voice in my head picking on myself mercilessly.

• Plan a time to sit with your thoughts about this issue and allow yourself to feel the emotions that come up.

My response to this is that I took over on beating myself up. I had a good teacher. But now I have a happy marriage, a nice home, and a good job (in spite of dealing with a troublesome millenial pouting in my face). My feeling at this point is that living well is the best revenge. And I'm not hurting anyone.

• Record your insights as well as your ideas on how to deal with this issue instead of eating.

Make sure I take proper care of myself and continue to move towards my goals.

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Days 61 - 70 ~ Manage emotions without food ~
Emotional box - Revive feelings - What do I feel? - Courage to feel - Showing emotions - Kicking kettles - Let it go - Guilt, not an emotion - Hurt feelings
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Day 70 Eating (off plan) instead of thinking
Adjusting to "New Way of Eating!" takes time. Recover from minor slips faster.
On the bright side --- DH is eating the same foods and fasting.
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1. Take Baby Steps. : Sleep 7+, fatigue can lead to overeating
* Eat meals seated at a table, without distractions. *
* Start hungry - stop comfortably full
* Eat smaller portions of calorie-dense foods (sugar & starch)
* Larger portions of water-rich foods (broth, mixed greens, and veggies)
* Flavor with spices, herbs, vinegars, mustard, or lemon.

2. Become More Mindful : study nutrition and read food labels

3. Make a Plan; Be Specific. (below pyramids)

4. Tackle a New Mini-Goal Each Week. : Water! 6+ track with pennies by sink

5. Be Realistic, don't expect too much.
It takes about a month for any new action to become habit. Slow and steady wins the race, along with a dose of vigilance.

6. Practice Stress Management: exercise, meditation * "Don't fall back into bad habits during periods of stress or use food to cope with the situation."

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The way people use to eat before stores got full of C.R.A.P - all about choices
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Eliminations : artificial sweeteners, sugar, grains, lectins, nightshades, dairy, processed foods cured meats (bacon, sausages), inflammatory foods
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I'm old friends with this lesson. Years of staying with someone because I thought I should, best for the kids, religious reasons (which wasn't really true - it was my interpretation), felt like a failure . . . I could go on. Finally I left. By then my kids were in high school and both said "What took you so long, mom?" What??? I had told myself I was doing it for them. What did Babs do? Found comfort in food. Beat myself up. Lost all self esteem.

Yes, I know all about 'eating instead of thinking . .' But that was then. Today I am a different person. That was years ago, but it took years to work through it and sometimes those old 'comfort' issues come out again for other reasons.

This is such an emotional book, full of wonderful lessons and tools for self help. Of course, the 'self help' comes with my SP friends. So it isn't all 'self.' I'm kinda talking in circles, but hopefully you understand.

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100 More DWL, Day 70 Eating instead of thinking

Even though it can be very painful, it’s time to take the lid off the box and allow yourself to see what’s there. Once you allow yourself to think about the pain in your life, you will become more willing to feel it. With time, you’ll experience healing and peace instead of eating to push your feelings away.

Today

• Identify an issue or event you don’t want to think about that might be causing eating struggles.
• Plan a time to sit with your thoughts about this issue and allow yourself to feel the emotions that come up.
• Record your insights as well as your ideas on how to deal with this issue instead of eating.


Days 61-70 completed!

You’ve come this far in your 100 days… Don’t stop now. If you’re struggling to stick with it, push yourself to finish one more day. You’ll immediately be another day closer to achieving your weight-loss goals. Just do one more day!

I'll have to return to this lesson when I feel like it applies to me. I'm not having any struggles with my eating. I'm comfortable with my eating and exercise plan and healing to the best of my ability.

Joy is a Choice. Choose joy moment by moment.

When all else fails, persistence prevails.

Injoy:) Carolyn

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Today

• Identify an issue or event you don’t want to think about that might be causing eating struggles.
there are a few, but right now my house is not how I'd like it to be right now, and funds are way too low to do much of anything about it (furniture, carpet, paint, and I need a new stove)
• Plan a time to sit with your thoughts about this issue and allow yourself to feel the emotions that come up.
Frustration and anger at myself surface first because I could have planned for this time and been saving up for it... then helplessness because right now there is nothing I can do about it but wait and finally start saving... then resign to the fact that for now, it is what it is and it will get better.... eventually.
• Record your insights as well as your ideas on how to deal with this issue instead of eating.
Write it out! (I know I say this a lot :)

~ Renee ~

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Gosh! Susan! Very brave of you to share this painful story, but thank you. I am reassured knowing you now have a safe and good life with a loving partner.
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Gosh this one hit the nail on the head, again! This book is really taking us to places of inner exploration I never expected.

Linda gives us so much of herself, thank you!

Until just before my 12th Birthday, I had no over eating issues or issues with being overweight. I was a twig, an active tom boy who had to be called in the house to eat and ate very little. I'd rather be climbing trees or running around the hollow (holler to some) than be sitting at the table.

3 weeks before my 12th Birthday, my Father was murdered. The person responsible has never been found or arrested. Mom's way of suddenly being thrust into raising 4 girls on her own, at the age of 42, was to become an alcoholic. I spent 2 years of my life doing my homework in the back room of a bar whilst Mom drank herself into oblivion. It was horrid and I had no control over it. Dinner those nights was whatever toaster sandwich the bar had to offer, and bottles of sugary soda pop and potato chips.

After 2 years of that, her old childhood sweetheart sent her a letter, a pen pal relationship began , and at the end of 4 months, my older sister and I moved with Mom to Michigan at the end of the school year.

Now I had a step-father , step-sister and step-brother, a new school system to start 9th grade in, a totally new way of life. We moved from a rural setting where most of our neighbors were our relatives, Grandma next door, Aunts, Uncles and Cousins just down the road and often many cousins in the same grades at school, to inter-city Detroit.

I will stop there, but I know that a lot of my turning to food for comfort stems from that.

I can't plan or change the past. I CAN take care of ME today, tomorrow and always. I CAN choose other healthier things to do rather than dwell on the pain.

Side Note....it's day 70 already! It seems like we just got started on this journey. Kudos to those who have stuck with it. Onward & Downward!

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Day 70 Eating instead of thinking. I will remind myself that I have gotten over hurt feelings in the past. Linda says, "With time, you’ll experience healing and peace instead of eating to push your feelings away."

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Day #70 Eating Instead Of Thinking

The title of this lesson really through me for a loop. I thought Linda was going to tell us to STOP THINKING so much and START DOING! Instead she asks us to think some more. I THINK we have been doing a lot of thinking. I have put so many of my emotional issues to rest. I have dealt with them. Feel resolved. I don't like constantly dragging them back up to the surface. They are done, over with, and there is nothing more to do about them or say about them.

I CHOOSE TO FOCUS ON THE JOY IN MY LIFE INSTEAD OF PAST ISSUES WHICH I HAVE RESOLVED! I think a lot of this comes from all of the work I have done in building my feelings of self-worth. I will no longer let anything or anyone take that away from me. My life is good and I am happy!

So what causes me to eat off plan? Chaos is the biggest culprit. When there is too much commotion going on around me.

One example I can think of is the times when our family gathers for dinner. With 2 young children at the table there is always chaos. It drives me nuts. I hate the idea of excluding them from being part of experience, but it would be better for me if only I had some place else to seat them. Sometimes my DD does feeds them ahead of time and I am always grateful.

Another example that comes to mind is when I am in a large group of people such as a party. Everyone talking. So much noise. I can almost feel the tension building within me. Too ease this feeling I get some food to eat, find a seat, and bury the noise with all of the high cal snack foods that can be so nurturing. In a crowd this is a more acceptable behavior then secluding myself in some quiet corner would be.

So for me it is not always emotions that lead me to stray. More likely it is my A.D.D. brain that can't stayed focused because of the chaos surrounding me.

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Day #70 Eating instead of thinking

My issue of procrastination came up for me in the 100 Days book when I realized I was hiding my feelings. I had always said “ I just love to eat” when the real issue is my feelings of being afraid I will make the wrong decision so I let time pass until a decision no longer needs made.

When I sit with this I can see all the good I’ve missed in my life by “hiding out” with food instead of facing those feelings. All the events, ideas not acted on, the fun I gave up just because I didn’t decide to act until it was too late.

Today I will hand deliver the Birthday card I didn’t get in the mail because I was waiting for hubby to do it!
Today I will buy the appliance I want even if I’m not done cleaning the entire kitchen!
Today I will go to the local stage play with my best friend, even if it’s pouring down rain!
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Oh hell! Linda's lesson presented me with a mirror of myself today!

"Eating a whole pizza or another piece of chocolate cake can shove even the most painful feelings deep inside." Yup - for me it will probably be a big bag of potato chips, or a packet of cookies!

"Overeating also keeps us from facing the realities of our lives.................She said, "As long as I feel lousy about my weight, I can avoid looking at that could actually making me feel that way in my life." Yup - I'll think about things AFTER I've eating these chips/cookies etc.

Hmm.....

• Identify an issue or event you don’t want to think about that might be causing eating struggles.

My whole life? No, guess that won't do an an answer, and it's not true anyway............ I think I worry about being old and lonely, and about being boring and uninteresting, and about having no-one who cares about me, and nothing to do really apart from day-to-day survival. What's it all about really? So - my issue is - lack of real meaning? Not having any real passion for anything.

• Plan a time to sit with your thoughts about this issue and allow yourself to feel the emotions that come up.

I try to take a little time every morning to sit quietly before I start my day. I keep a Bullet Journal and a list of things I want/need to do, including ideas.

• Record your insights as well as your ideas on how to deal with this issue instead of eating.

My insight is that this is real life - most people feel the same. The wonderful reports of spectacular lives I read on the internet are only the highlights in a person's life, they are kind of 'fake news' and 'photo-shopped' mostly. Everyone has to get up, do laundry, wash dishes, buy birthday presents, think about bills, Xmas, putting the rubbish out, deciding what to do next, what leisure activities to pursue, what books to read, what films to see, what events to attend, what exercises to do, where to do their shopping, checking their financial situation, cope with illness, prepare for losses and disasters, contemplate death.

How to deal with these issues - keep on keeping on. One thing at a time. Try to focus on the here-and-now and look for rainbows. Live in the moment. Choose to create value and do good.

A packet of cookies or a bag of chips really doesn't fit the bill!




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Day 70 Eating instead of thinking

Even though it can be very painful, it’s time to take the lid off the box and allow yourself to see what’s there. Once you allow yourself to think about the pain in your life, you will become more willing to feel it. With time, you’ll experience healing and peace instead of eating to push your feelings away.

Today

• Identify an issue or event you don’t want to think about that might be causing eating struggles.
• Plan a time to sit with your thoughts about this issue and allow yourself to feel the emotions that come up.
• Record your insights as well as your ideas on how to deal with this issue instead of eating.


Days 61-70 completed!

You’ve come this far in your 100 days… Don’t stop now. If you’re struggling to stick with it, push yourself to finish one more day. You’ll immediately be another day closer to achieving your weight-loss goals. Just do one more day!

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