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Day 60 The gift of yourself

Consider letting go of fretting about yourself and your own weight-loss goals. Instead, focus on your ability to support and encourage others. Think about the words you need to hear, then give these words away to someone else.

Today

• Find people who are trying to lose weight. Encourage them and tell them you know they can be successful. Describe their reactions.
• Send out five “I’m thinking of you” cards or “You can do it” emails.
• Record your thoughts about how it felt to share the gift of yourself.


Find people who are trying to lose weight. Encourage them and tell them you know they can be successful. Describe their reactions.

I have been trying to encourage my sister ( age 62 and recovering from chemotherapy and a successful stem cell transplant and not able to be active for the past 8 years due to her bone marrow failure, a healthy weight), my brother (age 72 and very sedentary lifestyle, recently discovered to be suffering from hypothyroidism and high cholesterol and obese) and my brother's friend Bob (recently recovered from an almost total kidney failure due to stones blocking urine exit, pre-type 2 diabetic, obese) to exercise.

I found a personal trainer who is the bomb, she is very good at making adaptive routines that are challenging but easy to start with. She is the kindest person. I don't think I can oversell her. I told my charges, the three above, that this trainer is very knowledgeable and will start slowly and they will not believe the difference it will make in a few months. We are now on week 3, and they are all on board and really liking the trainer and the results.


• Send out five “I’m thinking of you” cards or “You can do it” emails.

I am working on my three, and I tell them in person and go with them to the training sessions

• Record your thoughts about how it felt to share the gift of yourself.

It took me months to set up this scenario and convince my three to go. Now, basking in the current success, may it continue, I feel like my mission in life is to encourage others to improve their health through exercise :)
Two of mine are overweight, all three need to exercise for better fitness and health.

It's not only about losing weight, it is also about cultivating a fit body.

In my case, I am trying to eat more on plan and be as fit as I can ... and ... be a good example to my charges.

Edit return after reading some of the other posts

This post is supposed to be about encouraging people in a kind way, in a way we would like to be talked to and would respond to, to lose weight.

My two overweight charges, when we talk about weigh loss strategies, I acknowledge first of all that weight loss is difficult for everyone and we have to find a way that works for us, as individuals. I don't want to say anything to discourage them and try to find a way to make it a positive adventure. I am not obese, but I am not at my goal weight either.


Edited by: JUNEPA at: 6/11/2019 (02:38)
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- Improved fitness and nutrition, energy and confidence are my rewards.
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A PH (personal high) is the main goal, a PB is the sometime icing on the cake.
Never underestimate the inevitability of gradualness.
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Sue, I try to remind myself to do something for someone else every day and I also remind myself that doing something for someone else is also doing something for me because it all comes back around. Hope all your kindnesses return to you!

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DAY #60 THE GIFT OF YOURSELF - ROUND 2

I have some mixed feelings about this lesson. In today's world there seems to be a lot of "all about me" attitudes. I spend a lot of time thinking and doing for others (although not weight loss focused) and this "me" attitude is hard for me to understand. DH says I do too much for others and I should do more for myself, but I just can't seem to help myself. It just seems to come naturally to me. My brain starts whirling and before you know it I have a plan in place. I have a friend who puts me to shame when it comes to "doing for others". Since today's topic is weight loss specific I will keep my answers focused there.

FIND PEOPLE WHO ARE TRYING TO LOSE WEIGHT. ENCOURAGE THEM AND TELL THEM YOU KNOW THEY CAN BE SUCCESSFUL. DESCRIBE THEIR REACTIONS:

In my "real" world there frequently is plenty of talk about weight loss, but little action. I have two girlfriends who specifically are weight loss oriented. I have stopped asking them "How are things going?" or giving any kind of encouragement because it doesn't seem to render any kind of conversation or other benefits.

I think we have plenty of opportunities here on SP to encourage others in their weight loss journeys even though I don't think we do a very good job of talking about our weight loss struggles. And, of course, all encouragement is appreciated here. Who doesn't like a kind word!

SEND OUT 5 "I'M THINKING OF YOU" or "YOU CAN DO IT" MESSAGES:

1. Message to one friend asking her to join me at the Y this week for some cardio.
2. Message to one friend asking her what day she is available to walk.
3. "I'm Thinking Of You" Spark Goodie to 1 friend.
4. "You Can Do It' Spark Goodie to 1 friend.
5. "You Can Do It' emails to 2 Spark friends.

RECORD YOUR THOUGHTS ABOUT HOW IT FELT TO SHARE THE GIFT OF YOURSELF:

I frequently remind myself that we are all human with the same feelings. As Linda puts it - Think about the words YOU need to hear, and then give those words away to SOMEONE ELSE! Sharing a tiny ray of hope with someone else will nearly always brighten your own spirit as well.

For a period I was actually tracking myself to make sure I made some kind of meaningful contact every day with either friend, family, or both. I need to get back to this and ask myself every morning - WHAT CAN I DO FOR SOMEONE ELSE TODAY?



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Great ideas, Marilyn! emoticon You are a great gift!

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Day 60 - The gift of yourself



Consider letting go of fretting about yourself and your own weight-loss goals. Instead, focus on your ability to support and encourage others. Think about the words you need to hear, then give these words away to someone else.



Today

• Find people who are trying to lose weight. Encourage them and tell them you know they can be successful. Describe their reactions.

Sent out 5 encouraging posts to 5 SparkFriends.

• Send out five “I’m thinking of you” cards or “You can do it” emails.

Sent out 5 “I’m thinking of you” and “You can do it” messages.

• Record your thoughts about how it felt to share the gift of yourself.

The feeling of sending encouraging and friendly thoughts to others was very uplifting to my spirit. I added a new daily task to my Spark start page “Plan Your Day Tasks” to remind myself to “Send words of encouragement” to other fellow Sparkers.





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The most effective sleeping pill--peace of mind.
The main reason my past diets failed--lack of motivation.
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The gift of yourself

Hard to believe this is day 60, I've missed so many days. The gift of myself.....that took some real introspection this time. I've been fighting depression caused mostly by coming to terms with the fact that I have MG and my lifestyle has changed so much. I'm doing better though and although I pledge to get more active with the team and in other ways, I will probably still have periods of time when I just don't do the things I should.

This lesson is so appropriate for me now because it reminds me that I still have gifts to offer. I can continue to be the caring and supportive person I have always been and I need to start spreading that around again. I've read all of your messages for today (even last year's) and once again you team members have inspired me!

Thanks so much...my smile is back!

Edited by: LIVINTODAY at: 5/26/2019 (11:41)
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5/25/19 3:56 A

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Those were lovely things Gill, sometimes the things you consider 'little' to you can be 'huge' and very needed to someone else. emoticon

Day 60 The gift of yourself

Consider letting go of fretting about yourself and your own weight-loss goals. Instead, focus on your ability to support and encourage others. Think about the words you need to hear, then give these words away to someone else.

I am on various social media sites related to 'healthy eating' and well being so try to send messages regularly to people congratulating them on their success or encouraging them to continue especially when things aren't going so well. Sometimes I get a comment back and that encourages me and gives me a good feeling.

Yesterday my girl and I called into the care home where we go to see an old lady I met last year, we try to go once a week if only for 15 minutes and we always take her Jaffa Cake biscuits (she doesn't like to eat much) and make her smile! My girl and I often don't want to go but always feel pleased that we have been!

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5/24/19 4:56 P

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that is so lovely

I have to remind myself quite often that just 'being me' is good enough........... I'm afraid the habit of comparing myself to others is still quite entrenched. But I'm learning to value myself better.

I can't do the activity that Linda suggests - sending encouragement to people losing weight. I think we do this all the time here on Spark people by reading, commenting, goodies etc.

Today, I went with a friend to listen to a talk at the art gallery. She wouldn't have gone if I hadn't told her about it - she likes to go to the gallery. Going together is something we've started doing regularly - it does us both good.

This evening I had a message from another friend to say she was just home (from visiting her mum) - I called her back, and we're going to the cinema together on Monday after we both finish work. She likes company to do this, and I'm happy to go with her.

Both these things are giving the gift of myself, because I'd quite happily go to the art gallery talk on my own, and to the cinema on my own, but each of those two friends like to do things with company. By giving them my company, I get the reward of friendship, feeling valued and appreciated, and strengthen the connections.

Edited by: SWEETENUFGILL at: 5/24/2019 (16:57)
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5/24/19 9:23 A

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How strange that this is today's lesson. It's so true too!

After dinner last night my granddaughter (age 13) was working on her dances. After awhile she asked if we could go to Starbucks. She said she'd like to go inside, drink our drinks (she had some fruit flavored drink) and write in her journal. I thought - what a little thing to ask. It's only 5 minutes from the house! She was making a bucket list for the summer. Most things were small - do walks for charity, take walks with her brother and take pictures (they both like photography), go swimming, have sleepovers - all doable. She was so happy sipping her drink, making her list and talking to me that I felt so good. So happy and so 'blessed' to have her in my life. Now those are common feelings, but when I read this morning's lesson it reminded me of last night and how the rest of my evening felt 'special' because I gave the 'gift of myself' to someone else.

I think it builds us up. Makes us feel good. Makes us want to continue feeling good. It's a wonderful lesson.


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5/24/19 7:32 A

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Day 60 Encouragement for Spark Friends
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You can do it, I know you can,
I trust and believe in your plan.
It has been processed in your mind,
The ideal path, you shall find.

It's clear that you have what it takes,
You simply won't need any brakes.
Since you have so much passion inside,
This dream of yours will be a special ride.

You can do it, I know you can,
I'm your first and biggest fan.
One more thing I'd like to say,
Enjoy the journey - day by day ~ Anita

Coming here for daily motivation gives meaning to my Health Quest.
~ I receive great ideas to improve daily routines.
Thank you all for sharing your knowledge and kindness emoticon


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5/24/19 7:26 A

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Day #60 The Gift Of Yourself
As my house fills up for the family holiday weekend I plan to give the gift of attention to each person. I will do my best as I think of all the little ones running every which way.


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100 More DWL, Day 60 The gift of yourself

Consider letting go of fretting about yourself and your own weight-loss goals. Instead, focus on your ability to support and encourage others. Think about the words you need to hear, then give these words away to someone else.

Today

• Find people who are trying to lose weight. Encourage them and tell them you know they can be successful. Describe their reactions.
• Send out five “I’m thinking of you” cards or “You can do it” emails.
• Record your thoughts about how it felt to share the gift of yourself.

The I need to hear: 'You are being successful by making healthy choices day by day. Keep putting one foot in front of the other and the results will follow. They may not show immediately, but ultimately choosing this lifestyle will take you to your goal and enable you to maintain it. You're doing a great job. Keep on keeping on. Show yourself patience, kindness, compassion and refrain from negative self-talk or criticism. I'm proud of you and how hard you're working."

I'm going to share this in my blog today after I send the positive 'You can do it' emails.

How does it feel to share the gift of myself? I'm not sure yet. Initially, it helps knowing I might be able to encourage someone else in their journey. I know there are times when someone else's encouragement helps me.


Days 51-60 completed!

You’ve come this far in your 100 days… Don’t stop now. If you’re struggling to stick with it, push yourself to finish one more day. You’ll immediately be another day closer to achieving your weight-loss goals. Just do one more day!

Joy is a Choice. Choose joy moment by moment.

When all else fails, persistence prevails.

Injoy:) Carolyn

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Today

• Find people who are trying to lose weight. Encourage them and tell them you know they can be successful. Describe their reactions.
• Send out five “I’m thinking of you” cards or “You can do it” emails.
• Record your thoughts about how it felt to share the gift of yourself.

I do this already, and it feels great to lift others up and give them support!

~ Renee ~

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Day 60 - The gift of yourself

I remember saying to my husband long ago, "I am so over being a good example for the children!!!!!" Yep! After years and years of conscientiously striving to always be a good example, I decided they had to know the "real" me before they would be able to freely be "real".

I'm sure they were at least in their 30s by then and living in angst over decisions poorly made or roads left untaken. The 30s are like that. Now they are nearly 50 and they know the "real" me with all my certainties and doubts. No...some things don't change...I still don't swear around them or anyone else...I'm still a law-abiding person..except for occasional speeding...

I still like country music and classical music but my kids now know that I love the Jefferson Airplane, the Eagles, the Police, Bob Seger and the Silver Bullet Band, and even the Sex Pistols...Were they shocked? Yes but most of those groups were huge in the 70s and 80s when I was in my twenties and thirties and I think my kids just thought I had never existed until I was at least 40.

Now I have grandchildren and a great. I make sure that they get the gift of myself. My real self. I try to let them know that I've had failures, uncertainties, losses along with fun, successes, great joy and dreams...and that I still have plans and dreams and that their life will not end or result in a deep rut when they turn 30.

I'm also giving me the gift of myself and I like myself much better than I did 30 years ago.

Wanda

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8/17/18 8:31 A

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Day #60 The Gift Of Yourself

What a coincidence! I just wrote in my post for yesterday's lesson that when I am feeling like "there isn't enough" is when I make an extra effort to remember that some one else is probably feeling the exact same way!


When I am feeling down and gloomy I have found that it really works to life my spirits when I think about some one else and/or do some extra acts of kindness or write a list of several things I have to be grateful for.

You are all very special to me and I am very grateful to be part of this team!

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Day 60 the gift of yourself
I send out at least 10 cards a week to various people for various issues. One person is on weight Watchers and loves the new program and says my cards are a real encouragement. Other cards are those going through the empty nest, loss of husband, parents being put in nursing home, one her family moved from Michigan to Wyoming, those going through surgery, physical therapy, birthday, anniversary I am known as the card lady encourager and my way to do something

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That 's started my day right, Maribeth, thank you!

I am not sending cards to friends on weight loss journeys in real life. But I will make a point of giving positive comments when I see people making healthy choices today.

I have been Sparked by a Spark buddy to go for a walk this evening.

Gill

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Days 51 -60 ~ ~ Fix the real needs ~ ~
~ Emotional Needs ~ The food fix ~ Taking care of needs
Please comfort me ~ Food as reward ~ I'm so bored
~ People make me eat ~Grieve your progress
When there isn’t enough ~ The gift of yourself

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Day 60 The gift of yourself

Consider letting go of fretting about yourself and your own weight-loss goals. Instead, focus on your ability to support and encourage others. Think about the words you need to hear, then give these words away to someone else.

Today

• Find people who are trying to lose weight. Encourage them and tell them you know they can be successful. Describe their reactions.
• Send out five “I’m thinking of you” cards or “You can do it” emails.
• Record your thoughts about how it felt to share the gift of yourself.


Days 51-60 completed!

You’ve come this far in your 100 days… Don’t stop now. If you’re struggling to stick with it, push yourself to finish one more day. You’ll immediately be another day closer to achieving your weight-loss goals. Just do one more day!

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